[HerNewTool]

A little background. I have had a few sexual partners and the women I have been with have never had an issues achieving orgasm more than once from penetration alone.

I've been with my current girlfriend for about 2 years now, and from the very beginning she told me she has never achieved orgasm with a man, even being sexually active for 14 years. Me being my past just thought it was an *** hole guy who didn't care about taking care of his lady. With my past I didn't know woman had those kind of problems. So like myself, you tell me that something won't happen, I'm hell bent on proving you wrong. So when she told me she didn't think she would reach orgasm with me during intercourse. Paying attention to her body the first time we had sex....I found the ideal way was the spoon position with reach around manual clitoral stimulation. She did end up reaching orgasm. But these two years, it's always been with the addition of manual stimulation added to the intercourse. We've talked many time about it, and she's unsure, as I am. She said direct stimulation on the clitoris is uncomfortable and she pushed my hand away, she says it's to much. Also when we have sex and I orgasm inside her, she said she doesn't feel my semen ejaculating into her, or the muscle contraction of my penis. My past has always felt the contractions (with condom). So when I stimulate her and the only way she gets to achieve orgasm is through manual stimulation with my finger or tongue on top of the clitoral hood (clitoris still covered by the hood).

SHe's had 4 vaginal child births and everything went fine and nothing was abnormal.

So my question is...Is there something medically wrong, could nerves inside her vagina been damaged from child birth, though she said she's never really felt anything inside vaginally even before me or before children.

I would like to branch off and get her to orgasm on penetration alone, able to have multiple orgasms in 1, 15-20 minute sex session. I'm ok with what we have now, and love her to death...I just want to know if there is a possibility that anything could happen just to expand our intimacy together.

Thanks in advanced.

[jen1447]

Why is it so important to you that she have all these orgasms in a certain way? Did she say she was dissatisfied?

[Baboy]

I don't claim any particular expertise on topic, but I have read many places that a fair percentage of women do not reach orgasm from penis-in-vagina sex alone.

Once I had a gf much as what you describe. She could come quite easily by manual stimulation. She liked having her clit gently massaged to orgasm. Ditto for oral sex. She would come in no time at all. But just straight intercourse, no way, even if it lasted for an hour or more, changed positions etc.

You mentioned spoon position. That was what we used most, because it allowed me to touch her clit during intercourse. It worked quite well, because I could more or less regulate when she would come to orgasm and time mine to coincide. So we almost always enjoyed simultaneous orgasm.

You also mention multiple orgasms. The gf to whom I referred above could never achieve that, but she was happy with the one big one she would have in any session. Once she had hit that high, she did not want any further stimulation for at least an hour.

My wife is capable of orgasm through intercourse alone, although sometimes it takes awhile for her to get there, but she almost always does. She will orgasm very quickly with just manual or oral stimulation. Once she has had an orgasm, she prefers no stimulation for only a brief period; sometimes just a few minutes. In many of our encounters I'll give her one manually, then we'll just kiss and cuddle for five minutes, then I'll giver her one orally, followed by another 5 minutes of something else, then we'll have intercourse, resulting in her third orgasm. By that time she has usually had enough, even if I offer more oral, or whatever. That's not to say that a couple of hours later she won't want more.

As for feeling you ejaculate, etc., I believe again, not all women feel this. I do not think your gf is "abnormal" or "damaged" in any way. Sounds to me like she falls well within the range of normal.

[Motorguy]

A little background. I have had a few sexual partners and the women I have been with have never had an issues achieving orgasm more than once from penetration alone.

I've been with my current girlfriend for about 2 years now, and from the very beginning she told me she has never achieved orgasm with a man, even being sexually active for 14 years. Me being my past just thought it was an ****** hole guy who didn't care about taking care of his lady. With my past I didn't know woman had those kind of problems. So like myself, you tell me that something won't happen, I'm hell bent on proving you wrong. So when she told me she didn't think she would reach orgasm with me during intercourse. Paying attention to her body the first time we had sex....I found the ideal way was the spoon position with reach around manual clitoral stimulation. She did end up reaching orgasm. But these two years, it's always been with the addition of manual stimulation added to the intercourse. We've talked many time about it, and she's unsure, as I am. She said direct stimulation on the clitoris is uncomfortable and she pushed my hand away, she says it's to much. Also when we have sex and I orgasm inside her, she said she doesn't feel my semen ejaculating into her, or the muscle contraction of my penis. My past has always felt the contractions (with condom). So when I stimulate her and the only way she gets to achieve orgasm is through manual stimulation with my finger or tongue on top of the clitoral hood (clitoris still covered by the hood).

SHe's had 4 vaginal child births and everything went fine and nothing was abnormal.

So my question is...Is there something medically wrong, could nerves inside her vagina been damaged from child birth, though she said she's never really felt anything inside vaginally even before me or before children.

I would like to branch off and get her to orgasm on penetration alone, able to have multiple orgasms in 1, 15-20 minute sex session. I'm ok with what we have now, and love her to death...I just want to know if there is a possibility that anything could happen just to expand our intimacy together.

Thanks in advanced.

I have a old rule of thumb if it's not broken why try to fix it. Just food for thought any time you try to change things up could causes other problems just enjoy what orgasm your girl friend has and be happy with that.

[HerNewTool]

Jen
No, she never once said she was dissatisfied and like I said....if you read everything, that what we have is great....and wouldn't care if this is all we have the rest of our lives.....we were both simply curious if what she feels is normal and if anyone else out there found a way maybe around this. Her simply being able to achieve that is a wonder....but I enjoy going above and beyond expectation....and if its possible to have more I'm sure we'd both really enjoy it...

We openly talk about our previous sexual experiences and curious if she's normal if my past is normal.... Or if just what we think...that every woman is different in what she feels and what feels good for her

[jen1447]

and if its possible to have more I'm sure we'd both really enjoy it...

Has she said she wants more orgasms that way, or is it mainly that you want to be able to do it?

[HerNewTool]

She said she feels she hasn't had a big one....and with my past the girls I was with would have 2 or 3 little then a big and it was it....she said she feels like her orgasms could be bigger and more complete...

[jen1447]

Ok, just so I'm clear, you said you'd like her to orgasm from penetration alone, and have multiple orgasms. Also she'd like to have more powerful orgasms. Does she want to have orgasms from penetration alone and have multiple orgasms? It sounds like the two of you have mentioned different goals. The ends for penetration orgasms, multiple orgasms, and power orgasms aren't necessarily the same thing. If you don't know what it is you're after, you're much less likely to find it, so what exactly are we trying to achieve here and for whom?

[HerNewTool]

Like I said my train of thought and experience is that multiple smalls come before the big, i may be totally wrong, just what I know...

So her being able to achieve multiple smallers will give her the big....

So my thought is achieving both goals...

We again are both happy with what is going on...

The only other way I know to put it....is you and your significant other have a good everyday car and it works fine, and someone comes along and says I'll give you my Ferrari....are you going to turn them down....no you'll have what works and something more.....if no one every comes along and offers a Ferrari free of charge, it isn't the end of the world...and we are both on the same page curious if more is possible

[jen1447]

Like I said my train of thought and experience is that multiple smalls come before the big, i may be totally wrong, just what I know...

So her being able to achieve multiple smallers will give her the big....

So my thought is achieving both goals...

That's not necessarily so, and it's certainly not universal. In fact nothing is universal when it comes to women's sexual response.

Still wondering - did she say she wants multiples and to cum from penetration?