[Lovcookie]

active once the love making starts. I know it is not just me. I have had conversation with two other women who on occasion have bi relations with her and both say she does not put the physical work in towards the other nearly as much as she desires the effort to be applied to her. Not that she just lays there and takes all in but it can seem that way at times. She has a high sex drive too. I have hinted to her about this but she does not apply it too often. She touches in intimate ways, kisses etc leading into but once it heats up she changes into mainly a receiver. I super enjoy spending all of my energy making love up and down, inside and out (often over a hour and even two and then go at it again) but at times even a man wants a little pampering Maybe I work it too much lol. She is very fit but can be pretty drained after and for some reason I can go longer and harder then her.
Ladies, would you be offended if your SO asked you to continue to be more assertive (sort of speak) throughout the making love session?. Overall the sex is great but. I certainly don't wanted to insult or seem demanding lol.

[Echo7]

I personally, wouldn't. But I would however be offended that you had discussed my performance with ex partners!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Echo

[Lovcookie]

Good point ladies. My bad. We have had threesomes and as pairs involving the four of us in different combinations at one time or anther. So in way we were each others partner (though my GF was by far my main partner). That has all stopped now. One of these brought up the subject to me months ago. Basically she was stating our approach was night and day different. I was guilty on the second. She is a lesbian and I was initially shocked at how aggressive this women was in bed with a man. It took me by surprise and the topic came from that. Still you ladies are correct and this should remain private.

[Gary7]

Talk to her about it, but don't mention that you've talked about it with others. If you can't talk to your partner about what you want in bed you're relationship will suffer.

[LilahX]

It's not demanding to expect a bit of balance between giving and receiving but unfortunately some people can be quite selfish, especially if they've never been 'called' on it. Have you ever tried pulling her on top of you so she has to do the work? In a playful way. Or just telling her it'd be a turn on if she took the lead, or blindfolded you or something? Nothing will change if you don't talk about it. Don't judge her, or put her down. Maybe ask what she likes, or would like and then (hopefully) she'll listen to what you want as well. As the saying goes, if you keep doing the same thing you can't expet things to change. Good luck.

[BuntonRizzie]

Agreed with the same thing most said above! good luck