[sillypanda13]

Thank you so much! It has been hard for me to try to open up about sex topics with anyone, and Im glad that I found this site and have been able to ramble away my personal thoughts and actually received some honest and unbiased help! I think I feel better about the whole thing now, and am actually starting to look forward to him coming home and maybe surprising him next time in bed! Its refreshing to be reminded that if I go through with any of the things Ive mentioned (or some I have left out ) Doesnt make me a freak or a wierdo! Well maybe it does make me a freak :P But Im sure you get my point.

[Motorguy]

In the mean time before he gets home Sillypanda gets some good lube and try it on your self. While thinking of him get kind of used to the idea alone in bed.
You should start with small items anyway like a finger or very small thin vibrator. The more you try it the better it will feel but I do subjects lube all the time for both of you. I wish you luck Sillypanda please keep us update on how all this go's for you when you start the anal play with boy friend.

[Euphoric]

That's what is so great about WHF, with anonymity we don't have to worry about our everyday peers and what they might think. If you browse through the threads, you'll find lots of activities people enjoy that others may classify as freaky I wear that title proudly at times, lol. SA was kind enough to share his experience and the minute I read your post I went back to find his thread.

Now you have an anonymous support system Ask about things you're unsure of and share your experience. Knowledge is power, baby.

Euphoric

[Motorguy]

Very well said and it's so true Euphoric with that statement.

[sillypanda13]

That is so true! I think Im going to use this site often! I love that I dont have to seriously worry about being judged because of the answers im in search of, or the questions that I can ask! Now I just hope the answers arent coming from my own mother! :P

[effy2014]

Permit me to chime in on this subject. First, as Euphoric has explained, the poop is held in the colon, so it should never be an issue. I love to perform analingus on my SO -- there is something so incredibly primal about the taste and scent. Never has there been an accident or anything close . . . just wonderful play and orgasms.

She is always incredibly clean (just her nature) but when we have planned a "butt" session she will shower before hand. However, most of the time when I get the urge, it is entirely spontaneous and still wonderful. Shower before the first experience and you will both be fine.

As for pegging, my SO shopped for the right harness and dildo. I highly recommend it . . . thinking about it for a while before actually doing it heightens the experience. You will need lots of lube (Pjur is my favorite and they have some specifically for the back door). Most important, do not be afraid to fail. If it doesn't work the first time or there is a bad experience, talk about it and work out how it might be successful the next time. As MG wrote, we also started with a finger or two and then a toy, working up to the strap on.

Good luck and join in our other conversations.

[cathy23]

BF has hinted around about it before, but I don't want to try it with him.

[sillypanda13]

Thank you for your wonderful input effy! I appreciate your input and it definitely helps! I admit, I was iffy on the subject at first, but after hearing some great advice, I am warming up to the thought. Not sure when we will be experimenting, but I am definitely getting a little excited about it. I admitted to him that I was doing research on the subject, and we have had an all day conversation about it. (Unfortunately via text message since hes out of town) But Im glad we have been able to talk about it. He says when I feel confident about trying such, just to go with my urges. He will guide me into what he believes to feel good. He also says he finds it sexy that I am even considering the thought.
If anyone has any other ideas, or tips, feel free to enlighten me! Im enjoying everyones responses on this thread, and the other ones I have read in on!


Cathy. what are your concerns about it? Im sure you have your own reasons.

[Motorguy]

That must had been a exciting conversation by text with boy friend discuss his subject Sillypanda lol. I think you really made his day no doubt there.I bet he probably can't wait to get home now. Well I am glad you got some good ideas this is probably the most exciting time for both of you right now. So I say go slow no rush and have your self a blast you will for sure love it all.

[sillypanda13]

HAHA! Saying it excited him or made his day is a huge understatement!! Though he explained just how much just the conversation had his blood boiling, and other parts wildly awake, he admits it may be a while before we actually try out his fantasies. I have to admit, knowing that just my interest in learning more on the subject and starting to warm up to the ideas are turning him on so badly makes me feel really good. I always strive to arouse him, but Ive never witnessed anything like this! Im eager for him to finally be home to me! I look forward to experimenting and finding more things that he'll like! I see many, many, very heated conversations and experiences in our future, and I'm getting very excited about it! I'm so glad for all the input i have gotten on all of this. For it has helped bring me out of my shell a little bit. Now I just hope my confidence holds true when hes actually home and in bed with me! :P