squirting: how can I squirt for my boyfriend

[Motorguy]

Now Jenn that putting very bluntly and to the point perfect. Well some of us men know where that magic button is and enjoy pushing it lol.

[jen1447]

He's working the wrong place. Clit squirting is possible but only with women who are experienced at it and know what makes them go and can transition effectively. Basically what he's doing is like trying to scratch an itch a few inches away from where the itch is.

Allow me a bit of contempt here - why do guys always have to act like 'the man?' This is the kind of thing that happens when you have a guy who doesn't know what he's doing, working with a girl who doesn't know that he doesn't know what he's doing, and all that really goes on is he fires his shotgun at the wall hoping to hit something.

Okay, here's what you should do:

1. Send him home for now.
2. Look up 'g-spot' on the Wiki.
3. Start masturbating so that you know where it is and what makes you squirt, if anything.
4. (Some women simply don't squirt. If after knowing the details and practicing you still don't squirt, shrug your shoulders and move on.)
5. When you've figured it out, bring him back, instruct him how it's done, and get him to practice so he actually knows what the **** he's doing.
6. Squirt away all day long if that's your thing.

Have fun hon, and try not to think of guys as being the answer men automatically.

[jns]

Your bf is overstimulating you which is why you feel pain instead of pleasure. He needs to take a break from stimulating the clitoris every once in a while and go stimulate other erogenous zones such as the breasts, the earlobes, the inner thighs and/or the area near the anus. The reason he doesn't understand that he is causing you pain is because he is oblivious to what brings a woman pleasure. That type of ignorance often goes hand in hand with youth, but there are older men who are also oblivious. He probably should be stimulating you through your clitoral hood anyway. It protects the clitoris from direct contact. Direct contact on the clitoris can be felt as pain by some. An equivalence in many guys would to be to grab the penis roughly as the guy is orgasming. The penis becomes very sensitive at that time for many and excessive force or rubbing can be painful, especially without lubricant.

I have not really attempted to get a girl to squirt, but the consensus is that there is a slightly rough area in the forward part of the vagina an inch or two from the opening. By forward I mean in a direction away from the anus. Stimulating that spot by finger or by penis may lead to squirting. By finger, the partner uses a come here curling motion with their finger. A lot of lube should be used so as to cause discomfort. Also, it is best it the girl pees before the attempt.

[natashakb]

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I really want to squirt for my boyfriend since he continuously says he wants me to squirt when dirty talking.
Here's my problem though.
He will stimulate my clitoris amazingly well whether it's with his fingers or tongue, but after awhile of constant stimulation it feels too good that it becomes painful in a feel-good kind of way.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do. He tells me to relax but it "hurts" because it feels TOO good. I tried explaining this to him but he doesn't quite understand it (he's a guy of course he doesn't understand what that feels like).
Is this problem preventing me from squirting or is there something else I can do to squirt for him?
I really want to do it. My wetness isn't a problem either, he jokes about how wet I get after we haven't had sex for awhile and I orgasm pretty easily and even during masturbation have yet to make myself squirt.
I'm at a loss here.
Additionally, I understand the feeling right before it happens is a "I feel like I'm going to pee" sensation and I can get to that point just fine, even after stopping masturbation I continue to have that "pee" feeling but I give up because it doesn't feel good after I top out at my orgasm and again if it were him doing it, it would begin to hurt from feeling too good and I start to squirm away from it because I literally can't handle it.