[takethesubway]

Hey,

So, I'm 33 and I can safely say I have been able to make most of the women I have been with climax, especially with women who I care and love.

I'm in a relationship now with someone who I believe is "the one". We've been together for over two months after her (still) coming off a terrible divorce where her husband had been living a double life with another woman. She certainly has had a rough time to go through because of this, but it barely ever shows.

We have a great time and we connect really well, but I believe there's a problem when we have sex. Now, it's not that she hasn't climaxed with me, because she has at least once in a while. Still, it would take a LOT of work that I would usually be enough. When I don't get her to orgasm I feel bad because I want her to enjoy it but with more significance because I really do adore her.
The thing is she IS a sexual person, even as far as saying that if she didn't feel a sexual connection, that would be grounds to end a relationship, which I totally understand. I had a talk with her about it and she has told me that, normally, she does climax, but, although it's not happening frequently with me, that she feels "intense sexual pleasure" with me. But she even told me my girth is under the size she has been use to.

Here are other factors:
- she was with her husband for 7 years, ended months ago, she's the same age as me
- I'm the only partner she's had since it ended and the first ever to have sex without using a condom, I never asked her, but from what she has told me in conversation, she's had between 7-10 partners in her life, guessing
- I'm usually use to a woman climaxing at least 1-2 times every time we have sex and be REALLY into it
- she loves kissing me, we're very attracted to each other, she doesn't like rough sex, she's the first woman I've been with that prefers it nice and slow (to climax to) than just constant pounding
- she tells me I'm big, calls me an amazing lover, always shows that she enjoys it despite not climaxing
- it always sounds like she is about to climax and either doesn't or when she does, other than one time, I can't even tell, when she climaxes, it has been mainly when she's on top
- she does have trouble getting wet, at times, or it takes longer than usual I perform oral sex on her
- she does have her moments of getting down about her marriage cause she feels robbed, tells me she has no romantic feelings towards her ex husband, just anger

She tells me that it's her, not me. Sometimes I see that. She has had a rough time and she's still getting use to me. I still want to give her that pleasure and enjoy it, but I guess I have to be patient.

Sometimes I don't. I have made her climax before and she is eager to have sex with me. It worries me because what if that sexual connection I have with her is lost without her regularly climaxing and then I lose her, which she has told me is, in general, a possibility. I can feel it bothering me and worry it may affect my performance. I really do like this girl and this seems like it could be a bigger problem down the road.

So is it me? Is it her? Any ideas?

[jns]

she was with her husband for 7 years, ended months ago

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I guess I have to be patient.

She is still on the rebound from her marriage. It will take a long time for everything to be right. Being patient is the best policy.

[JonDoe]

Be patient and embrace the challenge or else it will consume you and affect your performance.

How does she feel about receiving oral and/or toys?

Plan a date where you lights candles, play soft music, give her a full body massage, which hopefully leads to giving her a very, happy ending.