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  • cocoluv
    Junior Member
    • Oct 2013
    • 2

    Sex trouble please help

    Hi,

    I am 21 years old and i had sex with my bf about a week ago, we tried over two days spent a few hours trying because it was very painful. Until he thrust it in and there was a break and a lot of blood. i waited a week till the rip wasent sore and healed (I dont mean the hymen healed back just the rip edges healed) we tried having sex yesterday but it was still sore, not as sore though. My hymen actually ripped on the right side and thats where its still hurting. My hymen is very stretchy and moves up quite a bit, my bf cant get his penis fully in unless he thrusts suddenly which makes me almost scream.

    Do you think the hymn broke or not? or he says it might need to rip on the other side aswell.

    His girth is about 14 cm and i put a condom on a cucumber which was 11cm girth and tried this and it was bearable. Do you think the rest just needs to stretch or break?


    Thankyou.
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    It will probably take a while for it to become more comfortable. Use plenty of lubrication.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • cocoluv
      Junior Member
      • Oct 2013
      • 2

      after more "effort" today i realised the inside is still there on one side. It's as if the hymen ripped but the membrane walls on the inside are still there on that once side. does this need to rip or streatch?

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