[lpkdz]

I'm sure this issue has been brought up, but I haven't found anything particularly helpful since every post I've seen pertaining to this issue was someone young and not very sexually experienced.

I'm 27, been sexually active for over 10 years with 3 long term relationships in this time, several sexual partners, and I've never been able to orgasm with a partner. I have been masturbating since before I can even remember (seriously, since I was a small child and didn't know what I was doing), the same way every time. I can get myself off in less than 5 minutes, but it's an exact science that can't be duplicated by anyone but me. I'm always face down, and it takes a precise amount of pressure and stimulation. Too much stimulation and it won't happen, and it takes quite a bit of pressure.

I've been dealing with this issue for a long time, and just tell anyone I'm dating that it's not going to happen, and if they make a big deal out of it, it puts a lot of pressure on me, so just don't stress over it. I love sex, so why does it matter. I still feel this way, but I kind of just assumed that eventually I'd get over this issue because it would magically happen one day. I'm starting to think it's not, and that I may need to try and trouble shoot the problem. I feel like I broke myself masturbating so long the same way. I literally can't get it to happen any other way, and believe me I've tried. If I can't even do it myself, I don't know how to help someone else out.

If it never happened I'd be okay, I still enjoy a very healthy sex life with my significant other, but I'd love to get some help and some answers on how to overcome this in hopes that I may be able to enrich my sex life.

[jns]

Prone style masturbation can be difficult for someone else to replicate on you. I read up on it and it seems to be more of a problem for guys, but it can also be problematic for women.

If you want to experiment with changing your style, go without masturbating a while and then resolve only to do it in the style you want to change to. Your will power on only doing it the new way will be the thing that finally gets you to orgasm (if it will happen).

Not every woman reaches orgasm. Of those that do, it is not uncommon to only get to orgasm one way, whether it be by oral, by masturbation or by intercourse. You are not broke. Your style makes it hard for a guy to replicate. Working on changing your style may make it possible for the right guy to be able to get you to orgasm, but nothing is assured.

[rcoreyus]

Maybe you can make your partner part of this. If you lie flat maybe he can penetrate you from behind while you masturbate yourself. Or maybe you can give him oral while you do so. Even if he isn't directly stimulating you while you orgasm he can be in intimate contact when you do. If that doesn't work even letting him watch may help.