[Helplesshannah94]

I have a very high sex drive. I am a female. I do not know if this is normal. I'm 19. I want sex everyday several times a day. I am dating a guy that I have known very well over the past six years. (He's 21) I find myself wanting it all the time now. I have been sexually active since I was 14 but this just started a couple months ago and not so normal for me. I'm not the type that wants sex allll the time, wellatleast I wasn't. I am very much in love with my boyfriend. We have a great relationship except he often gets frustrated w/ me bc I am wanting sex all the time. (Don't get me wrong we have a fantastic sex life, but apparently i want it to much) I get upset when he turns me down and it makes me feel unattractive an I'm starting to feel self conscious about my body and starting to wonder if he's just loosing interest in me. He tells me nothing is wrong with me an he loves me an so on but I keep finding myself in this predicament. He says he too has a high sex drive but why doesn't he want it as much as me? Is something wrong with me? Am I a sex addict? What can I do to fix this problem. Masturbation doesn't really help me. I'm tired of wanting sex all the time and he gets aggravated when I try. He often says I try to hard. But if I want it I can't help it. I need help. Please do not put rude comments or say that I should not be having sex at my age. I am an adult an am very aware of my actions and I am responsible. I just need to know if there is anything I can do about this. If anyone has any advice is greatly appreciate it. Thank you in advance.

[jns]

How often is you bf willing to have sex? Some guys have trouble performing several times a day over even a few days. Do you always want intercourse, or could he satisfy you with oral or toys?

Sex drive mismatches can be frustrating. The person with the lower sex drive usually controls the frequency of sex.

You are not a sex addict. A high sex drive suddenly kicking in is quite normal.

[TMariee]

Are you on contraception? If you are, that could be why your sex drive has gotten high. If your not, it could help LOWER it. Yes, it can do both lol. Maybe talk to your doctor about it. Also Are you getting full satisfaction/orgasms from sex with him as well? If you don't totally orgasm it will just leave you wanting more.

Another option is, if your boyfriends not up for it as much as you, you could buy a sex toy and let him use that on you when he's not in the mood to have sex himself. Hope this helps x

[Helplesshannah94]

I am not currently taking any contraceptives. And I hardly ever get full satisfaction. That could possibly be why I keep wanting more and more. Thank you

[Helplesshannah94]

We have sex often. About four times a week if not more. We will also have sex several times a day. But there are times when we will go a week or so without because he's not in the mood or tired.

[JonDoe]

Do you both work full-time? Do you share any other hobbies?

I recommend to focus on quality more than quantity, especially if you are already having sex four or more times per week. Perhaps if he gave you a few powerful orgasms before intercourse, you would be fully satisfied.

Gotta admit, I am totally envious. I rarely have sex four times per month, almost never twice in one day, and for a span of five years only had sex four times per year. It's making me age before my time.

[Helplesshannah94]

Yes we both have jobs. But we both help each other with the jobs and we spend about 20 hours a day together every single day. We have a lot in common. We have the same exact hobbies. Again that's also why we spend so much time together.

[rcoreyus]

Different people have different sex drives. Wanting it once a month is fine, as is wanting it several times a day. Its important though that couples have fairly similar sex drives or there are all sorts of problems.

Does your boyfriend know how to get you to orgasm? If not, then try to show / teach him. You may find you are happy with fewer but more satisfying sessions.

Overall though there is nothign wrong with you. There is probably also nothing wrong with him- few men are capable of sex multiple times a day (though some are).

[Helplesshannah94]

I have not experienced an orgasm while having sex. Only with toys. And he has a pretty high sex drive but does not want to act on it all the time.

[TMariee]

I think the issue is definitely the satisfaction. If you are not reaching climax then it will definately leave you wanting more. Like JonDoe said, TEACH him how to make you orgasm. The position can play a drastic part in this as well. We're all different but i personally found missionary position the easiest to climax, but if im on top i can ONLY climax if i lay forward and he thrusts. If I'm sitting up straight i cant no matter how long i'm there lol. Its just about angles and where his penis is rubbing you inside. You might want to give those positions a try or just experiment with him different positions to find the best ones for you. There's plenty of sites online like Sexinfo101 where you can review positions. He's also going to have to be considerate and not race to the finish line before you've gotten there! I hope this helps you!