[jns]

There are various ways to use your tongue and lips while giving a lady oral. You can use a whetted lip to stimulate the clitoris while using your tongue to stimulate the urethral sponge area or in the vagina itself if either of those areas are what gets her going. For many ladies, direct stimulation of the clitoris is too intense, so try stimulating it through the clitoral hood. Work on pumping up the sexual tension by going at it for a while then going to other areas to tease for a short while before coming back. Try to work on not being predictable. Kiss her lips, her ears, her neck, her stomach, her thighs, etc. before coming back. Use your hands to rub and lightly squeeze. Read her body language to gauge what is getting her excited. Listen to her breathing and know when she is getting close. Make it all about her to help her let go.

[Motorguy]

Some men are not all that good at oral, they need to be taught,, communication is key in all relationships,, show and tell has worked for me in the past.

I think Pattie, many guys are just in a hurry like it's a race and not take there time and just enjoy doing oral on there GF or wife. They want to get right to the sex and not spend time with the foreplay and warm up your female partner. There thinking it's all them to get off and who cares of there thinking my wife or GF need to get off as well it's just so sad.

[Patti-here]

Well then maybe they should all become Priests.

[Romy]

I think Pattie, many guys are just in a hurry like it's a race and not take there time and just enjoy doing oral on there GF or wife. They want to get right to the sex and not spend time with the foreplay and warm up your female partner. There thinking it's all them to get off and who cares of there thinking my wife or GF need to get off as well it's just so sad.

I'm really lucky motorguy as my SO wants to do oral on me all the time....he loves to spend ages there and he definitely mixes it up and is honestly doing everything right. He always puts my needs first and I guess it's just not something I'm used to. I'm used to being the one who tries hard to please and definitely prefer to give rather than receive. After ten minutes or so of him being down there I start getting concerned about hoe long it's taking me to cum, is his neck and tongue hurting, is he wishing I would hurry up and cum. I will mention these things to him and he says to me I'll never cum if that's what I'm thinking about.....he says I need to lie back, relax and enjoy it. There is nothing wrong with his technique because it really does feel so good.....and he's definitely not in a hurry.....it's all me.

So I guess what I need to ask is how long on average does it take a woman to cum through oral sex?

[Patti-here]

If he's doing it correctly it shouldn't take any longer than 7/10 minutes.

[Motorguy]

I'm really lucky motorguy as my SO wants to do oral on me all the time....he loves to spend ages there and he definitely mixes it up and is honestly doing everything right. He always puts my needs first and I guess it's just not something I'm used to. I'm used to being the one who tries hard to please and definitely prefer to give rather than receive. After ten minutes or so of him being down there I start getting concerned about hoe long it's taking me to cum, is his neck and tongue hurting, is he wishing I would hurry up and cum. I will mention these things to him and he says to me I'll never cum if that's what I'm thinking about.....he says I need to lie back, relax and enjoy it. There is nothing wrong with his technique because it really does feel so good.....and he's definitely not in a hurry.....it's all me.

So I guess what I need to ask is how long on average does it take a woman to cum through oral sex?

Well with my wife she can be blasting off within 10 to 15 minutes with fingers and tongue and less then 10 minutes with pocket rocket. But my wife is a squirted as well. if I keep licking the clit after she orgasm it's like a guy how sensitive the head of the penis get after coming the same with her clitoris she will push me away and go's into these moaning and groaning spasm that will last a few minutes till she like this very satisfied look on her face. This is all before the real sex has started. Maybe invest in a pocket rocket or a small vibrator so your clitoris can get work and have that BIG O before you move on for the other fun Romy.

[Motorguy]

If he's doing it correctly it shouldn't take any longer than 7/10 minutes.

That about right Pattie, is that with pocket rocket or just fingers or tongue.

[Patti-here]

That about right Pattie, is that with pocket rocket or just fingers or tongue.

Without,,, I don't always use it..

[Motorguy]

Without,,, I don't always use it..

With wife she will mostly uses the pocket rocket other times her fingers just all depends how long she want to pleasure self before blasting off.

[Patti-here]

A lot of times I just like to lay back and let the guy or girl do all the pleasuring.