[Starfish]

You might want to know if its possible to keep off sex permanently in life. To feel numb and not have any sexual urges. Please sex is natural. The feeling is there. I don't tell anyone except confidential about my sex life. I am responsible and don't live a shame free life but recently I realised that I have had bottled up feelings. But worse the most recent is that I feel choked, numb and sex 'free.' I am worried because I want to be my real self cos this strange good self is really false and deep down I feel abnormal and strange. It is frustrating and annoying. I hate the fact that my sex impulses disappear like magic to leave behind a nasty feeling. I don't know what to do but feel an option is to bear this new strange feeling. I tried easing myself off but it was no good for me at all. It is funny when only last week I was trying to get myself on track with sex education. I hate this new feeling cos it is the worst I have ever felt before. I think it is for good until I realise that it is not a natural means of getting me off sexual feelings. But this new feeling is thoroughly embarrasing and confusing as well. It is abnormal.
Sexual feelings unabated, leaves you with guilt, confusion and embarrasment. So the help I need is please advice if you have ever had this kind of abrupt disruption of your natural sexuality which can be controlled. Recently a short while ago my sex drive released itself in a way and I felt at ease and natural only to have this new stuffed feeling which is worse.
Also I have a depressed state, I can't feel excited not sexually or strong and feel mild pains. If you know how I can feel better or cope with this new feeling please suggest. This is so humiliating I can't imagine what caused this nonsense in my own sexual life. My business and my personal matter. Please suggest drugs, excercises, therapies, herbs. To totally eradicate the stuffed, painful feeling not necessarily bring back my sex drive.

[CoolBreeze]

Dear I would advise taking therapy. One's sex life can be affected by other distractions, depressions and worries. What I would strongly advise against, is taking any drugs at this juncture as there is a tendency to abuse them when one is in a state of depression. You need to talk to your partner or other people around you. Once you solve other collateral issue sin your life then only you could realize the full potential of your sexuality. I am sorry but I can't suggest any thing helpful subsequent to this.

[Lady Syrinx]

Can you find enjoyment in other areas of your life? If you`re feeling a numbness to life in general you may be depressed. Depression usually kills the sex drive.

[Starfish]

Thanks for the advice. I feel so sex free now. But the pains have subsided. I don't think I should be bothered about having a sexual impulse. Release is when you stop feeling heavy or as if there is tension in you. Different women have different experiences. My experience now is that I feel totally numb. It angers me if this is not natural. I feel I should have control of my sexual life but besides this I have no other problems. Depressants don't really kill your sex drive totally there are drugs to do that. I took depressants before and it did not seem as if I had no sexual drive as it does now. I am confused and want to know what interfered with my sexual impulses. .maybe naturally I am feeling like that... Thanks for the advice. I feel bored. I will get used to my new feeling and will be alright.