[Obelisk]

So I had an interesting question about my experiences. With the 2 women I've been with in my life, it's been similar in the way we have done it.

Usually there's foreplay where I would finger them for a few mins, usually a good 5-10 mins. Then at a point they would ask me to go inside them, and some of the time if I was really horny I was lucky to last a minute before cumming inside them.

The first girl would stimulate herself and cum while I tried to hold myself always. She always preferred oral, but not my fingers, she would do that herself. The girl I'm currently with prefers my fingers, and I've made her cum with fingers alone.

So me, thinking that I was denying them more pleasure by cumming so fast, what I started doing was just self pleasuring and cumming on my own maybe 30 mins before I met up with them so I could last longer.

So I'd be able to last a good 3-4mins, sometimes longer. Both women would get annoyed. Last week my girl asked me "why aren't you cumming?" So I kinda lied and said I had no idea. So she said "I want you to cum!"

This happened a few times with the first girl also, so I kinda stopped jerking it prior and would just show up fully horny, ready to blow in like 30 seconds sometimes.

I'm really confused about that. I always thought women enjoyed men who last long in bed. The two I've been with would really get off when I was cumming. Both start to gyrate their hips like they are really enjoying me when I bust. Not that I'm complaining, but so far the girls I've been with have enjoyed more the clit stimulation, and then maybe the sensation of feeling me cum inside? How long I've been able to go does not seem to have had any positive effects for them.

Any women would like to enlighten me on this?

[Little]

Women are going to vary (wildly) on how much penetration they want - even from encounter to encounter. Some don't like penetration at all, while for others it's the best part.

It sounds like you changed things up rather quickly, with no notice, which will set off alarm bells in any partner.

It's not always easy for people to talk about what parts of sex they like, especially when there are certain expectations and limitations to be considered. It's possible your previous partners had some kind of problem with penetration, like discomfort, they didn't want to share with you because they felt it was sort of like a weakness.

[Obelisk]

Well they would both ask me for it after a few mins of foreplay, and both really really seem to enjoy when I'm actually cumming inside them (maybe the sensation of the movement?) but if I took longer than a couple of mins both would start to get annoyed. Maybe they are judging their attractiveness by how quickly I can finish? The first girl was very open on what she liked. My current girl is more closed in. I feel like I'm hounding her with questions about what she enjoys sometimes.

[HisGirl]

.... but if I took longer than a couple of mins both would start to get annoyed. Maybe they are judging their attractiveness by how quickly I can finish?

You could be correct in this thinking. Perhaps some of their self esteem is wrapped up in how quickly they can make a man come. Many women do prefer it when a man lasts longer, especially if they orgasm through penetration. Others don't. I get this way sometimes. Sometimes my husband takes a few minutes and sometimes he can go 30 minutes in multiple positions. I enjoy it both ways, but I live for his cum, so when he lasts a long time, I wonder if he's not enjoying it, but he reassures me he's trying to make it last as long as possible. It just depends on the girl.