[Lovcookie]

I have often read (here on this forum too) that most women do not orgasm by vaginal intercourse but rather only by clit slim. Not all women but most. I am wondering about woman who usually or never before orgasm with vaginal intercourse except with some or one men in their life. Why in you opinion was this one man or small group of men able to make you come to orgasm when other could not.

I have had numerous women tel me either I brought them their first even orgasm, or their first ever via vaginal intercourse orgasm or the first time they ever experience multiple orgasms in one session with a man. I asked not because I think I am some hot lover. I put great effort into trying to please a woman because it brings me a ton of pleasure to be able to have her orgasm. This maybe the foundation of the answer to my question but I would love input from the women who have this experiences. Why these men (in your opinion) were able to achieve different results. I know penis size has nothing to do with it as I am think I am average sized or maybe a tad thicker but probably not relevant. Something they did, a mood they set, the time and effort? What ever it was for you.

[Millner]

Hmm I had this great response and then I read your second to last sentence about how you think penis size has nothing to do with it.
I, in fact, am one of the women you are wondering about and I myself have wondered about this too.
I honestly feel it has to do with the way a penis is built and how it "fits". Some fit just great and hit the right spot, some do not. I have to have consistent motion without pausing in order for me to orgasm. Sometimes it takes quite a long time to which I become impatient and then I resort to self stimulation to help it along. Some guys have become frustrated with me due to that thinking it's all their fault but some guys are fine by it.
But, to sum it up I truly believe it has to do with a lot of things and one major thing has to do with how it fits. Everyone is different and everyone fits together differently.

[jns]

Milner, a question about the guys who have brought you to orgasm vs those who have not. Have you felt more or less comfortable with the guys who have brought you to orgasm in comparison to those have not? I am wondering if your mindset (obviously influenced by a guy's personality and actions) has had a lot to do with it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

If I look back a lot, confidence, caring about your partners needs and out of my box assuming but I think I am correct, a lot of guys do everything they can "first" to win the prize, to feel good, for her to brag, to get more sex but ultimately then go into a pattern of "thy self".

I watched INXS a few weeks ago, darn can't get Michael Hutchison out of my mind, now there is one that I know for sure would have corrupted me and had me at day one.

Australian google if you don't know of him.

[atskitty2]

Ah, yes...Michael Hutchison... Another hottie gone too soon

I've not been with a ton of different men, but I think it has a lot to do with how it fits, as Millner says-position can have a role there too, how he uses it, how aroused you are. Time has a lot to do with it too.
My experience has been that some curve differently and hit better spots. Some men position themselves differently even in the same position.

[jen1447]

I think the shape/fit explanation is really good, some guys just 'work.' It also depends on where your particular sensitivities lie, for example a g-spot girl will have her spots hit with deep thrusting but if you're not that girl then maybe not so much. But then there are the intangibles, and since women have the unique power to be deeply aroused and orgasmic based on a lot of emotional and psychological factors, that can't be overlooked.

[a_dub]

^I thought the g spot is only a couple inches into the vaginal canal, so unless the guy has a 2 inch ding dong deep thrusting would miss the spot!

[jen1447]

You should try searching for one sometime, a-dub.

Women's anatomies can vary a lot, but I've never seen one that close to the vaginal opening (and I've known a lot of them). The bigger issue tho is that the penis has to basically go by/past it with friction in order to stimulate it well, it can't just stop when it gets there, because it's not at some kind of natural ending point in most women. That means larger guys will tend to have more luck, and/or guys with an upward curvature. G-spot vibes curve upwards to make this happen better.

Fingers actually do a better job than penises because you can have fine control over what you do with your fingertips. Penises just tend to sort of run amok in there. I can usually reach them using my middle finger.

[atskitty2]

ah...I love ya Jen...
Yep...never had a penis actually hit my g-spot, but the med-school student I dated years ago, knew how to find it, found it & rocked it with his fingers only. He said I have a very unfortunately placed Clit & g-spot, but he had the education, experience & he was very dedicated to his work, I must say! Wonder what he's doing now............

[Heather971]

I have often read (here on this forum too) that most women do not orgasm by vaginal intercourse but rather only by clit slim. Not all women but most. I am wondering about woman who usually or never before orgasm with vaginal intercourse except with some or one men in their life. Why in you opinion was this one man or small group of men able to make you come to orgasm when other could not.
I have had numerous women tel me either I brought them their first even orgasm, or their first ever via vaginal intercourse orgasm or the first time they ever experience multiple orgasms in one session with a man. I asked not because I think I am some hot lover. I put great effort into trying to please a woman because it brings me a ton of pleasure to be able to have her orgasm. This maybe the foundation of the answer to my question but I would love input from the women who have this experiences. Why these men (in your opinion) were able to achieve different results. I know penis size has nothing to do with it as I am think I am average sized or maybe a tad thicker but probably not relevant. Something they did, a mood they set, the time and effort? What ever it was for you.

In my opinion,It's knowing how to use it and knowing what exactly what to do to give the woman an orgasm