[oreman]

Hi!

I am a 26 year old average sized male who has been with ~30 partners. After spending the last few years single, I have finally found a girl who I have a real connection with. The only problem, out of all the girls I have ever been with, she has the loosest vagina. This either means her last partner, or sex toy, was/is enormous; or, more realistically, she just happens to have a larger vagina. What do I do!? As a result, it takes me a very long time to get off and the only way I can really feel too much pleasure is to ******** her really hard and fast. After a while (20+ minutes), she says, understandably so, that she starts to hurt. It is pretty unfortunate that after years of dating girls that I just haven't had a connection with, I finally find one who I really like and run into this issue. I am a very sexually charged person, and I think I have only been able to put up with this problem because the relationship is young, but I know in the future this will be a real nuisance. I know there are exercises girls can do, but how am I supposed to bring this up without completely offending her? She must have SOME idea that she has a large vagina, right?

Any advice would be great!

Thanks!

[Claret]

It is probably not because of larger than life sex toys or partners. What it could be is simply lack of muscle tone. I'm assuming she has never had any children? If she had children she would be aware of Kegel exercises that they teach women to do following childbirth. These are simply done and can be done at any time during the day, at work or at play. Research how they are done and then speak with her. If you have this connection you'll find the words to put it sincerely and softly to her. You could also help her with them with your penis inserted in the vagina or by fingers.
One other scenario is that she may be large normally and can't do anything about it. A plastic surgeon could however. There are conditions in which surgeons sometimes go in an tighten the muscles up and restitch to a smaller size.
If you don't talk to her and find out what's wrong, she'll never know and you'll just be more frustrated.

[caster]

Try some other postions that will create more friction for you.

[oreman]

Thanks for the replies. We are constantly switching around positions. I probably originally shouldn't have said that to feel anything I need to go hard and fast. I meant to say to get off I have to go hard and fast. I obviously still have a fun time, I think it may be making me feel slightly inadequate too (although she seems to be having a good time too).

[DreamP346]

Have a heart-to-heart talk with her. You need to be very sensitive, but you can't have a good relationship if you don't communicate about your sexual needs. Ask if she would be willing to do some exercises. Don't just put the onus on her. Offer to help. Ben Wa balls are good for exercising. I have heard that its used in that book 50 Shades and they make it a fun sex play. Try to do the same. Maybe have her ride you while trying to do kegels.

The other thing is you can insert your fingers along with your penis to make it feel tighter. There are also sex toys you can used together. The We Vibe goes inside a woman during intercourse. It stimulate both partners.

[cathygirl]

After a baby everybody is looser. Is that a big deal for you? If so then don't expect to have children with anyone. If this is a big deal to you, move on. If it's a big deal to her, there's cosmetic gynecology. Personally, I wouldn't even consider it just to make some guy happy but that's just me.

[PhrendlyPhil]

Try the following: No sex or masturbation for either of you for at least a week. Then spend a good half hour on gentle foreplay. Then when you finally enter her, go in short gentle strokes, then long and very deep strokes. Have her hold her knees apart and way back Dso that you can penetrate her very deeply. Do not go real fast. The deep strokes combined with her well tilted pelvis should give you a sensation of tightness and envelopment and eventually bring you off. Hope this helps.

[Trisha23]

bring her to the doctor for an advice,if there are exercises that can help her, then let her do.

[Starfish]

Sorry about this. Dont give up on her. I think she is just okay. I think there is still an advantage to her being like that. I am here to find out more. She is perfect for you. Dont leave her. Since you still have that connection it means she is the right girl. I never knew loose vagina was an issue technically. find out tips from women here. Keep being on the look out. Wish you luck and a relationship that ends right.

[barberchk]

Well I think that a good way to find out why she is loose is not asking her because you will surly hurt her feelings and you don't want that because you care for her. But one suggestion could be maybe taking her on a date to a toy store. Walk around and see she what calls her attention. Observe her and her eyes and what she grabs. You can even suggest a huge toy and see what her reaction might be. Im not saying you will allow her to purchase it, what Im saying is that you can find out that way if its big toys that she uses and could be the reason for her being loose. Another idea could be for you buying a vaginal tightening lotion for her and don't tell her. Just put some on your penis before sex and tell her its lube. Theres alot of other things you can do!