I feel like I can't "handle" my sex drive. I used to masturbate and had a lot of pleasure, it was great. Then I started having sex, and that felt way better. But then I broke up with that person. So I was'nt having any sex, I went back to masterbation and now it kind of sucks. I'v tried to have "sexual friendships" (if you know what I mean) Whenever I try to have one, it ends up failing and they lose interest in me before we even get to have sex. But i'm too cautious with guys. I'm afraid they might be jerks, i'm not attracted to them, they don't want sex, or i'm too shy to even get to know them. I fantasize about sex often through out the day and it really bugs me since I have no way of releasing that tension. I am bisexual, so I could try girls, but since it's kind of new to me, i'm not fully comfortable with it. And yes, I watch porn from time to time. But I feel paranoid when I do....like someone is watching me. I feel fustrated, what can I do?
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you should relax and just go with the flow, by overthinking things and worrying so much will cause you to block ur sexual mentality. girls need to be mentally relaxed. specially stress can wreck things. i myself can never reach orgasm when masturbating and feel worried or bothered by something... -
You're not giving yourself enough "foreplay." Draw yourself a warm bath. Light a few candles. Put on some soft music. Find a trashy romance novel. Get in the bath. Enjoy!Comment
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