[HisGirl]

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My husband is a blow job connoisseur-LOL! He gets 2-3 a week start to finish. I don't have any questions about technique. After 13 years of marriage, I have the technique he likes down to an art. I am wondering however, what do you do right after the bj? I always swallow so there's no mess, but I take a little time- only about 30 seconds- to clean up any juices that I may have missed (heaven forbid!) and to give him some little kisses on his thighs and abdomen. He's never given me any direction on what to do afterward and I'm wondering what you ladies do and what the men like afterward? Is it best to just leave the area right after or do some cleaning up? Do men even care either way? Do you like to spend extra time there or just want it over with? I would spend more time, but I don't because I think maybe he wants to move on or get back to what he was doing.

What are your thoughts and practices?

Thanks.

[caster]

As a man I like for my wife to play "in the area" until I go flaccid, even better, but rare, is to play long enough to start getting hard again, usually only 3-5 minutes to start getting hard, but not ready for sex. Then she'll get up leaving me hard while I clean up and get dressed. The little tease...

[a_dub]

Sounds like you really know how to suck him off. Your husband is a lucky guy. If he's happy and doesn't complain, he must be enjoying it.

[jns]

I've never climaxed from a blowjob, so my response is going to be in a different direction. What I would want the most is to reverse positions and for me to get a face full, preferable moist and fragrant.

[HisGirl]

Hmmm, good ideas!

Caster, I don't know if I could leave him hard like that, I'd feel so guilty I'd have to start all over again! Ha!

a dub, you're probably right, he's never complained.

jns, if we reversed, then how would I concentrate in my work :-)

[dlanier248]

My ideal sex is getting a BJ, then letting me give her oral until she climaxes then have intercourse. both parties should been satisfied.

Your husband is a very lucky man.

my question is how does a marriage go from giving BJ's weekly to NEVER having sex at all.

[lotos]

I also swallow every time and then clean him with little kisses or lick his member like a lolly-pop a few times Although I've had a partner whose penis used to become so sensitive after he had ejaculated, that I was unable to even suck and swallow every drop.
Some times though, I prefer him to come on me and then let him watch me collect the semen from my body with my fingers and then lick them and swallow "the material".

[a_dub]

Hmmm, good ideas!

Caster, I don't know if I could leave him hard like that, I'd feel so guilty I'd have to start all over again! Ha!

a dub, you're probably right, he's never complained.

jns, if we reversed, then how would I concentrate in my work :-)

He means after you've swallowed his load.

Do you like getting oral? How is that experience?

[jns]

HisGirl, that's part of the fun of 69. You both go at it and see who gets who distracted first. A person is distracted when the sensation is so great that they cannot focus on what they are doing. Of course, if you get the other person distracted but don't follow up properly, you may let the other person back in the game. It's fun to do if you are both competitive and relatively skilled in bringing the other to climax.

[CoolBreeze]

Giving head is an art form. Like different people this part of a male anatomy also comes in different forms, textures, level of sensitivities and structures. The ones which are circumcised are less sensitive comparatively so you can proceed with post ejaculation stimulation without risking the effects of over-stimulation. The males can't multi-orgasm without an intervening period, direct stimulation should be avoided during this resting period. Depending on the age and conditioning of the male partner you can devise various strategies. The crux is don't over stimulate. Just remember that stimulating your partner mentally can be more effective than physical stimulation.