[JadeLove]

A week ago I lost my virginity to this guy I am dating. However, he said he couldn't believe I was a virgin and that I'm way too loose (he's slept with many girls). I was completely hurt and now I'm too self conscious to have sex again. What if the guy can't feel me enough? Please help I've been so stressed out over this.

I've read about Kegel exercises so I will try that but there must be something really wrong with me if I am THIS loose at my age.

[mzhk]

A lot of men blurt things out randomly without thinking or proven facts. Its prob not u dont stress too much. My first was probably have as ackward..the loser forced himself on me then said afterwards " there is no blood r u sure u didn't give it up esle where"? My second time with someone esle there was blood. Moral of me sharing this is you do not need to worry too much. Hes probably just being an a---

[Something_Awesome]

You should have been like "are you sure it's not because you're small?"

He was being an idiot.

[raindancer]

Are you still dating him?

Put your finger into your vaginal canal. Do you feel the walls? See? You're just like the rest of us.

If there's a lot of lubrication, it feels looser, than when it's dry. Also, during sex, it stretches. It's temporary. All of this is normal and happens to all women, unless there's a reason not to, like hormonal inbalance, or vaginismus, etc.

Perhaps he was expecting something different from having sex with an experienced woman, like expecting it to be extra tight.

We've learned a couple of things about him. In spite of having had sex with several women, he's still very ignorant about physiology. He's also very ignorant in social skills, because the comment is inappropriate, to say the least.

Don't follow in his footsteps. Inform yourself, learn everything you can about your body and your own pleasure. Self exploration is a must. Use a mirror and your fingers to explore. Never take somebody else's word, when you can check things for yourself.

[Echo7]

Too loose to be a virgin? Or too loose to have sex with again? Either way he was wrong to insult you like that.

Have you ever used tampons? Done any physical activities that could have broken your hymen already? Does he have a small penis? I'm not expert on vagina's, but I do know they come in all shapes and sizes! Don't let his comments bother you

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Jade I am so sorry, your first experience is meant to be beautiful if that is what you choose it to be and I'm betting you did. You dated the guy, gave him your virginity and he insulted you.

He's a smuck.

Let me tell you what happened. You wanted to lose your virginity right? And you welcomed him as a woman, go you.

The women he's slept with were notches on his bed post and probably had a fear of being good enough for him. You know he slept with a lot so did they.

You however, welcomed him to take something very important to you and he is that ignorant not to know that you welcomed him..

You were ready.

You are not loose at all, he probably was self conscious as you were a virgin the others probably weren't or he's dissing you as he claimed a virgin.

There are words for guys like him.

Don't take his words as truth.. He doesn't even understand women nor how to treat them accordingly...

Welcome to WH.

[Ashlee T.]

Listen to CW and the others. They are spot on. A guy like this has no compassion and he's either just being plain rude, or he's trying to imply that you were not actually a virgin. I totally understand where this would make you feel self conscious, but fight past that. You are normal, there is nothing wrong with your vagina and it's TOTALLY unacceptable for a man like that to make comments about it in a critical way.

Don't get overly attached to this jerk just because you lost your V to him. I lost mine to a jerk too and my life has turned out just fine so far. Find someone who appreciates you, who you can relax and enjoy and NOT worry about whether or not your vagina meets his "standards".

[Magnetism]

People say mean things out of spite or their own issues. It has nothing to do with you. That guy showed you who he was. A respectful sex partner doesn't talk like that.

[PhrendlyPhil]

On the odd chance you were a bit "loose" (wet really) he could have gone in much deeper. Too bad for him. I guess he wasn't man enough to get "deep" inside you. Pick someone else who will appreciate you and wants to be all the way inside you.