[redrose2]

I posted on here yesterday about boyfriend moving in with me a week ago and we havnt had sex for a week, now we had a bust up over this and he decided to sleep on the sofa (fine by me!)....well....I'm raging but I don't know if I'm over reacting here, I went bed and watched film, heard noises, silenced the TV, he was only bloody masturbating, I made it known that I heard him by sending him a text saying I hope you cleaned up after yourself, no reply, hour later I hear him going at it again......now I was offended first time as I'm here in bed!...but after hearing him again I don't know what to think, I think I actually want to hit him (although I won't, I just think "you cheeky ************************") am I over reacting???? He doesn't go near me but his hand...happily...twice! I'm not ugly or anything but he's making me feel I am

[redrose2]

Never mind replying guys, think it's probably best I finish with him as if he's doing that then he's either not attracted to me or he's unhappy.

[Motorguy]

I posted on here yesterday about boyfriend moving in with me a week ago and we havnt had sex for a week, now we had a bust up over this and he decided to sleep on the sofa (fine by me!)....well....I'm raging but I don't know if I'm over reacting here, I went bed and watched film, heard noises, silenced the TV, he was only bloody masturbating, I made it known that I heard him by sending him a text saying I hope you cleaned up after yourself, no reply, hour later I hear him going at it again......now I was offended first time as I'm here in bed!...but after hearing him again I don't know what to think, I think I actually want to hit him (although I won't, I just think "you cheeky ************************************************") am I over reacting???? He doesn't go near me but his hand...happily...twice! I'm not ugly or anything but he's making me feel I am

Oh wow that is a blow to the ego. I am confused why he was sleeping on the couch in the first place. Was you having sex before he move in and now none is that the problem here. Well if you like this guy take the bull by the horns and if you hear him masturbating again go out to the living room get naked and tell him right out what is your problem here you don't like this naked body and take his penis it's called taking the bull by the horn and tell him flat out what feels better your hand or my vagina and let him have it. Either he joins the club or wants nothing to do with you then.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hey redrose. So why is he moving in with you ask yourself that question.

Why can't you excite and wear things that you think he would like only to be shot down... It's for the first date? What is with that?

You haven't had sex for a week he prefers masturbating.

Don't let him move in, read your reply stick to it, sounds as if he doesn't respect women and wants a easy ride, as in home wise but doesn't respect you.

You are not over acting, leave him and find a real man for you.

[redrose2]

Hi motor guy, he was sleeping on the couch as we had a bust up over his moods and sudden stopping of sex over this week, so he slept on couch, Yeh we were having sex literally every day and in some cases every other day. Sex has stopped completely, he moved in last sUn and we havnt done it since last Saturday. He completely denies doing it but it's a very distinctive sound and it couldn't have been anything else. Hey wish, he says he's moving in as he loves me and my boy and wants to spend every day with us, which, I believe him as he seems genuine, but this whole no we bit he says is because of reduced libido since he gave up weed just over a week ago, he said he gave it up because he doesn't want me and my son having that in our lives. If he had a reduced libido then I don't understand the masturbating. The whole sex underwear bit I don't understand either but I guess that's maybe just personal preference?

[Motorguy]

Hi motor guy, he was sleeping on the couch as we had a bust up over his moods and sudden stopping of sex over this week, so he slept on couch, Yeh we were having sex literally every day and in some cases every other day. Sex has stopped completely, he moved in last sUn and we havnt done it since last Saturday. He completely denies doing it but it's a very distinctive sound and it couldn't have been anything else. Hey wish, he says he's moving in as he loves me and my boy and wants to spend every day with us, which, I believe him as he seems genuine, but this whole no we bit he says is because of reduced libido since he gave up weed just over a week ago, he said he gave it up because he doesn't want me and my son having that in our lives. If he had a reduced libido then I don't understand the masturbating. The whole sex underwear bit I don't understand either but I guess that's maybe just personal preference?

Well one thing I glad he's not bringing the pot into your place with your son there that's great. He does have morals there that says something for him. But i do not believe in a second stopping smoking pot made him not want to have sex with you. That he lost his libido because he's stop pot yea right and I have a rust color bridge to sell you for dirt cheap as well lol. If he lost his libido then why is he masturbating then. Women know if you doing this act from the next room they are not stupid. All I can say Redrose is tell him how you feel that you don't believe is story at all period. To come out and be honest with you on where he sees your relationship going is it going to be a full relationship with sex like a real committed couple live or someplace for him to just lay his head only.If that's the case you couldn't never bring another guy there because of him there hanging around your new boy friend thinking you still having fun with old bf not a good thing to do there be some jealousy going on there.

[jen1447]

LMAO ...let me get this straight - he's 'hurting' you by openly choosing to masturbate rather than have sex with you? All he's actually doing is showing himself to be a loser.

It's natural to find this a little insulting hon, given that we all tend to have lingering doubts about what we want to be our universal appeal and sexual prowess, which is just natural, but the facts are that any real man will prefer sex with a real woman to his hand, and any person who tries to send such a juvenile (and misguided) message is really just a child at heart. I'd tell him to spend some time growing up (maybe he can have lots of fun with his hand late at night when his mom's asleep and not aware of what he's up to in the process ), and then when he becomes a man, he can see about finding a woman again to have real sex with.

[Motorguy]

I am having a big problem with this too Jenn. His hand over a real live women to have sex with that's a no brainier in my book. it's all BS in my book and nothing else period.

[Gary7]

But when was the last time your hand nagged at you because you didn't take the garbage out to the curb this morning?

**Just kidding folks!**

[muffin70]

well I think you both need to have a talk to each other.... don't get angry or mad with him...... go somewhere and get a coffee or something and just have a talk.... tell him how you feel, tell him what you waant from the relationship...etc... get him to tell his side of the story and what he wants...etc... then you can decide if you are compatible with him and if you actually want to be with him.....