[CaringWoman]

I've only orgasmed with a man once. Well, twice. But it was in the same sexual encounter. And i squirted, it was POWERFUL.
But it didnt work out with that guy and now im with someone i care very much about. Whenever he asks me if i climaxed and i say no he looks so down.. He sometimes tries to stay up for HOURS, like 4-5 at a time, so he can help me attain my goal. We try every position because sometimes i cant be rubbed in one position for too long. Once i brought my vibrator to the hotel with us so it could help, i used it the whole time he was inside me and NOTHING. no orgasm after MANY hours.. I almost cried at one point thinking i was broken.. Its not that its not good, because it is. I relaxed and tried again and still nothing.


Why cant i orgasm??


Now, i should add that I masturbate daily and orgasm everytime. With my vibrator and in the shower. sometimes if i have nothing to do for a big chunk of time i just orgasm over and over again lol So i know im capable of doing so everyday.

[Something_Awesome]

Could be anxiety; trying hard to attain the goal of climaxing. Just a thought. The females here will likely have better advice though.

[effy2014]

SA is correct, the more that you obsess about it, the harder it will be to reach an orgasm. Orgasms start in the brain. If you are stressed or become stressed because he is stressing about it, then you will never achieve it.

One question: It sounds like you have only tried intercourse and using the vibrator. Has he gone down on you? Many women find it difficult or impossible to orgasm during intercourse. Statistics are 40-75% do not. While it may have happened once, it may not happen again. Try not to try to have an orgasm -- just enjoy the intimacy together.

Another suggestion would be to decrease the amount of your masterbation. It could be that you are desensitizing your clitoris to other types of stimulation. Going without may also help the build-up to an intimate encounter with him rather than with your sex toy.

[jen1447]

Results or performance based sex is never a good idea in the real world. The object of sex is not for you to have orgasms (tho it's most often what happens), it's for you to have sex. Women don't 'chase the dream' quite the way men do, so sometimes it's hard for the them to conceptualize the reality that you don't actually have to orgasm to enjoy it. He needs to relax and not make it such a mission, and you need to stop trying to orgasm to please him.

His determination is admirable, so he's way ahead of the type of guys who are only in it for themselves, but hopefully you can move him up to the next tier of maturity on this. When you stop worrying about it so much, you find that it just flows much better. Good luck.

[beethovengenius]

I've only orgasmed with a man once. Well, twice. But it was in the same sexual encounter. And i squirted, it was POWERFUL.
But it didnt work out with that guy and now im with someone i care very much about. Whenever he asks me if i climaxed and i say no he looks so down.. He sometimes tries to stay up for HOURS, like 4-5 at a time, so he can help me attain my goal. We try every position because sometimes i cant be rubbed in one position for too long. Once i brought my vibrator to the hotel with us so it could help, i used it the whole time he was inside me and NOTHING. no orgasm after MANY hours.. I almost cried at one point thinking i was broken.. Its not that its not good, because it is. I relaxed and tried again and still nothing.


Why cant i orgasm??


Now, i should add that I masturbate daily and orgasm everytime. With my vibrator and in the shower. sometimes if i have nothing to do for a big chunk of time i just orgasm over and over again lol So i know im capable of doing so everyday.

Clearly you can orgasm and you wrote that you've even squirted and that is an indication that you have a powerful g spot.You also wrote that he has spent hours trying to make you orgasm with no success, whilst on you're own you can orgasm multiple times.As I interpret what is going along with what you wrote is it possible that his penis is less than average or that his full erection is not hard enough? From what I've heard from different women that I've had relations with, they all tend to say the same thing and that is that the most important predictor of them having an orgasm with a guy is how hard and dense is his erection is provided that all the necessary foreplay be met.

[jns]

I've only orgasmed with a man once. Well, twice. But it was in the same sexual encounter. And i squirted, it was POWERFUL.
But it didnt work out with that guy and now im with someone i care very much about. Whenever he asks me if i climaxed and i say no he looks so down.. He sometimes tries to stay up for HOURS, like 4-5 at a time, so he can help me attain my goal. We try every position because sometimes i cant be rubbed in one position for too long. Once i brought my vibrator to the hotel with us so it could help, i used it the whole time he was inside me and NOTHING. no orgasm after MANY hours.. I almost cried at one point thinking i was broken.. Its not that its not good, because it is. I relaxed and tried again and still nothing.


Why cant i orgasm??


Now, i should add that I masturbate daily and orgasm everytime. With my vibrator and in the shower. sometimes if i have nothing to do for a big chunk of time i just orgasm over and over again lol So i know im capable of doing so everyday.

The good thing is that you had an orgasm while being with a guy. The thing that you are trying to do is to have them more often. The solution may be the same one that helps with guys masturbating too much: quit masturbating. The masturbating you do is different than any masturbating of you that he does and is significantly different than what cunnilingus provides. Further, the vibrator could be causing you to require too much stimulation so that orgasming without it may be more difficult. Finally, having an orgasm is highly mental. The anxiety and frustration may be making you lock up. Relaxing may help.

[midnightwishes]

Maybe you just can't orgasm through penetration (assuming you don't actually put the vibrator inside of you), but can have clitoral orgasms. Then when you were able to orgasm with that one guy, it was because he was really very experienced, and knew exactly what to do. How experienced is this guy you are now with? I can relate because I can only have clitoral orgasms. Even though I enjoy sex with my boyfriend and it feels good, I just can't orgasm through penetration. Is he not doing something right? Maybe tell him how to move during sex.

[Anoop Nain]

Sex is all about feelings. Don't think so much. Do it slow and enjoy it.

[rhondaf43ga]

I had the same problem and then a friend told me about this pill that worked for her so I bought it and after getting in my body for about a week, I started having great things take place, so you might want to try something like Puredesire that is the name of it and like I said it worked for me, but I can't say it would for everyone.



All the best,
Rhonda

[beethovengenius]

Maybe you just can't orgasm through penetration (assuming you don't actually put the vibrator inside of you), but can have clitoral orgasms. Then when you were able to orgasm with that one guy, it was because he was really very experienced, and knew exactly what to do. How experienced is this guy you are now with? I can relate because I can only have clitoral orgasms. Even though I enjoy sex with my boyfriend and it feels good, I just can't orgasm through penetration. Is he not doing something right? Maybe tell him how to move during sex.

Well if you read the first part of her post, she clearly states that she squirted once during orgasm. The only way a woman can squirt is via penetrative sex when the g spot is aroused and stimulated to climax. And I am told that g spot orgasms are different to clitoral orgasms, in that they tend to be much more powerful and intense, correct me if I'm wrong here ladies.