[sojo]

I've been with my boyfriend for over two years. For the first couple of months the sex was incredible, he knew exactly how to please me and could go for hours. I hadn't been a big oral girl, having only ever done it once before I met my boyfriend, which also meant I wasn't that good at it. Due to my lack of experience I felt it was up to me to practice so that I could satisfy him as much as he did me. So I began performing oral on him more and longer until I could do it without gagging and could also go for hours. I love performing oral, I love that he enjoys it.. the problem is, is that he enjoys it too much. Ever since then the amount of sex we had declined dramatically. We went from having sex 4 or 5 times a week to a couple times a month.

It wasn't his sex drive that went down, he asked me to perform oral on him every day for as long as 3 hours. I didn't mind this because like I said, I enjoy it too. However, he stopped wanting to touch me, to please me at all. I let it slide the first month or so figuring he was just enjoying being the one to relax, but after that it really started to get me down. I've tried everything to spice our sex life up. I bought lots of different toys and outfits. I'd load him porn to watch while we did it.. When none of that worked I decided to let him fantasize about other girls when we had sex. But no matter what I've tried he still doesn't seem interested. Last month we had sex once, while he got oral 15-20 times.

Of course, I tried stopping oral on him thinking maybe then he'd be more interested, but he'd rather have nothing. I've talked about it to him several times, the first few times I asked about it he just promised me he did enjoy it. Then when nothing improved I asked him again, this time he got angry with me for being 'horny all the time'.. again nothing changed so I asked again, and this time he laughed and went to sleep. .The next time I asked he said he had a sore mouth, and so couldn't have sex with me. The next time, he said his penis was too sore but it was ok for oral.. The list goes on, but I think you get the picture.

I have tried everything I can think of to get him to be more interested in sex, but the only conclusion I can come up with is that he just doesn't enjoy having sex with me. I've resorted to masturbating in the bathroom at night, which kind of makes me feel dirty. (Not that I don't enjoy masturbating.. just the situation that's causing me to have to masturbate.)

It's really messing up my self-esteem. If anyone could give me some advice, I'd truly be so grateful.

[sojo]

We live together, and hes great with every other aspect of our relationship. He tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me every day.. Which is great for a relationship.. but it won't last without sex. I find myself getting irritable and snappy which is why I've came on here for advice because I know if he doesn't start showing interest I can't be with him.

How would I bring it up again? I'm terrible with confrontation about things..

Also, thanks for the advice.

[sojo]

Thanks for the advice.

I'll talk to him about it when he gets home from work tonight and hopefully at least shed some light on why exactly he doesn't enjoy it.

[sojo]

I'm afraid I can't pm you either. It says I don't have those privileges.. :/

[sojo]

well.. heres my email. It might be easier. Its just an email i use for signing up for things.

lizzodonnell5*gmail.com

[rcoreyus]

Have you let him know clearly that while you enjoy oral, you also enjoy other things as well? (even tell him that he is so good you are missing sex with him). If he still isn't willing to have sex then he is being selfish and you need to consider your relationship with him.

Are there other reasons he doesn't want sex - pregnancy worries or somethign?

[BabyGirl]

well.. here my email. It might be easier. Its just an email i use for signing up for things.

liXXodXXXell5********************************Edite d for Safety.com

Alex868 and sojo

You have to have 33 posts before you can PM others . They can't just be short " Yeah or small lil just to get posts comments numbers up.".

Posting your Email address online in any Forum is not very safe,even on here. Your ISP is registered to your Computer, so you can be Hacked and even "Banned " from sites, get Spam Mails and so on ..

I believe you can add each others as Friends on your profile and maybe contact there ( after 33 posts ) you can actually do it in " Installments " on the Comment part, but I'd be wary about that too .

Now on to the Subject.

Of course, I tried stopping oral on him thinking maybe then he'd be more interested, but he'd rather have nothing. I've talked about it to him several times, the first few times I asked about it he just promised me he did enjoy it. Then when nothing improved I asked him again, this time he got angry with me for being 'horny all the time'.. again nothing changed so I asked again, and this time he laughed and went to sleep. .The next time I asked he said he had a sore mouth, and so couldn't have sex with me. The next time, he said his penis was too sore but it was ok for oral.. The list goes on, but I think you get the picture.

It sounds like you are wanting him to perform Oral on you ? His " Sore Mouth " part ..
Then his " Sore Penis " is next ?
Have you both been checked for STD's ????

If you both test clean , I'd start taking turns Orally. If he expects your to suck the Popsicle for 3 hours, I'd expect him to Munch the Munchie, for 3 hours. And maybe do some Lovemaking with Penile and Vaginal Intercourse... just to stir things up .

Doesn't sound like he's really into anything but himself and his Pleasure .
Give him a few months,with " Expectations Clearly Defined " . If he doesn't meet them ..
Time for another " Applicant " that can make your life a Happy and fulfilled one .