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  • Naughty girl
    Junior Member
    • Jun 2013
    • 1

    Flirting

    Hi all,
    Just wanted to share and get a bit of advice on my current situation.
    I am married, but my sex life is practically none existent.
    A colleague at work has been flirty over the last few months with lots of sexual innuendos whilst talking to each other.
    Talking like this to each other gets us really turned on. As we are both married we have discussed that nothing can ever come of it, but we can just have fun talking and turning each other on.
    We talk about things or "scenarios" that we would like to do to each other, I said I would like to see his manhood. This has lead to us to showing each other pictures of ourselves. Now we show each other videos of us "playing" with ourselves. I have seen him cum which was so good. He has asked me if I have any "requests" for him to film.

    What else can I ask him to film?
  • rcoreyus
    Veteran Member
    • Sep 2007
    • 4369

    This path will very likely lead to your having an affair. Since I don't know the situation either of you are in, I'm not going to try to judge if that is appropriate for YOU, but in most cases, for most people it is not a good way to go.

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      Not only will it lead to an affair, but there is hard evidence of it. This could lead to one or the both of you getting fired for sexual harassment if others see. Kind of like you cannot bring in your own personal copy of Playboy to "read" at lunch.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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      • LisaW1991
        Senior Member
        • Feb 2013
        • 128

        Originally posted by Naughty girl
        Hi all,
        Just wanted to share and get a bit of advice on my current situation.
        I am married, but my sex life is practically none existent.
        A colleague at work has been flirty over the last few months with lots of sexual innuendos whilst talking to each other.
        Talking like this to each other gets us really turned on. As we are both married we have discussed that nothing can ever come of it, but we can just have fun talking and turning each other on.
        We talk about things or "scenarios" that we would like to do to each other, I said I would like to see his manhood. This has lead to us to showing each other pictures of ourselves. Now we show each other videos of us "playing" with ourselves. I have seen him cum which was so good. He has asked me if I have any "requests" for him to film.

        What else can I ask him to film?
        Kinda hate to ask this, but are you a guy interested in having a homosexual affair?

        What you wrote comes across to me as a guy, not a girl, so that is why I ask. Not sure if makes a lot difference, if your married and continplating having a an sexul relationship with another person, it really doesn't matter if hetersexual\homosexual. I am sure there are bi-sexual people who get married, and have homosexual affairs.

        As to what he should record on video, that's really something you need to decide based on what gets you sexually aroused. Maybe you'll get others to suggest some kinky stuff, but I doubt you're going to get a long list of hardcore porn suggestions.

        I might suggest "Pony Play", I think that would be fun to watch on video (saw it on HBO's Real Sex).

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        • antsinmypants26
          Member
          • Jun 2013
          • 30

          If you are unhappy with any part of your relationship, to the point that you're seeking fulfillment from another man, then why are you staying married? Not only is it disrespectful to your husband, but it doesn't paint a pretty picture of yourself. Maybe it's time to be honest with your husband and let him know that you aren't happy because your needs are going unmet, and it's made you seek those desires with someone else. If you love him still, this could make him want to change the non-existant part of your relationship. If you don't I suggest you leave and find someone single, who wishes to fulfill your needs fully. Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot, and you had a misconception that your husband was being faithful, when indeed he was very sexually active emotionally with another woman. Or what if you were your coworkers wife? Everyone has different standards of what a relationship should be though, so that is only an option that can be made by you.

          As for what he should send you via text, decipher what turns you on and lead him in that direction, however wrong it may be.

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          • BabyGirl
            Banned
            • May 2010
            • 1665


            What else can I ask him to film?
            That's easy....
            Ask him to send you a film ( Pic ) of his Marriage Certificate !!
            And you send him one of yours !!


            Focus your Flirting, Teasing and Sexual " Films/ Pic's " on your Hubby.



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