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  • BillH
    Junior Member
    • Jul 2013
    • 4

    Should i rub her clit without asking her during sex?

    Hi, i have a fairly small member--4.5 inches. I was wondering if rubbing her clit, without asking her would significantly improve the situation. Perhaps startting with oral or fingering with a "come here" gesture? Ladies, what would be the best way for a 4.5 inch guy to get you off? Thanks!!
  • CoolBreeze
    Senior Member
    • May 2013
    • 112

    Why do you ask, is there any reason for you being hesitant? It's how you use it that really matters. A big size is only for psychological reasons. First make sure that you know how responsive she is down there. Sensitivities vary between us women and you have to figure out what is the best way. Don't be afraid to tweak and experiment around, she will enjoy it and like your efforts. Be generous with cunnilingus, we love it. Ask your partner to guide you if you are over bearing or neglecting while you are at it. Tell her to guide you, and ultimately you two will come up with the best combinations possible. The beckoning movement is used for G-Spot stimulation. Only do it once you have done the rituals above as it needs to be engorged with blood after arousal. Use water based lubricants to maximize the effect if required. Happy experimenting!‎

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      To add to what CB said, use a very light touch to start and only use a heavier touch if she asks for it or you are sure she is enjoying it. Make sure. Use lube if necessary. Tongues are not as rough as fingers and they come with lubrication. Be adventurous.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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      • Obelisk
        Veteran Member
        • Jul 2013
        • 441

        BillH, the clit needs to be stimulated even if you have an 11" penis.
        Pigeonholer extraordinaire!

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