[chaya]

During our first 2 years of marriage, my husband wanted the lights off because he was shy. It didn't matter to me as I wasn't shy with him

Now he wants the lights on, presumably so he can see better and now I'm shy, especially when he wants to check me out down there. When he's doing that I can't help but think about my sister, she told me one of her boyfriends would check her out under the covers with a flashlight. If hubby ever comes to bed with a flashlight, he'll find himself sleeping alone.

What's your preference, lights on or off?

[Trixareforkids]

Mine is dependent of mood. But when the lights are to be on I want a soft, indirect light, otherwise it just feels too much like a GYN visit.

[tinyclitt]

Lights on. We're not blind feeling our way around. We like to be able to see what we're doing.

[atskitty2]

Yep, totally dependent on mood.

[jen1447]

Now he wants the lights on, presumably so he can see better and now I'm shy, especially when he wants to check me out down there.

Vaginas are so beautiful tho, can you blame him? The BF often likes to be as close as possible to mine lol, even when we're just hanging out and not having sex. I have to admit the flashlight would be odd tho.

I don't worry about lighting much personally, but I will say that when I'm there myself I like to be able to see what I'm doing. It's a really heady feeling to be right there and see it and know deep in your being what's actually happening so you can truly grasp the weight of the experience and appreciate the privilege.

[Archer]

Candles.

[Trixareforkids]

Candles.

Candles are mood (or injury avoidance) lighting, not actual lighting, you really can't see well by candle light...

[Archer]

Big candles.

[jns]

Let there be light. I find vulvae fascinating. That being said, having sex near someone who doesn't know it is going on may be best accomplished without light.

[Trixareforkids]

having sex near someone who doesn't know it is going on may be best accomplished without light.

Almost (so very very close) made Dr. Pepper come out of my nose, oh gawd it burns!