[Archer]

Those questions 1-4 btw, are the same questions I would ask of anyone in your situation about themselves and their significant other.

[Trixareforkids]

Would you really ask a woman that? Do you feel it holds the same weight for women?

I agree that some self-searching is in order any time you make a big discovery about yourself, but it's not always very hard. For some it really is just as easy as 'huh, well what'd you know'. My desire to explore bi-curious tendencies has increased over the years but its never made me question my life-term commitment to my hubby, so the only difference is the frequency in which it appears in fantasy material/scenarios.

[atskitty2]

I guess I just disagree that this necessarily reflects his own sexuality. It seems to me he's open minded enough or he wouldn't have stopped on those clips in the first place, and says he isn't attracted to men.

Of course, it could be that it's just an opening of a new concept in his life now too, idk.

[muffin70]

Well thanks for your replies and your concerns.... I don't have a problem and I'm not homosexual or homophobic.
Had I not stumbled across these clips then my thread here would not have started... LOL
there are some secrets I keep from my wife..... she never tells me how much that dress or the shoes she bought last week were and I never tell her if I have looked up any pornography on the computer - but if she asks me then I will tell her

The problem is we make love about once a week or every 2 weeks and I need more relief than that, so occassionally I will 'relieve' myself in the bathroom at work, or at home if she is not there.... she doesn't like it if I have 'done things to myself' (as she puts it) between our love making sessions and thinks I should save myself or 'hold on' until we make love. But if I do this I get so turned on and end up ejaculating inside her after less that 2 minutes of penetration. 90% of the time I stimulate her with my fingers first and make her climax, then we will make love.
We've talked about it and she is not a morning person, says we go to bed at night too late or she's not in the mood... but doesn't understand why I can't wait until she is in the mood....

[muffin70]

oh by the way I have never cheated on her and I never will - she is my rock!

[Trixareforkids]

Muffin, if you enjoyed watching the men enjoying each other, you're obviously not homophobic, and loving your wife and her body rules out the homosexual, but there is still the bi question. Is it something you'd explore if you weren't with your wife or just something you enjoyed watching? It's an interesting question (for you to answer only to yourself) even if it's a moot point at the moment.

Also, I've never understood people's proprietary attitudes towards other people's bodies. The whole 'saving yourself for me' thing kinda creeps me out, it feels like they're thinking of you as their sexual toy/doll that when they aren't playing with you, your sexual self should just deflate. If you aren't forgoing play with them what difference does it make if you play by yourself? Yup, just don't get it.

[muffin70]

Muffin, if you enjoyed watching the men enjoying each other, you're obviously not homophobic, and loving your wife and her body rules out the homosexual, but there is still the bi question. Is it something you'd explore if you weren't with your wife or just something you enjoyed watching? It's an interesting question (for you to answer only to yourself) even if it's a moot point at the moment.

nope definitely not bi.... have never been interested in men sexually... just stumbled across the couple of gay clips as mentioned in my original post.... it's never happened before and may never happen again... who knows...

[Trixareforkids]

Well then it was probably just a case of things looking more attractive when you're aroused. If I were you I'd be tempted to go there cold and see if it was any different, just for curiosity's sake. I'm the incredibly curious kind I enjoy research into human behavior, especially my own.