[Romy]

So I love receiving oral sex and I have the most amazing partner who loves going down on me every chance he gets and whilst it feels so amazing I am not able to cum....my partner says it's all to do with me not letting go. I worry about if his tongue or neck is getting sore, wondering how I taste, whether I'm taking too long to cum etc etc.

I worry that how I prefer to masturbate (shower head and electric toothbrush) has desensitised me but he disagrees completely. Anyway.....he wants me to ask what other people think.....am I not cumming because I'm so caught up over thoughts about him and the fact I prefer to give than receive or have I truly desensitised myself and unable to cum through oral sex????

[Patti-here]

So I love receiving oral sex and I have the most amazing partner who loves going down on me every chance he gets and whilst it feels so amazing I am not able to cum....my partner says it's all to do with me not letting go. I worry about if his tongue or neck is getting sore, wondering how I taste, whether I'm taking too long to cum etc etc.

I worry that how I prefer to masturbate (shower head and electric toothbrush) has desensitised me but he disagrees completely. Anyway.....he wants me to ask what other people think.....am I not cumming because I'm so caught up over thoughts about him and the fact I prefer to give than receive or have I truly desensitised myself and unable to cum through oral sex????

Just don't worry about him, and I'm sure you taste fine,, and I don't think it's possible to desensitize yourself,, something you can try though,, I have a very small vibe called a pocket rocket,, I'll use that on my C**it while he concentrates on my lips and the spot between my back door and va jay jay,, I can cum over and over again by doing that,, or you can do a 69 and give and receive at the same time,, Cumming together at the same time is a wonderful feeling...

[Something_Awesome]

Is he putting fingers inside of you? Or is he strictly rocusing on the clitoris? I can't imagine hes not doing it already, but have him slide his fingers inside?

Other than that, I think one common mistake a lot of guys make is that they don't use their mouth right. Like, its used in a way that exhausts their mouth/tongue very quickly. Even if he keeps going while his mouth/tongue gets tired, he will lose composure and the quality of the stimulation suffers. I know this because I made this mistake when I first started giving oral. Now, I don't get tired at all.

[Something_Awesome]

Also, try different positions and try straddling his face? My girlfriend loves to straddle my face regardless of position, but especially on top. You can face him, sit on his pecs, and have him eat you out that way. He will need a pillow so his neck does not get tried or you will need to pull his hair to reduce the resistance against his neck. This position is also great for riding his face (you will have to lift your butt off his chest). While riding, he can nuse use his hands on your butt cheeks while you suspend yourself in the air. Only thing is that in this position, it becomes harder to use the fingers inside the vagina as its harder to move the chin out the way.

Just know that if he loves doing it, he loves how you smell and taste. Don't worry about it. He sounds like he may be like me. In which case, he wouldn't change a thing about how it smells and tastes. I go down on my girlfriend while she is on her period, and while she used to worry about the smell (and yea it did smell a bit), I swear to you that after 30 seconds I cannot smell it anymore. I get used to the smell and it really just smells like I am breathing scentless air.

Hope that last part helps.

[PhrendlyPhil]

It could be you, it could be his technique, or a combo of both. Be patient and lower your expectations. Before working on technique, acclimate yourselves with some mutual masturbation. If you can, try to do it without the machinery. He can glean some techniques by watching you rub/finger yourself. If you're able to cum this way in front of him, you're more than half way there. You can also enjoy watching him stroke his manhood in front of you. After a couple of weeks of that you can throw in a bit or oral and see if you're more relaxed. If you still can't cum, then finish yourself while he watches. It's gonna take time.

[Patti-here]

Some men are not all that good at oral, they need to be taught,, communication is key in all relationships,, show and tell has worked for me in the past.

[Motorguy]

Just don't worry about him, and I'm sure you taste fine,, and I don't think it's possible to desensitize yourself,, something you can try though,, I have a very small vibe called a pocket rocket,, I'll use that on my C****it while he concentrates on my lips and the spot between my back door and va jay jay,, I can cum over and over again by doing that,, or you can do a 69 and give and receive at the same time,, Cumming together at the same time is a wonderful feeling...

That's why they call it a pocket rocket because it will really send you to the moon. My wife favorite trip many times lol.

[jns]

I'll use that on my C****it while he concentrates on my lips and the spot between my back door and va jay jay

That spot is often called the perineum.

[jns]

Romy, I'm sure your SO likes your taste. If you want to know what you taste like, use a finger to taste and smell. After he has gone down on you, have him give you a kiss with a lot of tongue.

[Patti-here]

That spot is often called the perineum.

Oh, I've always heard it referred to as the 'Taint'