[Callie]

I recently just got sexually involved with a friend, and he always wants to do anal. I had never done it before and as of now we have done it 3 times. It's never a planned hook-up and it always happens when we've been drinking. Every time we do it though there is always a poop issue. Not always alot but just most recently we had been drinking ALOT and there was an accident. I have heard from a acquaintance that used to date him that said he always wanted anal from her too and I guess I just settled into doing it to please him, and i admit I was curious myself. Having been drunk I wasn't prepared for it and somewhere along the line I pooped on him. I was/am completely mortified, and when I got up he asked me "is it a mess?" When I said yeah he helped me get my sheets off and we got into the shower together. When we went back to my bed we started having sex again and he still wanted anal from me. I am so shy to begin with and this just makes me want to climb under a rock! He seemed calm about the situation, but I can't help but to wonder is he is completely turned off or disgusted. When he left later on he said "you might want to check your blankets." My question is does a guy who obviously isn't new to anal sex expect and tolerate these things? I don't know what to do. Should i apologize, or let him bring it up, or avoid him? Ugh.

[naaz]

I am telling from my experience,
Once i was having sex with my friends in doggy style, while he was riding he started poking his finger into my *******, then he took out the penis from my ***** and started to enter the ******* but he could enter as it was tight and he was huge, i never had had anal sex before as he was insisting me i agreed to his request, i grabbed my bag and i had a vaseline told him to put in my *******. He did but it took him about five minutes to enter and there was a lot of pain for me and for one week i had pain there and also with passing of stools i got pain.

[CoolBreeze]

I recently just got sexually involved with a friend, and he always wants to do anal. I had never done it before and as of now we have done it 3 times. It's never a planned hook-up and it always happens when we've been drinking. Every time we do it though there is always a poop issue. Not always alot but just most recently we had been drinking ALOT and there was an accident. I have heard from a acquaintance that used to date him that said he always wanted anal from her too and I guess I just settled into doing it to please him, and i admit I was curious myself. Having been drunk I wasn't prepared for it and somewhere along the line I pooped on him. I was/am completely mortified, and when I got up he asked me "is it a mess?" When I said yeah he helped me get my sheets off and we got into the shower together. When we went back to my bed we started having sex again and he still wanted anal from me. I am so shy to begin with and this just makes me want to climb under a rock! He seemed calm about the situation, but I can't help but to wonder is he is completely turned off or disgusted. When he left later on he said "you might want to check your blankets." My question is does a guy who obviously isn't new to anal sex expect and tolerate these things? I don't know what to do. Should i apologize, or let him bring it up, or avoid him? Ugh.

First of all don't do anything without your full and conscious consent. Drinking beyond a certain point is not a good idea, if you plan to have good sex. For anal, include enemas in your routine. They are generally good for your health and really help make anal a lot of fun. Your boy friend should not make demands which you are not comfortable with. Just because a previous partner had a particular inclination is no reason for you to consent to the same. The important thing is what you want. There is no harm in experimenting but it should be done without anyone applying pressure on you to submit. You have to be in the driving seat for your own sexuality and how it develops.

[CoolBreeze]

I am telling from my experience,
Once i was having sex with my friends in doggy style, while he was riding he started poking his finger into my **************, then he took out the penis from my ********** and started to enter the ************** but he could enter as it was tight and he was huge, i never had had anal sex before as he was insisting me i agreed to his request, i grabbed my bag and i had a vaseline told him to put in my **************. He did but it took him about five minutes to enter and there was a lot of pain for me and for one week i had pain there and also with passing of stools i got pain.

You should understand that we women own our bodies and should act that way. No one has the right to do anything without first having your clear approval. It also shows how sensitive your partner is towards your emotions and feelings if they don't try to understand beforehand, what your likes and dislikes are. As for alternative probing of both orifices, avoid it since it's a hygiene issue. Unless you are experienced enough with enema usage and how to do anal properly my advice is to postpone it. And please don't allow anyone to force you into doing anything that hurts you afterwards.

[Claret]

Naaz, I think the words you are looking for are "anus" and "vagina". It makes reading the post so much easier and is the proper terminology. We are adults here and I believe, as long a the words are used in the proper context then you may use them here when posting.
Callie, it's very often the normal to have excrement when performing anal sex. The only way to ensure this doesn't happen or to minimize the amount would be to have a bowel movement prior to having anal sex, and/or a suppository to clear out the anal passage. If he isn't bothered by it, then I don't see a problem, unless you are bothered by it.
One word of caution. I hope you used protection when you had the anal sex and separate protection (I'm talking about a safe) when you had vaginal sex. Anal sex can transmit micro-organisms from the anus to the vagina and these can be deadly in the wrong environment. Additionally, you can still get all sexually transmitted diseases through anal sex alone. This includes HPV, aids and many others. It sounds as if you both have active sex lives apart from each other, and it probably would be best to be tested periodically for all STDs.

[CoolBreeze]

I would suggest that you read Nina Hartley's "Guide to Anal Sex". There is the advanced version which you can read as well. I am quite sure you will find the dos and don'ts from her books.

[texasgal]

I recently just got sexually involved with a friend, and he always wants to do anal. I had never done it before and as of now we have done it 3 times. It's never a planned hook-up and it always happens when we've been drinking. Every time we do it though there is always a poop issue. Not always alot but just most recently we had been drinking ALOT and there was an accident. I have heard from a acquaintance that used to date him that said he always wanted anal from her too and I guess I just settled into doing it to please him, and i admit I was curious myself. Having been drunk I wasn't prepared for it and somewhere along the line I pooped on him. I was/am completely mortified, and when I got up he asked me "is it a mess?" When I said yeah he helped me get my sheets off and we got into the shower together. When we went back to my bed we started having sex again and he still wanted anal from me. I am so shy to begin with and this just makes me want to climb under a rock! He seemed calm about the situation, but I can't help but to wonder is he is completely turned off or disgusted. When he left later on he said "you might want to check your blankets." My question is does a guy who obviously isn't new to anal sex expect and tolerate these things? I don't know what to do. Should i apologize, or let him bring it up, or avoid him? Ugh.

Don't be embarrassed that sort of thing is to be expected. I just recently decided to start experimenting with my husband. I never used to give anal any thought but he is very gentle and makes me feel extremely comfortable that way we both can enjoy. Its awesome u want to please ur man just make sure he is pleasing you to

[LisaW1991]

I am telling from my experience,
Once i was having sex with my friends in doggy style, while he was riding he started poking his finger into my **************, then he took out the penis from my ********** and started to enter the ************** but he could enter as it was tight and he was huge, i never had had anal sex before as he was insisting me i agreed to his request, i grabbed my bag and i had a vaseline told him to put in my **************. He did but it took him about five minutes to enter and there was a lot of pain for me and for one week i had pain there and also with passing of stools i got pain.

Yeck.... that's like something I might see in porn movie.

[niji]

I am telling from my experience,
Once i was having sex with my friends in doggy style, while he was riding he started poking his finger into my **************, then he took out the penis from my ********** and started to enter the ************** but he could enter as it was tight and he was huge, i never had had anal sex before as he was insisting me i agreed to his request, i grabbed my bag and i had a vaseline told him to put in my **************. He did but it took him about five minutes to enter and there was a lot of pain for me and for one week i had pain there and also with passing of stools i got pain.

Is the pain gone after 1 week? I had my first time sex in both v*********** and an****** last Sunday. It's Friday now and the pain in both isn't gone. I am very worried about it.

[jns]

niji, I answered on your thread, but this makes me think the guy you were with was an animal. He should have never done this. He should have been slow and gentle and probably stuck to vaginal sex, until a later time when you were up for anal sex (if you ever were).