[candy.girl1412]

for the first time, i was trying anal with a dildo. the dildo was about 8inches long, and 2 inches thick. i didnt insert it all the way in, but i noticed that i could feel it in but gut, in a poking kind of way, which kind of took the good feeling out of it.

is this supposed to happen? does it go away, and its just a matter of me getting used to it?

any advice would be much appreciated. thanks

[jen1447]

Hey Candy -

You were trying an 8x2 dildo for first time anal?? Danm, that's committed!

Hon, I'd start with something much smaller and narrower. Also don't put it in so far if it hurts. You can get used to the various sensations with a lot of practice (and lube lol), but go slow. To answer your question, anatomies can vary I think but yeah, having something poking around in there can feel pokey.

[candy.girl1412]

haha, i thought that was considered small. i went to a sex shop and they dont seem to have the rubber dildos in a much smaller size. would i be better off using a different material?

thx

[jen1447]

Okay ....graphic sex talk incoming, anybody who might be offended, stop reading!



First of all, are you doing this for um practice, or just anal pleasure during masturbation? The two things can be pretty different depending on ....logistics. Like how large is the thing you might be hoping to put up there during other ....shared... activities, if that's what you're doing it for? If you're 'training,' then eventually you'll have to work up to or near the target size. If it's for your own fun, then for god's sake hon, stay small, unless you really want to become some kind of anal olympic champion.

Rubber ....bleh. Go with a higher quality - silicone. If this is just for you, go check out the Lelo website and order a Mia. It's small and discreet and you'll love it for normal clit masturbation too, but you can put it in your bum without extraordinary dilation lol. Plus it's a vibe, not just an object, so you should enjoy the added sensations.

Always remember tho, clean up well (I think they have cleaners at Lelo), especially if you're going to use that vibe for both your vagina and your bum (which you probably will). And never go from your bum to your V unless you're really really clean in the back and you know it. (Actually just don't. If you have to have dual stimulation or same session stimulation for both with a toy, just get two of them. Or a Mia and a larger toy for your vagina that can also handle g-spot massage and basic penetration. I recommend the Iris for that. And no it's not even 8 inches either!)

[rcoreyus]

2" is really huge for anal - and pretty large for most women vaginal play. Absolutely fine if you enjoy, but as Jen said, you may want to start with something a lot smaller. There are lots of websites with good selections of toys (good vibrations is nice), but they can also be expensive. I have no idea of your financial situation, but rubber toys are cheap - good ones can run $100 or more.

If you only do thinks that feel good you are unlikely to hurt yourself (as long as you follow Jen's cleanliness instructions). If there is a masochistic side to this (also fine - if that is what you like), then you need to be more careful - probably read up on how to do that sort of play safely.

[candy.girl1412]

i am doing just for my own pleasure, to try something new, o masturbate quite often, so i thought id try to spice things up on my own for some different feelings. i did have a look at the Lelo products and they look awesome, got me all excited

thank you so much for your feedback, ill will certainly try your suggestions.

i was also wondering if there are any positions that work best, cause i know we have the g-spot in our vaginas, but is there something similar to it in the bum?

[rcoreyus]

Men have a prostate, but women don't, so I don't think there is a spot that works for everyone. Just see what works for you.

BTW - for anal toys you can also look at gay male toy stores. Some have a very wide (and narrow ) selection

[jen1447]

There really is no pleasure center inside our bums, no. But with the right technique, you can actually stimulate areas of your g-spot through your butt, which can be really intense. The combined feelings of g-spot arousal/stimulation and anal 'fullness' are what get a lot of women off.

As to positions, I'd suggest you just experiment and find what works for you. I think most people find that anal itself (with a partner) is easiest in the beginning in missionary, but our bodies vary so much that who can really say. The good thing is that for you, you can call all the shots because you don't have to worry about what a partner wants (during masturbation). So if it feels good - on your back, on your stomach, butt in the air, on your sides, upside down, whatever - go with it. Have fun.

[Gary7]

If it's for your own fun, then for god's sake hon, stay small, unless you really want to become some kind of anal olympic champion.

Is that in the Winter or Summer Olympics? I may have to watch them this time around! lol.

Anyway, back on topic, there are butt plugs that are MUCH smaller than that candy, including some with vibration options. And anal beads are another option. Look at one of the many online adult toy stores for lots of anal toy options.

In addition to what jen pointed out about "fullness" and hitting the g-spot via that...avenue...there are some nerve endings in anus itself, but nothing really inside. So stimulating that area alone, without actual insertion of anything, may add some new pleasurable sensations.

And of course there's the whole idea that it's "naughty" that can add to the pleasure.

have fun.

[Indio1375]

I didn't quite understand your answer question to feel it. I make anything takes a little getting used to. I think it's one of the best sexual orgasms I've ever had