[Something_Awesome]

Hey, just to add a guy's perspective to this thread.
I've had a foot fetish since childhood and it's a perfectly healthy thing, but looking at porn and masturbating to pictures or videos of other women's feet is another thing altogether and if it bugs you, then you ned to confront your BF about it.
To be honest a fetish (or paraphilia as it's known medically) can be a really compelling thing, very hard to control. But if you love your guy and think it's worth sticking with him, then there may be ways that you can satisafy his fetish and help him get off the porn.
My wife is aware of my fetish and tries her best to integrate it into our sex life, without letting it get out of control. It's a difficult balancing act because we both know if we let it get too far it will take over completely. She doesn't really get much pleasure out of getting her toes sniffed, sucked and all that, but as with all sex, it's about give and take. She can see that it makes me happy and she indulges it - to some degree. That's because she knows that if she denies me all access to her feet, eventually I'll go and satisfy those needs in other ways.
Find out what it is about feet that he likes, because it's different for every fetishist. For some guys it's licking and sucking, so you could let him do that during sex. You may even find it pleasurable... Some guys (like me) mostly like the smell of sweaty feet. I know to most people this sounds revolting and it may be a step too far for some girls, but my wife occasionally wears certain shoes for a few days that make her feet particularly stinky and then lets me have a "session" where I get to sniff and jerk off at the same time. As I said, I know the idea makes most people want to throw up, but to me it's pure heaven and it sort of keeps my fetish at bay for a few weeks until I get another fix.
Basically it's about talking openly to your BF and finding out what his needs are whether or not you are willing to go with it. His end of the bargain of course is giving up the porn.
Hope this helps, good luck!

Soleman, I've been wondering about this fetish. Is it possible that part of the turn on for you is that it makes you feel submisive or degraded? Some guys like that during sex. I personally don't have such a fetish, but my GF's ex was really into her feet.

I've always been curious about this fetish, and thats pretty cool that your partner will try to make her feet stinky for you... i think..

[soleman]

Is it possible that part of the turn on for you is that it makes you feel submisive or degraded?

To be honest I don't think that's really the case for me, but I do agree that for a lot of foot fetishists the degradation factor is a key element. Some foot fetish porn centers around the idea of domination, "trampling" (where the guy lies down and the girl pushes his face down with her feet, forcing him to breathe) and so on, but that doesn't interest me in the slightest.

In my case I think it's more to do with "intimacy" and "secrecy" that in my mind are associated with a girl's feet. My first memory of feeling attracted to a girl's feet is from my elementary school days - I must have been 6 or 7 - and watching a girl from another class take off one of her shoes and socks in the playground (can't remember why) and looking at the sole of her foot. I can clearly remember watching her foot with total fascination, I guess you could say arousal, even though I was so young. I wondered if her foot was sweaty, how it might smell, and I imagined myself sniffing it.
To this day, I still see women's feet as a kind of private place - not as secret as her genitalia, but still a place that is usually covered, a place that gets moist and smelly and that many girls feel shy or even embarrassed about. I guess it would be hard for most people to relate to this, but it's the best way I can explain my trigger.

I suspect there must have been some previous experience (maybe innocent games played with my sister?) that planted the seed for this fascination, but the memory I have described is my first conscious one. There are many more after that, because my fetish has just kept growing and developing since.

I want to add that I am perfectly capable of having intercourse without feet being involved at all. I am still turned on by other parts of a woman's body, all the usual ones that "normal" guys find arousing, so this fetish does not limit my sexual relationship with my partner. In fact for me it enhances it.

But going back to the OP, I think the same answer has been given by different people here: the main thing is for sweet peaa
to try and communicate more effectively with her BF, being honest about how his porn addiction makes her feel and see if he is willing to make an effort to at least cut down on it. Personally I really dislike porn, even foot fetish porn, for the same reason that Baboy has described: it's all just so fake... The girls are clearly just not enjoying it, it's all play acting, so it just doesn't turn me on. But I wonder if maybe sweet peaa's guy is just looking at foot fetish porn because his sexual fantasies are not being satisfied. If so, the question is: what are these fantasies and are they reasonable - would she be able and willing to fulfil them - or are they more than she can handle?

In the end, it always comes down to communicating and expressing your feelings to each other. Honesty is always the best policy! I have got used to talking about my foot fetish over the years, which is why I have no problem being candid about it here. I just hope I haven't shocked or offended anyone.

[Something_Awesome]

Interesting read Soleman. I am going to go out on a limb and say it is more than a seed, as this fetish occurs in a boatload of males. Maybe you foot guys are enlightened on something that us non-foot guys aren't.

I'm glad this topic came up because I had tried to actually develop a fetish for feet with my current GF. She actually has amazing looking feet. Very femenine. It is not my favorite physical part of her, but it is a feature of hers that has almost an idealistic appearence (which is why I tried to get into it). I often check them out when we are out together. I just cant get into it them sexually though.

[soleman]

Somehow I don't think feet can be an "acquired taste", you either have it or you don't. I do like the idea that it's a sort of "enlightenment" but in truth it's probably just like all other sexual deviations - they stem from early childhood experiences that we cannot even remember.
Research has shown that the "sex map" in human brains forms very early on, way before we can be conscious of what's happening or able to filter any of the input.
I'm just glad my particular deviation is fairly harmless (unlike some of the others), quite common and generally seen as excentric and amusing, rather than creepy. Because of this, I was able to have my wicked way with many girls feet before I met my wife - not just girlfriends, but friends and casual acquaintances who didn't think there was anything wrong with a foot massage and even the occasional toe suck...
It was a lot of fun! Now I stay faithful to my woman and fortunately she owns one of the nicest and best smelling pair of feet I have ever encountered. But of course I already knew that before I proposed ;-)

[Something_Awesome]

Somehow I don't think feet can be an "acquired taste", you either have it or you don't. I do like the idea that it's a sort of "enlightenment" but in truth it's probably just like all other sexual deviations - they stem from early childhood experiences that we cannot even remember.
Research has shown that the "sex map" in human brains forms very early on, way before we can be conscious of what's happening or able to filter any of the input.
I'm just glad my particular deviation is fairly harmless (unlike some of the others), quite common and generally seen as excentric and amusing, rather than creepy. Because of this, I was able to have my wicked way with many girls feet before I met my wife - not just girlfriends, but friends and casual acquaintances who didn't think there was anything wrong with a foot massage and even the occasional toe suck...
It was a lot of fun! Now I stay faithful to my woman and fortunately she owns one of the nicest and best smelling pair of feet I have ever encountered. But of course I already knew that before I proposed ;-)

I did not know about this. I have an obsessions with giving oral on a woman but hate receiving oral in return. I often wonder why that is, or what life experience caused me to be wired this way.

[owen_rae_13]

Oh my, don't get me started. You've never gotten up to any footsie Pattie?

What is footsie Pattie?

[jen1447]

Sorry, I meant "....footsie, Patti?" (was asking Patti.)

Footsie is just a generic term for playing around (with feet, among other things).

[Patti-here]

LOL

I've played with lot's of things.

[Motorguy]

LOL

I've played with lot's of things.

Well that's good to know Patti lol.