[Ajams]

Hi everyone, so I've never ever spoke/wrote about this before but anyway here it goes. I'm 24 and I can't have an orgasm. When I have sex with my current partner it's feel really good like I'm about to orgasm but I don't orgasm. I feel like something stops me. I've never had an orgasm in my life I don't think. I've slept with other guys and it doesn't feel good. I've asked friends what it feels like when they cum and the way they explain the feeling I've never had. Is there something wrong with me? I was raped when I was a child is it something to do with that? I feel really embarrassed about it.

[quietlykinky]

a lot of people have trouble with orgasms some people can't have one from what I've heard but try something a little different it might help i can't have one just from penetration only, i have to have stimulation to my clit. Try new things hopefully it will help cause that's definitely a feeling you don't want to miss out on! Good luck

[Motorguy]

Hi everyone, so I've never ever spoke/wrote about this before but anyway here it goes. I'm 24 and I can't have an orgasm. When I have sex with my current partner it's feel really good like I'm about to orgasm but I don't orgasm. I feel like something stops me. I've never had an orgasm in my life I don't think. I've slept with other guys and it doesn't feel good. I've asked friends what it feels like when they cum and the way they explain the feeling I've never had. Is there something wrong with me? I was raped when I was a child is it something to do with that? I feel really embarrassed about it.

Oh my Ajams, I am sorry you went through a rape that not easy to deal with. I have could see that the rape could cause you not to achieve a orgasm you are holding back not allowing your body to relax and enjoy the pleasure of sex from your partner. My advice would be to go see a sex therapist and deal maybe with these issue from the rape you went through in your childhood. But the main thing do not feel embarrassed about this many other women have suffer from this not just you it's a trauma you need to work and put it out of your mind. One other idea would maybe I not sure if you into masturbation but get your self a vibrator or pocket rocket turn your phone off lock the doors and take a bath get yourself relax and lay on the bed and just learn about your body with your finger what feel good and the vibrator will help with all this.I feel once you have this orgasm it will make your sex life some much better with your partner. So good luck in the future lets us know how it go's and if you finally had the long awaited orgasm.

[bubba29]

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[Ajams]

I can make myself orgasm when I'm alone but it's not mind blowing like people say. It's really frustrating as you can imagine lol. But yeah I think your right. I don't seem to relax enough to let my body orgasm when I'm with someone. I think seeing a sex therapist could help. I've had some therapy about the rape but I've not seen a sex therapist.

[Ajams]

Oh I didn't know that quietlykinky. It's seems like everyone can orgasm but me lol. Yeah I'll try new things and hopefully it will work out. Thanks for you advise :-)

[Motorguy]

I can make myself orgasm when I'm alone but it's not mind blowing like people say. It's really frustrating as you can imagine lol. But yeah I think your right. I don't seem to relax enough to let my body orgasm when I'm with someone. I think seeing a sex therapist could help. I've had some therapy about the rape but I've not seen a sex therapist.

Well yes Ajams the sex therapist will help you relax with a partner during sex. My 2nd oldest daughters was attack was not rape because she end up getting the better of her attacker. Let's just say this guy will never father children it was of her martial art training. But she went to a sex therapist because she was having these same issue that she discuss with her mother and was told to seek professional help and it's worked for her now. Well when you really achieve that real orgasm you will know it because you will think you went to the moon during it and completely drain. Good luck I hope you seek that professional help I know it will work well for you.