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  • Brookelle
    Junior Member
    • Jul 2013
    • 3

    Boyfriend finishes quickly and quietly?

    I've noticed every time my boyfriend and I have sex, it doesn't last very long. Maybe a few minutes.
    We normally spend about 10 to 15 minutes with foreplay.

    This doesn't really bother me. What bothers me, is when we stop I noticed he always finishes inside me at some point during our session without a word. (I know this because there is no way my body could form that much substance in such a short time)

    I ask him if he came, and he lies or blows off the question.
    I don't care about him cuming inside me, as I am on birth control, but what gives?

    Why won't he just tell the truth, and why doesn't he give notice? Ideas anyone?
    I don't want to embarrass him by any means, so I thought I'd ask here!
    Thanks!
  • Little
    • Feb 2007
    • 4329

    Has he ever admitted to cumming inside of you? You say he lies or blows off the question. Is it possible (evidential discharge aside) that he is not cumming for some reason and is embarrassed about it?
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    • Brookelle
      Junior Member
      • Jul 2013
      • 3

      The thing is, he is cumming inside. Every time, during and won't give notice. So I will just be continuing until we stop because we are talking about something. Then I stand up and it all comes flowing down. I'm not mad, just a little confused.

      I wasn't sure why he would be embarrassed though, we have been close for so long.


      Originally posted by Little
      Has he ever admitted to cumming inside of you? You say he lies or blows off the question. Is it possible (evidential discharge aside) that he is not cumming for some reason and is embarrassed about it?

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      • PhrendlyPhil
        Member
        • Jul 2013
        • 96

        He may be a bit self conscious about his expression during orgasm. It is normal for men (young men) to reach orgasm quickly. That is a sign he is healthy and normal. It takes practice and conscious effort for a man to delay ejaculation. In older men (and in some young men) retarded ejaculation may be a symptom of ill health (or having just ejaculated recently). Many men are not that loud during orgasm (although most exhibit a change in breath, moan, or other audible/physical sign). I would suggest you partake in several playful sessions of mutual masturbation. That way you can actually watch him during his orgasm - no need for notice, YOU'LL SEE IT (it would be great if you could watch him with a look of great amusement and maybe a loving word of encouragement - he'll like that). Also, he'll be able to watch you please yourself (and believe me men love to watch!!!). I hope that helps you.

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        • Brookelle
          Junior Member
          • Jul 2013
          • 3

          Thank you! This was very helpful!

          Originally posted by PhrendlyPhil
          He may be a bit self conscious about his expression during orgasm. It is normal for men (young men) to reach orgasm quickly. That is a sign he is healthy and normal. It takes practice and conscious effort for a man to delay ejaculation. In older men (and in some young men) retarded ejaculation may be a symptom of ill health (or having just ejaculated recently). Many men are not that loud during orgasm (although most exhibit a change in breath, moan, or other audible/physical sign). I would suggest you partake in several playful sessions of mutual masturbation. That way you can actually watch him during his orgasm - no need for notice, YOU'LL SEE IT (it would be great if you could watch him with a look of great amusement and maybe a loving word of encouragement - he'll like that). Also, he'll be able to watch you please yourself (and believe me men love to watch!!!). I hope that helps you.

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          • Lovcookie
            Veteran Member
            • May 2010
            • 222

            Yes, some young guys have no control and cum quick. From 50 mph to 100 (orgasm) and back to 20 in a rush.
            He may also have a very sensitive penis. If the fit of the woman (tightness around his penis) is just right it can be very hard not to cum quicky. In a few years he will last longer. Even I experienced that at my age. One time last year was surprised how fast I cam and I can usually go for a long time. Also if he is all loaded up (as not had sex recently) it will make a big difference.

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