[muffin70]

I would like to get peoples opinion on men who ‘finish themselves’ off after sex.

In my younger days I used to watch a few porn movies – and in most of them the man would finish themselves (ejaculate) off over the woman… some would even remove the womans hands from their penis right at the end and ’take over’ – maybe to control the ejaculate or something?

I personally find there is nothing better if you can’t cum inside your partner than letting them take control your penis and letting them jack you off and you can just enjoy watching your cum fly and land on your partner…

I think if I was a woman and had done all the hard work satisfying a man, then he takes over at the end I’d feel gutted like I’m not good enough…

I love watching handjob clips – especially where the mans hands are tied back or imobilised in some way so he can’t take over… I love to see a woman jack off a mans cum

What are other peoples thoughts??

[jns]

Comparing porn movies to real life is like comparing the X-Men movies to real life. Not real.

The reason porn males cannot ejaculate by the female porn females is that the women for the most part do not turn them on enough and if they did, when the guy actually ejaculated could take too much or too little time. Further, teaching each woman the specifics of what it takes to get each guy off would take a long time and a lot of retakes. So the guy masturbates to finish himself. Ejaculation on cue is necessary to get the job. There is actually more real sex off of the stage in the back room. The women don't get emotionally involved on the stage. Same money but less work is fine for them.

[muffin70]

oh yes I totally agree that porn movies and 'real' sex are 2 different things.... I just enjoy watching a woman jerk a man off and if I watch a porn movie and the guy is about to cum it's like he says "thanks, but I'll take it from here" - I find that disappointing really

[kira]

You've watched too much porn. They pull out to ejaculate just for show and the same for the man taking over. Most women would probably prefer you ejaculate in them because it feels good both physically and mentally. Of course there are occasions that a lot of women do want it somewhere on their body but often they are doing a hand job or oral instead of sex.

[tinyclitt]

Whatever it takes to get him to cum and orgasm, whether it is me finishing him off or him finishing himself off is perfectly fine with me. What's important for both of us is that he does cum and orgasm. "Feeling diminished" wouldn't even enter my thoughts. And if he doesn't cum, although that can be a bit frustrating for both of us, that's okay too, we'll try again later or tomorrow and he will eventually, it's inevitable.

[HisGirl]

Its so erotic to watch a man finish- either himself or when a woman does it. I'd love to stroke my husband beginning to end but once he's aroused he just wants it in me, he doesn't want to finish anywhere else. Oh well, maybe someday he'll let me. I'm trying to work on that.

I never knew that the guys in porn aren't always attracted to the women in porn. I thought they were supposed to be perfect physical specimens or something. But what do I know? I saw one porn movie when I was a teenager and that's it. I guess its really just a job to them.

[PhrendlyPhil]

Its so erotic to watch a man finish- either himself or when a woman does it. I'd love to stroke my husband beginning to end but once he's aroused he just wants it in me, he doesn't want to finish anywhere else. Oh well, maybe someday he'll let me. I'm trying to work on that.

I never knew that the guys in porn aren't always attracted to the women in porn. I thought they were supposed to be perfect physical specimens or something. But what do I know? I saw one porn movie when I was a teenager and that's it. I guess its really just a job to them.

A loving husband will want to please his wife most of the time, including (and especially) ejaculating outside her vagina on occasion. This can be very erotic for both partners. You can have fun by telling him where you want him to aim it. You can both have fun watching it "fly out" at that magic moment. You can both have a giggle over the puddle of semen all over your "fill in the blank."

Yes, we men love to "finish" inside the soft and warm envelopment of the vagina (there's nothing quite like it), but we also enjoy indulging in some scenic erotica, sharing it with our partner.

Next time you give your husband oral sex, finish him outside your mouth instead of in it (face, breasts, tummy, etc). That way you can watch him "finish" and he can relish in your look of amusement. It's loads of fun (pun intended).

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Some men can go forever but the only way to orgasm is to finish himself or have her finish him. Rarely cumming inside of her. I would imagine a lot of guys that watch porn would be like that.

I too think it's sexy.

[Obelisk]

I've never been affected by porn, and I used to watch a lot of it in my 20's. But I knew that most of it was ridiculous even back then. Usually some guy jackhammering away at some lady, and the lady screaming in "ecstasy" at every stroke, like every stroke was an instant orgasm. I saw it more as comedy than arousing. Then I read up on how they do things. They might film a movie in like 8 different takes even on different days, then splice it together to make it seem like the guy lasted 1.5 hours. They use prosthetic dongs, and some of them are even rigged to shoot mayo, or egg whites to simulate the guy "finishing". And they have dudes who's primary job is to get the pornstar guy hard again so he can keep on shooting another take.

So I never saw the point of finishing outside. Better to finish inside, it's much better.

[Mr. Inquisitive]

As of late I pretty much always cum inside my lady. It is her favourite way and since the successful vasectomy why not. If I do pull out or cum outside it really depends. If we are aiming for her breasts, it is better for me to finish myself so she can use her hands to prop up the targets. If it is from a handjob or blowjob then she has total control.

The biggest variation is when we are in missionary and I pull out some times its me stokin, sometimes I will just rest it on her stomach and let it shoot without either one of us touching it (although when the spurts stops she usually reaches down and milks out the last few drops). My favorite when we are in missionary however, is when she props herself up on one elbow, reaches down with the other hand and strokes me onto her stomach.

Whichever way we choose, I have to say, it always feel like I cum more intensely when she is the one stroking away.