[Shadowfax]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2+ years. I am a rather small girl, and his penis is rather big. I expected some pain in the beginning, and ever since, have taken steps to become accustomed to him. We use lube, I "practice" with larger toys, and we usually have plenty of foreplay prior to sex. I do enjoy sex with him, but nearly every time, I bleed, even at this point in our experience. And if it has been a couple weeks or more, it can be a bit painful and we have to move slow to make sure I can get past him getting in.

I have heard over and over that the vagina can adapt, so why am I still having these issues? Could it be because our sizes are both on the extreme ends? Like I said, I do enjoy sex, but it bothers him that I STILL bleed and I wish it didn't still hurt occasionally. I wanted to be past that by now….

Any insight or advice is appreciated.

[jns]

There are limits to how much the vagina can stretch without pain and bleeding. Generally it can stretch enough to birth a small to medium sized baby, though with some bleeding and tearing. Birthing a large baby can cause more severe bleeding on a woman with a small vagina. I just lately saw a YouTube video of a natural birth and it was amazing how large the baby's head was to come out without causing bleeding. The whole process was amazing.

That being said, the vagina during childbirth is different than during sex. During childbirth, the vagina stretches, the bones soften and internal organs move to some degree to permit the birthing process. For a small young woman who hasn't gone through childbirth, there may not be as much ability for things to stretch and accommodate. Your bf being on the large size per your description may make it so that the two of you may not fit correctly. It sounds like you two are doing the best you can to keep down your bleeding and pain.

[Motorguy]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2+ years. I am a rather small girl, and his penis is rather big. I expected some pain in the beginning, and ever since, have taken steps to become accustomed to him. We use lube, I "practice" with larger toys, and we usually have plenty of foreplay prior to sex. I do enjoy sex with him, but nearly every time, I bleed, even at this point in our experience. And if it has been a couple weeks or more, it can be a bit painful and we have to move slow to make sure I can get past him getting in.

I have heard over and over that the vagina can adapt, so why am I still having these issues? Could it be because our sizes are both on the extreme ends? Like I said, I do enjoy sex, but it bothers him that I STILL bleed and I wish it didn't still hurt occasionally. I wanted to be past that by now….

Any insight or advice is appreciated.

I would maybe talk with your OBGYN doctor and see if he has any subjection as well. With different types of lubes but any time you are bleeding each time having sex then something is tearing so that's not good. I would seek some answer with your doctor to get some answer then. So good luck I hope it works out for you.

[PhrendlyPhil]

Unlikely that your bleeding is being caused by the size of your boyfriend's penis (unless he's the size of a #10 can). More likely there is some irritation going on (possibly at the cervix?). Sounds like a good question for the gynecologist. Perhaps you should both go together.