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  • jen1447
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    • Oct 2013
    • 2380

    Well a lot of it is down to sensitivity - kind of a limiting factor. I'm lucky in that my clit doesn't get hyper sensitive like that, so I can just do it over and over. The g-spot is much different for me, less prone to multiplicity. All women are different tho, so there's no recipe book you can consult that will work for everyone.

    If you want to explore that with her and she has a sensitive clit, I'd try either a clit/G/anal combination like you say (but you'd have to be pretty patient with it and learn how to stimulate all three in a successive way that brings about a sort of chain reaction - and then figure out how to keep that going), or a less direct clit approach - work the areas around her clit in combination with arousing her entire body so that it becomes a mind orgasm sequence as opposed to an act that the clit performs itself. The clit is your most likely key to doing it tho, I think most women multiple this way thru their clits. (Other ways being combo chains - clits/Gs and even bums. Different animal.)

    Multiples at the core are basically gotten by learning how to not go into the refraction period after climax ....that part's pretty easy in that you (the both of you) defy the natural inclination to relax after orgasming and stay in the plateau, at which point with continued stimulation it's easier to go right back to cumming. Repeat that over and over as much as she can take.

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    • Something_Awesome
      Veteran Member
      • Apr 2014
      • 1219

      So I know you said that her sensitivity is a limiting factor, but is the sensitivity something that occurs during the refraction period, or before? Because if it occurs during, then my GF needs to get the mental part down? Otherwise, I think I now have a good idea of what we can do to chain them together when simultaneously stimulating the three erogenous zones discussed above.
      "Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447

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      • jen1447
        Veteran Member
        • Oct 2013
        • 2380

        Okay let's look at this like a biology lesson. Imagine your penis compared to a clit. The penis is much larger. Think of it being JOed or having oral for a very long period of time and imagine what that feels like. Maybe gets a little numb and desensitized, right? The clit, while smaller, is much more sensitive and has many more nerve endings. So you have a smaller surface area experiencing a higher degree of the sensations you just imagined with your penis. When either of them orgasms, basically all the nerve endings there go 'pop,' leaving it kind of spent. That's the basic situation, tho women's sensitivity varies widely. It's the aftereffects that you have to deal with to make her go again, but luckily women can do that in a variety of ways, like I said above.

        As to the when, it actually happens during arousal, plateau, and orgasm, not the refractory period. And yet that's when you have to keep working to not let her come down, which is the trick to multiples. She can overcome the sensitivity issues mentally to some degree, and with alternative stimulation she can go again (g-spot, indirect clit - best if you didn't isolate on her clit to begin with - anal, even nipples like sp just said elsewhere).

        Based on my experience with many many vajays, I do think that women can actually train to improve their clitoral sexual response, but I admit I just don't know enough to say exactly how beyond fairly mundane things like non-focused clit attention. I wish I could say something like kegals will do it, but all I really know is that I've been with a lot who have made big strides that way over time, which makes me think there's a psychological component. Or it could just be physical conditioning - the more you do it, the more you can do it.

        I'd just experiment with GF. Try initially just to keep her in plateau - keep right on working on her after she comes. She might resist this initially but she sounds pretty voracious so I don't think you'll have a big problem with that as long as you don't key right on her clit. An obvious alternative is to go to her bum and just stay on that, and let her set whatever pace she might be comfy with on her clit herself. Stay inside and right on her bumhole tho and stick with it no matter what, caress her body all over and say reassuring and loving things - how fantastic she is and all that. I think she'll probably respond well.

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        • Intheshade
          Member
          • May 2014
          • 20

          Originally posted by jen1447
          Wow, two more threebies in kira and Intheshade. Good job ladies.

          Are you all having multiples each time?
          Not for the most part, one is enough for me to take the edge off for maybe umm... two hours lol. Multiples in one session own my own is pretty rare, I find them much easier to achieve with my husband.

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          • Patti-here
            Banned
            • Mar 2014
            • 2602

            During masturbation with yourself or a SO, the bum-hole is always a key component.

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            • Something_Awesome
              Veteran Member
              • Apr 2014
              • 1219

              Sounds like a plan Jen, thanks. You make the "keep her in plateau" part sound easy
              "Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447

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              • Texasred
                Veteran Member
                • Oct 2009
                • 1216

                Originally posted by Intheshade
                ...Sometimes I wish they made a pill to lower sex drive.
                They don't make a pill, but there is a ring that has that effect if worn on the left hand...
                :-)

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                • Texasred
                  Veteran Member
                  • Oct 2009
                  • 1216

                  Originally posted by Patti-here
                  They come in waves of three at a time for me, so three times masturbating a day would = 9 orgasms,
                  That's interesting: my GF seems to be the same way - when we're having sex her orgasms often come as you said in waves of 3, with the third one usually being the most intense. And then with a **very** short respite, just a minute or so, she can come again. So if we spend an hour in bed - or wherever - she can have 15 - 20 big Os.
                  I know that she's unusual in this regard, but also that she's not unique. Just very lucky!
                  And when we're not together, to return to the original topic of this thread, I know that she pleasures herself at least 3 times a day, and much more often than that if time permits.
                  - TR

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                  • jen1447
                    Veteran Member
                    • Oct 2013
                    • 2380

                    Wow, there are some real champions out there.

                    Originally posted by Sum
                    Sounds like a plan Jen, thanks. You make the "keep her in plateau" part sound easy
                    I know ....I wish I could give you a diagram or something (lol) but you'll just have to experiment with how to do it. The 'staying there' part is actually more mental than anything and can be done with just encouragement pretty much. You might want to tell her ahead of time what you want for her and what your plans are so she doesn't get reflexively defensive. A real simple approach on your part would just be to resolve not to change your 'attack' when she comes - don't do the usual things you do right after like change positions and hold her/kiss her and all that. Let's say you had two fingers inside her when she came ....they stay there and you keep your focus on her like it's 5 minutes earlier. Game face stays on, serious business and all that.

                    It's just a natural stumbling block for women because the normal reaction to orgasm is to relax. From what I've seen, kinda like Patti said, the figures we come up against are 1 (the initial "Wait, I can cum again?" thing if you're not a natural multiples girl) and then 3, which seems to be where a lot of multiples girls settle. When you bust that one, it's definitely 'on' at that point.

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