[fly18tack]

Ok so here is the situation. My wife and I have always had great sex. But we were recently talking about how she wants more clit stimulation before/ during sex. So I guess I will start off by asking, what are some good foreplay ideas? We dry hump and rub and play with each other beforehand but I think that gets to me more then her, so I finish faster. What are some other ways to foreplay that will get her going and not finish me off. Next is the clit stimulation during sex. The straight in and out isn't cutting it, so I try to rotate my hips in a circular motion to help. She gets the most stimulation while she is on top, but obviously doesn't want to be on top every time. So what are some different positions we could try to get more clit stimulation, besides doggy and her on top? Lastly, I briefly mentioned it with the first question, is my stamina. Some times I last a decent time it seems but others seems like it goes by quick. I hope this is just my over thinking. Because she still cums but what can I do to improve my stamina?
This is my first post, so excuse the bombardment of questions. But any and all advice and tricks are much appreciated.

[jns]

Does your wife enjoy it when you give her oral during foreplay? Does she orgasm from this? Do you get over excited when you give her oral?

[fly18tack]

She doesn't mind me giving her oral. She doesn't hate but won't just ask for it either. I love going down on her, but I think maybe she is thinking to much and not relaxed trying to enjoy it more, or it could just be me. I know I'm not a pro at it so any techniques/tricks/help with that as well will be helpful.

[fly18tack]

I try bringing the oral topic up, probably a little to much, because she is great at it, but just doesn't like doing it as much as I would obviously like her to

[BambooEarrings]

My husband sucks at oral (no pun intended lol) I've told him this. (HAHA)

But I tell him what to do and he doesn't do it! 69 is a different story, bc that is a lot better.

Anyway, the reason he sucks at it and why many men fail is they are too GENTLE, and it feels like we are being tickled or something and it's just boring, or worse, it can be a turn off. I'm not saying be really rough, but for goodness sake, don't act like we are too delicate down there... if we can take a pounding with a penis, we can take that with mouth, fingers, whatever.
The other mistake men make is to rub directly on the clit to much which can be too sensitive. Better to start above and then rub downwards/around etc , keep it "under cover" and by that I mean rub it through the hood of skin above it and not directly!

Lastly, during sex, just about any position will work if men would just have enough sense to rub the clit with their hand (again, don't be gentle, but don't be too rough-- the fat part of your hand under your thumb (the palm) would prob be even better than the fingers because you can be more firm without it hurting and you are covering more area, so not worrying if you are missing the target when u are in a weird position.

If you don't want to use your hand, just keep your body as close to her as possible. This might sound complicated, but try to keep contact with the clit during each stroke... that is, keep the area above your penis close to her body and try to not pull it out too far each time...the long strokes probably feel better to the man, but to the woman, every moment you are further away, this is less contact with the area that is most stimulating .

I hope this makes sense.

[Kiwicherry]

But keep in mind that not every woman loves oral. Personally, I like it when my boyfriend kisses my thighs and also my vagina but I don't like feeling his tongue on my clitoris, neither anywhere on my vagina. What I like though is when he breathes against me down there. It gives a very warm and comfortable feeling, maybe you could try these things, too. In case she is not generally so obsessed with oral.

Like others already have mentioned, stimulating your wiefe's clitoris with your fingers is a good possibility. It does work during intercourse with no problems. You could try to stroke or rub the surrounding of her clitoris in the same rhythm you both have during the intercourse. This can bring alot of pleasure and it is easy to orgasm during that.

And there's always the possibility to make her orgasm during foreplay and have intercourse afterwards. There are plenty of ways and you just have to try different things and, of course, talk to her, asking her what she likes most... E.g. fingering her and rubbing her clitoris at the same time, try oral plus fingering, try fingering and kissing at the same time...

These are just my personal experiences.

[wino33]

The trick for us is a nice little vibrator to the clit area during sex... it works magic!

[CoolBreeze]

There are some good pieces of advice above. Cunnilingus is an art which you can perfect by having continuous and good communication with your partner. Ask her what she likes, dislikes or likes more, focus on variety to break the onset of any boredom. Eventually you will reach the point where it will become second nature about pleasing her. Best of luck and happy experimenting.

[tinyclitt]

For foreplay I like lots of kissing and rubbing. Starting out light and then getting stronger. I hate penetration and want to receive oral sex only. When I'm ready I like him to go directly to my clit with his tongue. Again, starting out light, then getting stronger and stronger until...