[effy2014]

Wow. Just wow.

[jen1447]

That's interesting Jen! I'm more of a one-and-done kinda girl when going solo, but multiple orgasms with a partner is a must IMO.
On the other hand, I've always wondered if I was capable of squirting so maybe I have plans tonight after all. And here I thought this was going to be another boring Monday night!

You go girl.

I'm curious, over how much time did this happen?

I was just trying to remember that lol ....I'd say around an hour's worth of play overall, but that particular chain was probably 4-6 minutes. (I'm estimating, I'd guess 20-30 seconds each for the first eight and the last two were minute longs or so, and with a few moments between all of them.)

[Romy]

I was masturbating with a variety of vibrators (lonely night - boo!). Orgasm 'training' is definitely something you need to figure out solo before you can put it into practice with partners effectively. In other words, I have to know how my body responds and handles all these extremes before I can pass that on to any lovers.

MG, I did squirt, yeah.


You can have it Romy. You've got plenty of opportunity right now while your man is away, so why not see what you can do? I can offer pointers if you like. I was actually thinking of mentioning to you that in my experience, sexual compensation for something you can't have atm with masturbation actually has to be sexual overcompensation - you basically need to orgasm about twice as much to feel as satisfied as you would with your partner. Even that won't give it all to you as you're lacking an emotional connection, but physically, if you cum twice as much, your body will feel closer to that sensation of satisfaction. You should try.

muffin, 5 in a day's pretty good for a guy!

Okay Jen....I basically stick to the shower head and electric toothbrush. Both pretty powerful. Can't use the toothbrush too many times in a day because it can be a bit rough and cause an injury and it's a bit of a pain to have to get wet (I mean in the bath) to use the shower head. I did buy the Lelo Soraya and had one average orgasm with it, tried it a few more times and nothing so I threw it out. I would really love to know what you recommend I should try. Money isn't a problem. Help me....please

[jen1447]

Well, I know we've discussed the sensitivity issue before, but refresh my memory - do normal performance level vibes not get it done for you?

[Romy]

Well, I know we've discussed the sensitivity issue before, but refresh my memory - do normal performance level vibes not get it done for you?

Not anymore. But now I think about it....even when I used my first vibrator I didn't just hold it there I slid it up and down my clitoris and would cum that way.....and the only way I'm guaranteed to cum during sex is when I'm on top.

[jen1447]

Do you have g-spot orgasms and clit orgasms, or just one or the other? Any other particularly sensitive body parts or areas/ideas/acts that get you off? Are you a size queen?

[Romy]

Do you have g-spot orgasms and clit orgasms, or just one or the other? Any other particularly sensitive body parts or areas/ideas/acts that get you off? Are you a size queen?

Only ever had clit orgasms. Nipples very sensitive. I get off on knowing my partner is getting off. If anything I've always been a giver until now where I am with a man very eager to give to me....not sure about size really.

I'm laughing as I type all this to you Jen....I feel like you're my sex therapist but hopefully putting all this out there might help someone else as well.

[jen1447]

Yeah, we're all in this together for the big orgasmic win. For the record I'm in no way a real sex therapist, just so there's no confusion there. WHF is just a big give-and-take community.

Okay, I'm wondering about getting you to explore your g-spot - it could be an untapped source of pleasure for you. Do you know where it is and how to stimulate it? I'm also curious about size ....is your guy large, small, in between? Do you ever have any pain during intercourse? Reason I'm asking is if you can take a lot, a large toy might be able to work for you, and there are some that can be used in ways other than a dildo. For example they make these suction mounted ones that you can um kind of eff as if you're doing that with an actual person. You mount them on the shower door/wall, or on the floor and ride them cowgirl. I'm thinking of that in particular in your case, since you orgasm on top. The ones I've seen are really large tho. Could you take like a 10 incher for example with substantial girth?

lol this is a pretty funny topic to be so open about but it's all good.

[Romy]

Yeah, we're all in this together for the big orgasmic win. For the record I'm in no way a real sex therapist, just so there's no confusion there. WHF is just a big give-and-take community.

Okay, I'm wondering about getting you to explore your g-spot - it could be an untapped source of pleasure for you. Do you know where it is and how to stimulate it? I'm also curious about size ....is your guy large, small, in between? Do you ever have any pain during intercourse? Reason I'm asking is if you can take a lot, a large toy might be able to work for you, and there are some that can be used in ways other than a dildo. For example they make these suction mounted ones that you can um kind of eff as if you're doing that with an actual person. You mount them on the shower door/wall, or on the floor and ride them cowgirl. I'm thinking of that in particular in your case, since you orgasm on top. The ones I've seen are really large tho. Could you take like a 10 incher for example with substantial girth?

lol this is a pretty funny topic to be so open about but it's all good.

Thank you Jen for taking the time to provide all this information. I have heard about the g-spot and have a fair idea where it's located but I've never explored it. I know a guy can use his finger and do a sort of "come here" move but wouldn't know what to do in that area alone and I should mention I don't enjoy actually touching myself...don't know why but I prefer my man or a toy....my man is medium to large. Deep stick can cause me pain. I didn't know about the suction dildos. That could be a possibility but now Jen I can see myself needing to get over the actual act of doing that....I can't really put it into words but it would take a huge effort thought wise to not think about what I'm actually doing and try to just enjoy it instead. Not sure if that makes sense.

[jen1447]

Yeah it makes sense hon but it's something you should try to open up about a bit. When you have "don't go there" items on your sexual checklist, that generally promotes something of a conservative approach to sex, which usually doesn't result in the greatest sex. (There are some don't-go-there items that make perfect sense, I'm just talking about the personal things we might all carry around.) So anyway I'd suggest maybe trying to go outside yourself a bit and see what happens - you don't enjoy touching yourself,so ....try touching yourself. You're a little apprehensive at the idea of riding a dildo ....try contemplating it more. Maybe fantasize about seeing yourself just cutting loose on one and riding it like there's no tomorrow, and work in some masturbation while you're imagining that to get more comfy with the concept. Loosening up about this stuff will only help.

I'm reluctant to go recommending vibes will-nilly, but if cost is really no problem, you might try a Lelo Gigi for masturbating your g-spot. As far as the size thing goes, I'm still curious about the possibilities there. What's the largest size vibe you have? If you don't have any (this will sound silly but) go to the grocery and get a produce item (lol) that looks maybe a bit larger than you think you could accommodate and take it home and see how it feels. (Use lube!) We need to figure out exactly what types of sensations you feel when you get 'filled up.' I think there's potential there.