[sillypanda13]

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So I have never been a huge fan of sex before ( I know that may be strange, but I have had some not so fun experiences with it) Anyhow! My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now, and hes been my best friend for 8 years, so we are very comfortable with one an other.. I actually love our sex life! Its amazing, not only does he make me feel good, he makes it feel good! I have found myself actually starting it off! Anyways, hes very experimental, and has been introducing me to a few things. Like, as the title indicates, butt play. He likes to touch, well.. yeah you know, and at first I was a little uncomfortable because of the thought process of it being dirty or gross. But I am actually warming up to the idea.. We talk about everything, and he says when i am ready, he would really like to try actually inserting himself inside there.. I think it may enjoyable, but thats not what has brought me to post this thread...
I think hed hate me if he knew I was posting this, but- We got into a conversation about this yesterday, through text since hes currently out of town.. But anyways- He informed me that he thinks hed enjoy it if I played with his "area".. Hed admitted to me before that he likes it to be touched during sexual activities and even has a personal toy he uses when masturbation, so I wasnt too surprised that he actually thinks hed enjoy me doing it.. But what caught my attention was, he thinks hed like it if we got a strap on.. Im not sure how I feel about this. Does anyone have any advise???

[Euphoric]

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/66685-never-say-never-07-09-a.html

Take a look at this thread. It will probably answer a lot of your questions and it's a good read!

[sillypanda13]

Thank you so much! That was a great help!

[sillypanda13]

thank you so much! that was a great help!

[Euphoric]

You're Welcome.

Sexual desires considered taboo aren't exacting brought up in casual discussions among friends. Realistically, BF trusts you implicitly if he's willing to confide and share his fantasy/secret desires. You probably have friends that engage in pegging activities and they would never admit to it for fear of being judged or perceive in a negative light. There's nothing wrong with exploring so long as both parties are consenting adults. Who knows, maybe you'll enjoy it as much as Something Awesome's GF.

[sillypanda13]

I admire his courage to admit such desires to me, and I would really love to help him fulfill his fantasies! We have admitted that it may take a lot of patience to warm up to the actual penetration, but I still have my concerns. I want it to be pleasurable for him, and Im not quite sure how to go about it. Im more of a shy lover. He has succeeded in bringing me out of my shell a little bit. (Trying new positions and introducing more aggressive and possessiveness) As i said earlier, hes interested in both sides of the anal play, him playing with mine, and me playing with his. I never thought Id even be considering such things! I mean, doesnt such acts get "messy"?

[Euphoric]

Anal play is actually fairly new to me too. I'm not going to say things will never get messy. There's no way to discuss anal play without using layman's terms. That said, I think you are concerned about poop accidents. Poop is stored in the colon, not rectum, so maybe that'll ease your mind a little. If you and your BF engage in butt play, anything can POSSIBLY happen. Such accidents are unlikely, but if it did, you'd handle it like two mature adults. So far, I haven't encountered an accident. The one thing I know for certain, use tons of lube and go slow to start with.

[Motorguy]

Well Sillypanda, I would start off with boy friend with a little finger play massaging the prostate then right off with serous pegging with a strap on dildo play with boy friend. This can be very wild feeling for your boy friend as well for you giving him this incredible pleasure as well. Like Euphoric there is a whole complete thread about this topic and a very good read you both will enjoy reading good luck enjoy your self.

[sillypanda13]

That information does help! My boyfriend has stated that I need to stop focusing on the "dirty details" and focus on the pleasure that, either one of us, will be experiencing. Im glad that hes so understanding and supportive! He has reassured me many, many times, that no matter how much he wants to partake in the anal acts, he will be patient, as well as cautious. He has slowly been easing me into me receiving the pleasure. I have just now gotten comfortable with him rubbing me when were engaging in our activities. I have warmed up some to the idea of him inserting himself. As far as the other side of everything, Im still unsure how I will feel attempting to do the same to/for him. Its one thing to think of him doing it to me, but me doing it to him? Im keeping an open mind, and am certainly not jumping to any conclusions on whether or not Id like it or not. Its definitely something I will have to warm up to. The more I read about such topics, the more I realize, it wouldnt be a bad thing to at least try. Like you said, who knows, maybe I will enjoy it. I havent disliked anything that we have tried so far!
If my boyfriend and I ever do get to the point where were going to try anal, at least him receiving, I hope I learn some kind of technique or tips on how to make it enjoyable for him! Id hate for us to try it, and him not like it!

[Euphoric]

Sweetie, don't worry about performance issues. Nobody's perfect starting out. Half the fun is learning together. You both need to be able to laugh at flub ups. That's part of making memories. Worst case scenario, you try it a few times and decide it's not for you. Best case scenario, you try and enjoy it far more than you could have dreamed. It's another tool used for intimacy.

I've got a wonderful partner and coach! Shhhh!

Trust me, I never thought I'd like it either…just goes to show you don't know what you're missing if you don't try.