[a_dub]

There's this amazingly hot girl who works at a restaurant I frequent and she's quite chatty. I've gone in there 4-5 times over the past couple of months and we've made small talk while I waited for my order. I think I'm ready to ask her out. However I'm worried about my inexperience. Suppose she wants to make out, she is definitely going to be able to tell that I've not had much practice kissing. And then sex...if it gets to that, I've got enough idea from imagination and watching porn to know how to perform oral sex and how to have sex in various positions. I'm actually most confident about that part. But I'm pretty sure I'm going to ejaculate very quickly. She must be in her mid to late 20s, so she's probably had way more experience than me.

So should I tell her how inexperienced I am and look like a weirdo, or should I just keep that info to myself and just do it?

[Little]

Project the best you that you can imagine. You don't start off a presentation at work saying, "I'm sorry this is not at the level you may be accustomed to ... " Nope, you just jump in and do your thing the best way you know how.

So, don't tell this girl you're inexperienced ... unless she brings it up. She might. If she does, brush it off. "Why haven't you done XYZ?" "I just never found the right girl/opportunity/moment." Smooth.

I hope everything goes well

[Annieh]

If its just sex you're after, you can find it anywhere, even without experience. Go to a bar, find a trashy easy girl. If she is easy, she won't care that you don't have much practice. Regardless, don't make a big deal about your inexperience and go with the flow.

If you actually like this girl and want to date her, take a deep breath and slow down. Girls who are not the type to just jump in bed with anyone will probably need an emotional connection before doing the deed. It may take a few dates to get to that point so don't rush it or you'll never get the chance. If she likes you she wont care that you're new at It.

I've gone on dates with guys who were upset that I wouldn't sleep with them right away and trust me, they lost all future opportunities when I discovered that sex was all they were after. Just my two cents.

Good luck though and don't worry! Everyone started out inexperienced at some point.

[Annieh]

I just realized my post totally sounded snarky and that wasn't my intention. Apparently I'm in a bad mood and something you wrote hit a nerve. I need to find something better to do during nap time

My main point is still the same though. Don't get too ahead of yourself and go with the flow. You haven't even asked her out yet! Do your best to project confidence. if the opportunity arises to gain experience, great. Like I said, we were all inexperienced at some point.

If its just sex you're after, you can find it anywhere, even without experience. Go to a bar, find a trashy easy girl. If she is easy, she won't care that you don't have much practice. Regardless, don't make a big deal about your inexperience and go with the flow.

If you actually like this girl and want to date her, take a deep breath and slow down. Girls who are not the type to just jump in bed with anyone will probably need an emotional connection before doing the deed. It may take a few dates to get to that point so don't rush it or you'll never get the chance. If she likes you she wont care that you're new at It.

I've gone on dates with guys who were upset that I wouldn't sleep with them right away and trust me, they lost all future opportunities when I discovered that sex was all they were after. Just my two cents.

Good luck though and don't worry! Everyone started out inexperienced at some point.

[a_dub]

You're right Annie. Some girls, its just about sex, but this girl seems special so I could wait 10 dates before getting it if thats what is required.

[jns]

There's this amazingly hot girl who works at a restaurant I frequent and she's quite chatty. I've gone in there 4-5 times over the past couple of months and we've made small talk while I waited for my order. I think I'm ready to ask her out. However I'm worried about my inexperience. Suppose she wants to make out, she is definitely going to be able to tell that I've not had much practice kissing. And then sex...if it gets to that, I've got enough idea from imagination and watching porn to know how to perform oral sex and how to have sex in various positions. I'm actually most confident about that part. But I'm pretty sure I'm going to ejaculate very quickly. She must be in her mid to late 20s, so she's probably had way more experience than me.

So should I tell her how inexperienced I am and look like a weirdo, or should I just keep that info to myself and just do it?

Maybe I missed it, but did you confirm that she doesn't already have a relationship and is actively dating?

[a_dub]

Maybe I missed it, but did you confirm that she doesn't already have a relationship and is actively dating?

No I haven't. Knowing my luck, she's probably already married, haha. But no harm in thinking forward just in case.

[muffin70]

So should I tell her how inexperienced I am and look like a weirdo, or should I just keep that info to myself and just do it?

So you are assuming that you will talk to her, then suddenly start making out and have sex?
Sorry, but dating a woman does NOT work like that

First you need to ask her out, take her on a few dates... go out for coffee, out to the movies, out do dinner - that sort of thing... then you can start worrying about making out and sex.

but lie you said she may aleady be in a relationship / married - and if that's the case then it's game over... LOL!