[hotminded]

I need help understanding what is going through my wife's head and mine. We have a great relationship absolutely amazing with great communication but there is this fantasy that she has expressed but keeps bouncing back and forth on the idea. Honestly I could probably be considered Bi simply because yes I can appreciate a man and his body. Years ago had an experience and I learned quick that I didn't want to be ib a relationship with a man just enjoyed the sexual side. Well I have told my wife all of this and many more fantasies to the extreme of her pegging me here and there in the bedroom. Well over the past few years and very recently we explored the concept of bringing a Bi man into the bedroom for an awesome night with all kinds of touching. We had set a few rules and started talking to other guys then boom the conversation ended cold feet. Now I try to ask without being pushy why and she can't answer other than now she doesn't think she is interested in any other man. My wife is straight up sexy and I have always told her I would love to share that and take her to newer higher orgasms with two men pleasing her. I have no cuckold fantasy and the only person I would ever be submissive per say to is my wife that being said I can openly admit that I enjoy prostate and anal on me. I don't think any hold up over fear of replacing each other cause I know I will spend the rest of my life with her we had expressed the fantasy together as a means of expanding our sex lives and expressing our love to each other even more. Let me be loud and clear I don't need negative comments calling me gay or a fag all that does is prove your immature nature. Please anyone with experience share I am not gonna lie I am very confused with her shutting in like this and a little disappointed simply because anytime she has ever asked I have done my best to not close in simply put communication is the key to a long healthy marriage and I plan to have that.

[Claret]

Perhaps, a fantasy is just that for her a fantasy and that by trying to bring it into reality is scaring her. Lets face it, this is more your want than hers by the look of things. I also question the taking her to new higher orgasms. Perhaps she has already had what she feels is the best and desires no more than that. When you have really good orgasms, you just have really good orgasms, and I do believe there is a physical limit to how good you can get them (JMO). To me the rest is simply in your mind and how you are feeling at any particular time which is what changes them from really good to really, really good.

My suggestion would be to just give her space and see how she reacts in the future. She may surprize you and bring it up at a later date, she may simply be feeling overwhelmed right now by the thought of it actually happening.

[Motorguy]

Hey Hotminded I am going to agree with Claret, on this idea of yours as well. Having fantasy about something is completely different then acting them out. You trying to push your will onto your wife for your enjoyment. So unless your wife comes to you and looks you straight in the eye to line up a another man to have a threesome with. I would say drop the whole complete idea because your wife may discuss it during sex with you but that's not meaning she wants to carry out this fantasy with you.

[cathygirl]

I am about as bisexual as a person can be in that I respond sexually to both sexes equally. However, my husband and I have agreed and committed to a monogamous marriage. I know, how boring, eh? Did you and your wife make that commitment? If only one is committed then there's a problem. I would not put my husband in the position of asking him to accept another person into our bed when we've covered that ground and both agree it would not be the best thing for our relationship. That is true no matter how horny I get for either another man or a woman, and the same for him (though he's not very attracted to men). But I think it's a problem when one person wants to change the rules and the other doesn't. Be careful and check your motives to make sure you don't destroy something you'd rather not destroy.

[effy2014]

I am about as bisexual as a person can be in that I respond sexually to both sexes equally. However, my husband and I have agreed and committed to a monogamous marriage. I know, how boring, eh? .

While I certainly agree with you last points, I don't see why a monogamous relationship has to be boring. There are a plethora of ways to keep things interesting with a partner that you love and trust.