Hi all! Warning, this may get graphic!
I just wanted advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation from either gender. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and living together for 1. At the start, I would come to his house every other weekend, and the sex would be mindblowing, we could go for hours. We would do everything. Now that we live together it is slowly diminishing. We still have sex atleast once a day, but sometimes I feel like its out of necessity for him. Before he used to eat me out, and finger me, now Im lucky if I get that as a birthday present. Every night before we have sex I give him a blowjob, dont get me wrong I love doing it, but even when I dont want to, I do it anyway because its the only way to get him aroused before we have sex. Ive asked him before why he doesnt eat me out anymore for example (because I love that), and he couldnt come up with a good excuse, it was 'You taste funny', or some other excuse. He also turns sex into something funny, by tickling me and like making fart noises (stupid right?) And ruining the moment, and he just finds it funny. He never thought that before! I was giving him a handjob when he asked when I was going to start sucking, and I said 'I thought maybe you could kiss me and use your hands on me!', and he didnt say no, but when he did he just went limp and we couldnt have sex until I gave him a blowjob. I felt horrible. How could something that used to turn him on make him just go limp? Ive put on weight recently, and he has said you would be so much more attractive if you lost a little weight. I know he says this because he is addicted to porn and how women look, and I hate that. I find it revolting...
How can I get on the right track to understand whats going on and why things have changed? Help!!
I just wanted advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation from either gender. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and living together for 1. At the start, I would come to his house every other weekend, and the sex would be mindblowing, we could go for hours. We would do everything. Now that we live together it is slowly diminishing. We still have sex atleast once a day, but sometimes I feel like its out of necessity for him. Before he used to eat me out, and finger me, now Im lucky if I get that as a birthday present. Every night before we have sex I give him a blowjob, dont get me wrong I love doing it, but even when I dont want to, I do it anyway because its the only way to get him aroused before we have sex. Ive asked him before why he doesnt eat me out anymore for example (because I love that), and he couldnt come up with a good excuse, it was 'You taste funny', or some other excuse. He also turns sex into something funny, by tickling me and like making fart noises (stupid right?) And ruining the moment, and he just finds it funny. He never thought that before! I was giving him a handjob when he asked when I was going to start sucking, and I said 'I thought maybe you could kiss me and use your hands on me!', and he didnt say no, but when he did he just went limp and we couldnt have sex until I gave him a blowjob. I felt horrible. How could something that used to turn him on make him just go limp? Ive put on weight recently, and he has said you would be so much more attractive if you lost a little weight. I know he says this because he is addicted to porn and how women look, and I hate that. I find it revolting...
How can I get on the right track to understand whats going on and why things have changed? Help!!
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