[Franny&Zooey]

There have probably been several posts on this subject before, but it's been on my mind lately. At the beginning of my boyfriend and I's relationship I used to be against porn. Him looking at it, downloading, etc. Then I started to watch some, just to see what was so interesting to him. Now we watch it together! I know just about every site, and in fact some of our male friends have come to me asked for suggestions on where to go to see the kind of porn they like. It's a joke that I am a "porn guru", they think it's a game, but in all reality I am, haha. Being that I have only been with one man my entire life, including all of the foreplay, it was a great learning tool for positions, things to do/say, etc. When used in moderation it's a good thing. Anyone agree?

[Little]

My man is in the Army, and quite frankly, I couldn't survive without porn. When he was around I would joke that he'd "ruined porn for me."
He doesn't watch it much, though. The closest thing he gets to it is me sending him nude pictures.
I had a whole conversation with some male friends about free internet porn! They were amazed that I actually knew a good, VIRUS-FREE site. Lol.
People who BUY porn amaze me. "Free on the Internet" is all I have to say about that.

[ChelseaRenee]

Personally, I don't partake in the stuff, but Little since you do, maybe you can explain it to me from a woman's perspective. What's the appeal? If you wanted to masturbate, why not just think about your guy? I'd LOVE to finally get a woman's opinion!

[sourpuss]

Personally, I don't partake in the stuff, but Little since you do, maybe you can explain it to me from a woman's perspective. What's the appeal? If you wanted to masturbate, why not just think about your guy? I'd LOVE to finally get a woman's opinion!

I'm with you on this one. When I'm in a relationship, little else will turn me on other than the thought of the guy I am currently with.

[Little]

I guess that I just transplant the image of my boyfriend over the man in the movie. Since he's only my second partner, and we really only had a few months together to enjoy sex, we didn't get into fantasies or anything. So if I have a certain fantasy that I want to think about one morning, I just look it up, watch a few minutes, and then think about him ^_^

[ChelseaRenee]

I guess that I just transplant the image of my boyfriend over the man in the movie. Since he's only my second partner, and we really only had a few months together to enjoy sex, we didn't get into fantasies or anything. So if I have a certain fantasy that I want to think about one morning, I just look it up, watch a few minutes, and then think about him ^_^

I guess I understand. But I think I intertwine sex and love a lot more than a lot of people, so I couldn't just see two random strangers having sex and think about my guy and have it do anything for me, other than make me feel unfaithful, though I know a lot of people do think about their partners every time they watch porn.

[rcoreyus]

There have probably been several posts on this subject before, but it's been on my mind lately. At the beginning of my boyfriend and I's relationship I used to be against porn. Him looking at it, downloading, etc. Then I started to watch some, just to see what was so interesting to him. Now we watch it together! I know just about every site, and in fact some of our male friends have come to me asked for suggestions on where to go to see the kind of porn they like. It's a joke that I am a "porn guru", they think it's a game, but in all reality I am, haha. Being that I have only been with one man my entire life, including all of the foreplay, it was a great learning tool for positions, things to do/say, etc. When used in moderation it's a good thing. Anyone agree?

I think porn is like drinking alcohol. Fine in moderation, and there is some good quality stuff. Bad in excess, or as an addiction, and don't drink shoe-polish or anti-freeze.

It is a form of fantasy - and I don't think people will ever agree on whether it is OK to fantasize about someone other than your SO.

[Franny&Zooey]

I think porn is like drinking alcohol. Fine in moderation, and there is some good quality stuff. Bad in excess, or as an addiction, and don't drink shoe-polish or anti-freeze.

Agreed. There is a lot of odd, disturbing, and disgusting porn out there. I'm picky and like to keep it very clean.

From a woman's perspective I agree with Little. I just mentally copy and paste my man's face to the man in the video. Trust me, it takes me much longer to reach an orgasm watching porn, than actually having my man. And like I said before, it was good for learning tips on how to do things, being I had never been intimate with anyone previously.

I used to feel that if my b/f ever watched porn, it was like he was cheating on me, from the "sex is love" perspective. I guess that changed when he went into the police academy and I had some lonely nights. As long as we are the ONLY people that we want/need/desire to be sexually active with, then there isn't a problem.