[BreakRules&Smile]

Ive been with my boyfriend for awhile now, and I know he loves my body. But come on Im a girl, we all have those imperfections that are big to us but dont matter to your guy. Anyways, sometimes during sex I feel to exposed, like if he wants me to take off all my clothes I always protest, I know he loves me but I cant seem to relax and let my worries go away...any suggestions??

[jen1447]

Well there's the roll-your-eyes suggestion - go to the gym and tone up everything you don't like. Otherwise yes, we all have our insecurities (at least we don't have to worry about the size of our genitals lol) so the best thing to do is learn to live with them and recognize that you're not Wonder Woman and that your BF probably doesn't even want you to be. If it makes you more comfortable to stay partially clothed, do so. It's not a big deal.

[shoshannah]

Women? Self-conscious during sex? Is this a trick question? :-)

I certainly do. I think it's perfectly natural. Just keep telling yourself what you already have said that you know to be true, that he loves your body. For me, feeling my man's excitement during sex (not just his erection but his reactions, orgasm, etc.) is always reassuring, knowing that I'm doing that to him, regardless of how _I_ feel about my body. Even so, there's always a little insecurity.

[jen1447]

Except for those perfectly pretty feet!

[atskitty2]

Ha!! Just bought a Mani/pedi pkg looking forward to warmer weather...hopefully soon!!!

I think getting comfortable and confident with your body comes with experience and with age. Do your best to be active and healthy and you'll naturally feel better about yourself in all aspects.
If he loves your body, let him love all of it. Your confidence and willingness to share it all will turn you both on more. That being said-do so in your own time-when you're ready to do so. Don't rush it either.

[jen1447]

Ooh, love me some yummy toes.

If he loves your body, let him love all of it.

Absolutely - that's on reason I love the whole butt thing lol.

[cathy23]

it dosen't really bother me him helping me undress but he really likes to watch me during our nookie sessions, and sometimes that can be a little embarrassing.

[kira]

The first time I had sex I was self conscious about some blemishes and male type hair growth I have to shave off daily due to a hormone disorder. By the time I got to my husband though I didn't really care. I've even more than doubled my weight from the past 5 years of health issues and doctors making mistakes. I still walk around the house naked most of the time. I'm hoping to fix my weight some this year but I have lots of things against me for exercising. Random heart rate spikes that lead to hyperventilating and bad joints are the main problems. Heart doesn't hold up to cardio and joints don't hold up to weight.

[Archer]

I've been with some sexy girls with perfect bodies and zero confidence, and some average girls with through the roof confidence. Trust me, just rip off your clothes, climb on top of him, and rock his world. He's not gonna stop and be like "hey wait wait, I haven't noticed that mole on your thigh the other 100 times we've had sex, let's stop and discuss this sudden change of events"

[Artistmum]

I spent years in great shape toned abs and filled with self loathing over how ugly i thought i looked ! now a few pounds heavier a few years older I know that frankly the guy is way to happy your getting naked with him and for him to care about a saggy mum tum or the odd fine line and cellulite he really doesn't see it . And btw stripping off and being confident and happy in your skin is a huge added turn on for him and you (sometimes i feel conscious but if i do i just fake it till i make it !) it is all about having the perfect combo of a happy partner who makes you feel like the most amazing creature he ever met . I love getting naked now and strutting around in my undies I am not some size 0 model i am me and frankly as i don't want to give up eating i have to love the curves food gives me !