[Sirisan]

I'm 26 year old female, and im with a guy and sex is great.. But i always have fantasies to have a threesome (2girls and a guy) and to have a girl on girl sex. I told my guy about it.. And he should i should try the girl on girl. I have a friend (i'm not sure if shes a lesbian or bisexual) and is willing let me try girl on girl with her. I asked if she wants a threesome with my guy but she doesn't want to. I dont know what to do.. I'm sooo curious about it and i wanted to try but does it mean that i'm bi-curious/bisexual? Thanks!

[rcoreyus]

The label "bisexual, bi-curious, lesbian" doesn't matter at all. Single words don't describe the whole range of human sexual behavior. You are an adult and anything you do with other consenting adults is absolutely fine - as long as no one is being deceived. If you find a woman who is interested in being intimate with you, you need to let her know that you don't really understand your own feelings yet so that she isn't expecting a long term relationship that might never happen.

If the other girl isn't interested in a 3-some (if she is a lesbian that makes sense), does your guy mind if you just do something with another woman?

My feeling is that if you have the opportunity to experiment, then you should so that you understand what it is you like.

[jns]

Just because this opportunity is available doesn't mean you should automatically go for it. You have to ask yourself about your relationship with your current guy and what effect doing this while the two of you are still together might have. If it was a tight relationship that might get jealous, I would say it may be a bad idea. If it was a looser relationship that would tolerate some side action, then it may be OK. Will it be OK for him to have a side fling somewhere in the future?

If you weren't with a guy, I would say: "no problem."

[LilahX]

Sounds like you're definitely curious I'd definitely steer clear of testing your bisexuality in a situation where your boyfriend is also involved. Threesomes can be tricky on so many levels and you want to get things straight (no pun intended) for yourself before involving him. If your friend is happy for some one on one testing, go for it, especially if you have your boyfriend's support. He's probably hoping you could bring that aspect into your sex life together (what guy doesn't want to watch some f/f action) and if you eventually want to go there, that's a whole other discussion with him. Good luck and have fun

[jen1447]

I feel terrible when I miss these bi-curious guidance/question/help threads.

[ClaireKay]

I just ran across this old post.
I wonder how things turned out for her.

[muffin70]

I'm a little bi-curious too at times..... have been happily married to Mrs M for 14 years and although we don't have intimacy (sex) as much as I'd like, she is my soul mate and I love her more than anything.
I have occasionally looked at gay porn... and although I would not want a man to insert their penis in my rear end, I have thought about what it would be like to masturbate another man and make him ejaculate - and the thought of that interests me somewhat.

[WaveRider]

Most women will have flings with women and never consider themselves bisexual. Doing another woman is a very common women sexual fantasy. The other night I watched my g/f and the g/f of one of my friends in a jacuzzi. There is no doubt in my mind that they were down for a fling. My g/f was the first naked. She was beyond horny. I massaged her clit to orgasm. Then she darn near passed out. Too much alcohol and hot jacuzzi water caused her to come close to passing out. There was nothing for me after that except to take care of her, and I mean to assure she would not get sick. She did awake to a hangover.

[ClaireKay]

I too was bi curious. After my first same sex experience I wanted more so I started hooking up with a lot of women, someone different each night of the week for a few weeks here and there. It was so hot.
I started hooking up with men again which I like but I lean more towards one night stands and threesomes with women.

[WaveRider]

Good Morning, ClaireKay,

I know that many...maybe most women want to do another woman. I know my g/f would. Who knows? She probably has. She was extremely sexually active during her college years. My guess is there isn't anything sexual she hasn't done.

My question is why you prefer other women.

I know that my g/f would do another woman in a heartbeat, but she loves a big, thick penis banging her. After she has 3 or more orgasms, she all but begs for deep and rough penetration. She also loves a big thick penis in her mouth. But she has had a bad experience with a dude who was long and shoved his penis down her throat when he came. When we began dating, she told me to not touch her head while she was giving head until she had her gag reflex dialed in.

BTW, my g/f is one of three women who as told me that when other women say size doesn't matter, they're lying. My g/f had a one nighter with a very small dude. When she felt it in her hand, she knew he wasn't going to work. She did do him. In the morning, he wanted another shot at banging her. She lied her way out of it. She's right up front: she wants a man who his big and thick (she prefer girth over length) and treats her like a bedroom porn star. But she would do a woman.

When she fantasizes about a threesome, 90% of the time, it's with another man. She will fantasize about another woman, and I did watch her last week come close to doing another woman. If she hadn't of gotten to drunk, she would have done it. My friend was good with his g/f doing my g/f. He said that we could watch, which caused me to think that they've done it a few times.