[johny_q]

hi all
my girlfriend is still a virgin and she doesn't want to loose her virginity before going to college so I want to make her come without sex.
is rubbing her clitoris enough? what exactly should we do?

[Obelisk]

Others may disagree with me, but my personal opinion is that any sexual acts between two people automatically loses their virginity.

The whole point of being a virgin is that you are supposed to have zero sexual experience with a partner.

The moment you have a sexual experience with someone else, IMO is when you lose your virginity.

I'd be more worried about unplanned pregnancy, so non penetrative sex would probably help with that.

The whole virgin stuff is ridiculous anyway. My life wasn't magically altered in anyway when I first had sex. It wasn't at at what I was expecting, and really not as big a deal as others make it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hi Johny,

Welcome to WH.

Firstly, good for you to stand by her decision, awesome.

Secondly, I know of tons of people who waited like you two, were in love and enjoyed the "reason" behind waiting, in togetherness.. I am sure it will be worth the wait just on the bond point of view and then as you both get to know each other sexually.

All women are different.

It's honestly alot of trial and error, judging her reactions, kissing seems high on the list, on the neck, thighs, everywhere "but" .. It's enticing and we don't really know what you are doing, where you are heading, so there is a rush ... Foreplay in all forms is exciting for most women.. Just go with the flow and watch for reactions.

[jns]

Rubbing her clitoris may be enough, then again it may not. As CW said, you have to get good at judging her reactions, but also ask her to tell you when something feels good. Be very gentle unless she wants you to do things harder. When a woman gets sexually excited it is normal for her clitoris to stick out from under its hood. Direct stimulation of the clitoris can be too much and may be perceived as pain, so try stimulation through the clitoral hood. Vary the speed of your rubbing. If rubbing goes on too long, a woman may lose sensation, so try slowing down for a half minute or more, then speeding up a bit and repeating. You may need lubrication as you speed up. She will probably get wet and that will supply the lubrication, but if not saliva or store bought lubrication will work. And as CW said, kiss and tease.

[cathygirl]

Mutual masturbation might be satisfying. Two people undressing and then enjoying masturbation together is a great and safe alternative to other activities that can cause pregnancy or disease. Might be something to explore together.