[sweet_peaa]

Me n my bf been together for 4 years and he has a foot fetish he use to Jack off have sex lick kiss everything! But now he doesn't and I even notice that he watches porn all the time ! Which I don't like by the way he's even starting to look it up on my phone! Because he doesn't have one right now! And that's when I been seeing he's lookin at foot fetish porn all the time! I don't really know how to feel about the situation any one help

[LilahX]

I'm afraid it sounds like he's lost interest not only in his fetish with you, but with you. If he has a woman who is happy to indulge his fetish yet isn't interested in doing that with her it's not a good sign for how things are going with you two. Will he talk to you about it? Good communication is the key to a good r/ship.

[Patti-here]

Excuse me for my ignorance on the subject,, but just what is a foot fetish ? What can you do with feet ?

[jen1447]

Oh my, don't get me started. You've never gotten up to any footsie Pattie?

[Patti-here]

Oh my, don't get me started. You've never gotten up to any footsie Pattie?

Well maybe under the table,, just a little though

[Motorguy]

Me n my bf been together for 4 years and he has a foot fetish he use to Jack off have sex lick kiss everything! But now he doesn't and I even notice that he watches porn all the time ! Which I don't like by the way he's even starting to look it up on my phone! Because he doesn't have one right now! And that's when I been seeing he's lookin at foot fetish porn all the time! I don't really know how to feel about the situation any one help

This really puzzle me when i hear guy's ignoring there girl friends or wife's to watch porn on the computer or smart phone to masturbate with.Then have real sex with there ladies. It's completely mind boggling to all hell. Instead of going to a sex therapist they really need to go see a shrink and find out the inner deep thoughts that's rattling around in there head. Good luck on your adventure and hope you can figure this all out with your boy friend. I see you have no serous ties to your boy friend I think your better off finding a boy friend who will really spend time with you emotionally and physically and no porn without you.

[Motorguy]

Excuse me for my ignorance on the subject,, but just what is a foot fetish ? What can you do with feet ?

People who enjoy licking and sucking on each of toes or the complete feet. Plus other sexually pleasure with feet on other body parts as well lol.

[soleman]

Hey, just to add a guy's perspective to this thread.
I've had a foot fetish since childhood and it's a perfectly healthy thing, but looking at porn and masturbating to pictures or videos of other women's feet is another thing altogether and if it bugs you, then you ned to confront your BF about it.
To be honest a fetish (or paraphilia as it's known medically) can be a really compelling thing, very hard to control. But if you love your guy and think it's worth sticking with him, then there may be ways that you can satisafy his fetish and help him get off the porn.
My wife is aware of my fetish and tries her best to integrate it into our sex life, without letting it get out of control. It's a difficult balancing act because we both know if we let it get too far it will take over completely. She doesn't really get much pleasure out of getting her toes sniffed, sucked and all that, but as with all sex, it's about give and take. She can see that it makes me happy and she indulges it - to some degree. That's because she knows that if she denies me all access to her feet, eventually I'll go and satisfy those needs in other ways.
Find out what it is about feet that he likes, because it's different for every fetishist. For some guys it's licking and sucking, so you could let him do that during sex. You may even find it pleasurable... Some guys (like me) mostly like the smell of sweaty feet. I know to most people this sounds revolting and it may be a step too far for some girls, but my wife occasionally wears certain shoes for a few days that make her feet particularly stinky and then lets me have a "session" where I get to sniff and jerk off at the same time. As I said, I know the idea makes most people want to throw up, but to me it's pure heaven and it sort of keeps my fetish at bay for a few weeks until I get another fix.
Basically it's about talking openly to your BF and finding out what his needs are whether or not you are willing to go with it. His end of the bargain of course is giving up the porn.
Hope this helps, good luck!

[Something_Awesome]

I'm afraid it sounds like he's lost interest not only in his fetish with you, but with you. If he has a woman who is happy to indulge his fetish yet isn't interested in doing that with her it's not a good sign for how things are going with you two. Will he talk to you about it? Good communication is the key to a good r/ship.

This. Lilah said everything I was thinking as I was reading your post. I,know hearing this must not be easy for you. I woukd try talking to him but my guess is he won't be very straight forward with you.

[Baboy]

Soleman, your candor is indeed admirable. It might help some to better understand these things. I can't say that I would be able to appreciate stinky feet, but no one is asking me to. I think you have also offered some worthwhile perspective to sweet peaa.

I have seen porn involving guys using their feet to masturbate guys and guys shooting cum onto their girl's feet. I don't quite get it, but hey, we aren't all the same. It seems harmless enough. I think some women would be turned off by that kind of thing, but it is quite plain that many are willing, perhaps even enthusiastic, participants. It sounds like sweet peaa has been at least willing, but now her bf has withdrawn from her, despite her accommodating attitude.

The problem of porn taking precedence to the real thing with a partner seems to come up with some regularity on this forum. Also something I don't quite get. I look at porn sometimes, but I find it gets boring very quickly and a lot of it does not seem too real. For example, one will often encounter a couple having anal sex. The guy pulls out and puts his tool in the girl's mouth, then in her vagina, then in her mouth again. I am not sure how many girls like that. Maybe the girls I have known are just different. Then there's the endless what I call "sewing machine" sex scenes, where the guy thrusts for a couple of minutes at such a furious pace that it's almost impossible to count the number of reciprocations per minute. Both have pained expressions on their faces and sometimes utter the same endless stream of vocalizations that do not make it sound all that pleasurable. Then the guy pulls out and jacks off in the girl's face. Geez, why do we never see the girl bring him to orgasm? For me, a woman's touch would be vastly superior to my own. But no, what we see is the guy getting himself off. Why not just leave the girl out of it? Or how about the woman sitting with 4 or 5 guys standing around her, all jacking off into her mouth and on her face? Maybe I am weird, but I fail to see that as a good time for anyone. Maybe that explains why I am not a big porn fan. So much of what is portrayed is so unappealing.

I don't mind seeing a couple who appear to care for and respect each other having what looks to me like "real" sex. But I can take only so much of watching others. And my reaction is never to make me want to masturbate, but it often makes me want to have sex with my wife.

And that, sweet peaa, is a long way of getting back to your situation. It sounds like you have been replaced by porn. What is the rest of your relationship like? Do you share time and interests together. Are there shows of affection, even if not sexual? You suggest that you were willing to indulge his fetish, but that proved insufficient. Is there more to it? Did you ever argue about it, or did you make him feel guilty about it? I am just casting about here for possible insights/answers.

You two are four years into a relationship. Was all well until recently? I doubt you want to simply end this relationship and move on. If you did, you wouldn't be here. I have not offered much, but there are some intelligent posts above and perhaps more to follow. I hope you can work it out.