[Contemplate]

So, my boyfriend doesn't think watching too much porn is good for him, he gets off more long term if he doesn't watch it. He just looks at photos of women when he's getting himself off. And I am very jealous in general, but i would just rather know the truth. And I am okay with it, it's not perfect. And I love him very much.

So, because we talk and we looked at a couple of different porn videos together, I know he likes watching two women together.

And I don't know what I was thinking, I thought it would be sexy if we watched girl on girl videos together during foreplay. I just wanted to make him happy, something I did for him.

It was my idea, I looked for them and everything. And he told me before, during and after, he didn't need them, I was enough. Then he also said, it was a little weird watching that while I was satisfying him. I enjoyed the fact he found it arousing. I mean, we both enjoyed it, but maybe it's not such a good idea. I wasn't jealous, but I'm afraid, I might become.

I am not sure why I did it in the first place. I think part of me wanted to know exactly what he likes that he can't get from me.

I am not sure what I feel, or how to approach him. But I think I don't want to do this anymore. Because in a perfect world, he really would want it, he would at least be looking at me more, so it reminds me how it's not perfect. But I don't want him to miss out on anything. If he enjoyed it, then I wouldn't want to stop. And now that I know even more what he likes, I found a video he would really like. So, use it, or don't? I would rather we do it together than him by himself, but if he doesn't watch videos anymore, only photos, then he wouldn't anyways. But it's better he does sexier things (videos vs pics) with me.

I guess I'm jealous because I don't want to loose him, I'm doing this so there would be less chance of that, and ironically it reminds me of loosing him. Really sucks. :/

[wino33]

It sounds like he's perfectly satisfies with you sexually, so it's good he doesn't need anything extra. It sounds like he just likes pleasuring himself to some visually stimulating pictures... and what's better than looking at 1 naked girl? Looking at 2 naked girls kissing/touching each other.

[jns]

So, my boyfriend doesn't think watching too much porn is good for him, he gets off more long term if he doesn't watch it. He just looks at photos of women when he's getting himself off. And I am very jealous in general, but i would just rather know the truth. And I am okay with it, it's not perfect. And I love him very much.

So, because we talk and we looked at a couple of different porn videos together, I know he likes watching two women together.

And I don't know what I was thinking, I thought it would be sexy if we watched girl on girl videos together during foreplay. I just wanted to make him happy, something I did for him.

It was my idea, I looked for them and everything. And he told me before, during and after, he didn't need them, I was enough. Then he also said, it was a little weird watching that while I was satisfying him. I enjoyed the fact he found it arousing. I mean, we both enjoyed it, but maybe it's not such a good idea. I wasn't jealous, but I'm afraid, I might become.

I am not sure why I did it in the first place. I think part of me wanted to know exactly what he likes that he can't get from me.

I am not sure what I feel, or how to approach him. But I think I don't want to do this anymore. Because in a perfect world, he really would want it, he would at least be looking at me more, so it reminds me how it's not perfect. But I don't want him to miss out on anything. If he enjoyed it, then I wouldn't want to stop. And now that I know even more what he likes, I found a video he would really like. So, use it, or don't? I would rather we do it together than him by himself, but if he doesn't watch videos anymore, only photos, then he wouldn't anyways. But it's better he does sexier things (videos vs pics) with me.

I guess I'm jealous because I don't want to loose him, I'm doing this so there would be less chance of that, and ironically it reminds me of loosing him. Really sucks. :/

I think this is the trend these days, that men are conditioned to use porn to reach orgasm, so at least some incorporate it in sex play with their significant other.

You have three options: first would be to accept the situation. It would most likely cause you to resent it even more in the future, unless you could truly let go of all of your feelings about it.

Second, would be to get rid of this relationship and find another one that hopefully will be with a guy who was more in tune with you and would not want porn used during sex.

Third, try to change your boyfriend. This can be hard to do. Guys usually don't change. Sometimes they change for a while but then revert back.

[tinyclitt]

I love watching videos and looking at pictures with my husband. I enjoy showing him what turns me on and seeing what turns him on. You know the old saw about a picture being worth a thousand words. Sometimes it's true. Sex being so mental, I think it's also a great way to get our brains in gear and get into the mood. Sort of a mental foreplay for physical foreplay.

[Poupée]

It seems to me that your boyfriend is satisfied with just you. Have you maybe considered that you are too afraid of loosing him, so you see more than there really is?

One way maybe to satisfy your fear of loosing him and his need of videos/pics is to make your own videos/pics of what you like to watch. Would you feel comfortable to have a sex tapes with your boyfriend? if so you can suggest that to him...