[Patti-here]

I'm fully aware of the feeling of giving up control M'lady

However, even giving up control doesn't always mean you're not still in control..

[jen1447]

That's true ....rcoreyus has pointed out the dichotomy of 'subs' actually being the controlling partner in dom/sub relationships, as they actually set the pace and determine what happens and how far it goes. I still think there's a potentially wide degree of variation in that, but it's a valid point. Still, isn't it hotter to just think that Something's GF is straight up 'owning' him?

[rcoreyus]

I find the range of control in what might seem similar situations to be interesting. At on extreme, the man who hires a pro-dom is clearly completely in control, he is paying her to do what he wants - yet the typical fantasy is of her being completely in control. At the other extreme there are women who really do exert almost complete control over their men's lives - yet are far less likely to wear thigh boots and carry a bull-whip.

Even for conventional BDSM players there is a wide range from clearly consensual bedroom-only play, to couples that have 24/7 no-safeword relationships. The second type concern me because they can be indistinguishable from abuse.

[Something_Awesome]

My GF can abuse me all she wants. She got the bed restraint system I talked about a while ago and I told her to save it for vegas! Save something new for the trip y'know. I am getting goose bumps just thinking about it!

Now, if I'm restrained I forfeit all control. I also like it when she talks dirty to me in Italian (prefer it over Portuguese).

[Motorguy]

Once in a while wife will like me spanking her perfect round butt in the right mood. When she getting into it and wants that few spanks to send her into a Big O with a red hand print on her tan butt lol.

[effy2014]

My GF can abuse me all she wants. She got the bed restraint system I talked about a while ago and I told her to save it for vegas! Save something new for the trip y'know. I am getting goose bumps just thinking about it!

Now, if I'm restrained I forfeit all control. I also like it when she talks dirty to me in Italian (prefer it over Portuguese).

Under the bed restraints are best for hotel rooms (no need to search for a bed post or hooks). If you enjoy different angles, a company called Liberator Shapes has awesome pillows ... many with built in restraint systems.

I found that over the door cuffs work great as well in a hotel room (although it is my SO that is the sub and loves the feeling of her hands over her head while being ravaged ......). Have a great time.

[jen1447]

She speaks Italian, Portuguese, and English? Wow - how can this girl get any better?

[Something_Awesome]

And spanish.... Four languages.

Edit: Aside from Brazil and the US, she has lived in Ecuador, Spain, Argentina, France, and Italy.

Edit 2: Hey I can hand with her... I speak three languages

[Something_Awesome]

She speaks Italian, Portuguese, and English? Wow - how can this girl get any better?

And thanks Jen, I like it when she has advocates.

By the way, hand = hang

[jen1447]

She deserves huge credit in all sincerity. Four languages is amazing. (And three ain't bad either. Or do you mean English, SoCal, and Cunnilingus? )