[Justamom]

I had a very bad experience with anal years ago. My husband and I were not experienced and well no lube no prep tons of pain and bleeding. He desperately wants to try again and I want to please him but I am terrified. How do I let go of the fear?

[rcoreyus]

Anal isn't for everyone, some women really enjoy it, but others never do. If you really want to do this, then of course use lots of lube and go slow - make sure the he will stop if you are in pain at any point. (didn't he know you were in pain the last time?). You can also practice yourself with a toy to get used to the feeling.

Is he willing to do anything you ask for in bed to please you?

[LisaW1991]

I agree, if you REALLY want to, then you'll figure out a way, but if you REALLY don't, then I think its perfectly OK to say its not for you.

I don't like it at all, and now the answer is always a firm "No, let's do other things together". When I get married, this will already be very clear long before we get married.

I know people do not always agree that pre-marital sex is a right for them, but it sure does help get to know what a person likes\dislikes during sex. A girl I know recently got married and they decided to wait until they got married to have sex. Now they are kinda struggling because what they like is very differnent. She wants to "make love" and he wants to f u c k. Meaning she wants sex to be filled with love, and he's mostly interested in having sex that gives him very intense orgasms. Anyway, if they had sex before they go married, they would have sorted through their sexual differences, or not sorted through them. If they couldn't, they probably wouldn't get married. If they can't now, they'll probably get divorced...