[rcoreyus]

Don't be insulted, but she's probably stretched out to however big your penis is and is no longer satisfied by it. You can either get a new woman, or start wearing one of those penis sleeves, that extend the size of your penis by a few inches. Whenever I'm stretched out to the size of a given man, I move on to bigger things.

Ah you've got it. She is dating an elephant on the side, and anything less than 12 feet long just isn't interesting to her.

But you're right, I'll stop by the local slave market and buy another - what are dark haired beauties who are satisfied by average male anatomy going for these days?

[Fallen1]

I think it is difficult for people with a strong interest in sex to put themselves in the mind set of someone with no interest.

I wonder how many people that have lack of interest in sex is due to a physical/medical/abuse reason vs. those that just aren't interested because they just don't care enough for it?

I couldn't imagine turning an opportunity down - unless I was ill. I'm just wondering how long my interest/drive will continue before it starts to taper off.

[C]

Yes. Several times - she told me to cut it out. I've also tried more mild things: kissing the back of her neck, backrubs that get a bit carried away, I've bought her a lovely silk bathrobe, stayed in romantic hotels in hidden towns overlooking the sea breaking on the cliffs. I've had 10 years to do everythign I can think of - and I have a pretty good imagination.

Overall she wants sex once, maybe twice each month. When we do, she almost always wants me to hurry up and finish her (usually with a vibrator).

I think it is difficult for people with a strong interest in sex to put themselves in the mind set of someone with no interest.

That is one of the most difficult things things for me to comprehend. Being a woman that loves sex and all that goes with it and put myself in her place is just about impossible. I am not aware if your libido was different from the start of your relationship or if you saw signs of this earlier. If it was there, then chances are it would not change. That is the problem with so many couples. They think they can change the other person and they can't. Each is his own person. They can learn to grow as two sexual beings and learn the fine arts of making love, but to try to find sexual pleasure when there is no sexual pleasure for them can be like pulling teeth. They blot out what they want to and put a sign on the door that says no entry. They forget that years ago when there was no television and people were without amusement that women made love for recreation. All the by gone days were sexual days of close and loving couples. Now it is different.

The sad part about this is that most of these women will get sexual as they age. Get past menopause and they will want for the male sexual filling. They will then find that they have not kept this wonderful man alive with sexual thrills and he will have aged faster than he should have and can no longer keep her filled or pleasure her. It is then that she will remember what she had forgotten to remember but for many it will be too late. That is the main complaint I get from women. Wanting sex and know one to give it to them. So they go to their boy toys........

I wonder how many people that have lack of interest in sex is due to a physical/medical/abuse reason vs. those that just aren't interested because they just don't care enough for it?

I couldn't imagine turning an opportunity down - unless I was ill. I'm just wondering how long my interest/drive will continue before it starts to taper off.

It will taper off only if you want to have it taper off. You are in the driver's seat......Only you....

I wonder how many people that have lack of interest in sex is due to a physical/medical/abuse reason vs. those that just aren't interested because they just don't care enough for it?

I couldn't imagine turning an opportunity down - unless I was ill. I'm just wondering how long my interest/drive will continue before it starts to taper off.

Forgot this.....We all know that I am as old as dirt but 2 hours ago I had the "Perfect F*ck". I had this because I wanted it and I adore him....
I swear it was the best of my life and despite learning something of myself every day I learned more today. So much that I am going to write it up tonight....I could age but I love life, my husband and I adore sex....We women are in control....It is what we do with it that counts...Now I have to make my lover something to eat besides me...

I am trying to do this quick. Getting to this perfect place I had to remind him that it had been 5 days since I had played sex. I get fingered all the time but we are usually sexual two times a week and sometimes more but with his age closer to at least twice. He has a tendency to slow down and it is my job as a sexual woman to keep him where he is. I talked and he listened. His excuse was I chased you all these years and not it is your turn to chase me.....SO I DID....and what a chase it was.....Maybe any men like this....I have worked hard getting him off Viagra and he is a stud but I am always keeping him where he should be. Flirting, oral and just being all that I have been for all the years we have been married. A man wants to age far quicker than a woman but a hot woman can keep him just where he has to be....And I do.

Now I am sending this without a chance to look at it or the chops will burn.....

[rcoreyus]

I couldn't imagine turning an opportunity down - unless I was ill. .

Me either. But some people just seem to not have as much interest, based on what I've seen posted here.

[rcoreyus]

I am not aware if your libido was different from the start of your relationship or if you saw signs of this earlier. If it was there, then chances are it would not change. That is the problem with so many couples. They think they can change the other person and they can't. ..

Unfortunately that pretty much sums it up. Her libido was always much lower. It wasn't all that bad, and I hoped she would change. We were (and are) perfect for each other in so many other ways. But her libido has decreased with age, mine hasn't, and now there is a really big gap.

[C]

We are not two people that are so in love we just fall into each other's arms. I work at keeping us where we are. I am sure he does too but that is probably by ignoring me when I sound off. I keep him sexually where he is. From the day I married him I have always tried to remember that this man out of all the women that he could have married, asked me to go to the ball with him. I have tried not to turn him down sexually but believe me over the years he had plenty of not tonight dear's. But he would usually start sexually touching me and I would be shot. A woman is tired but if she gives herself a chance to be brought to heaven she will go. But she fights herself for some unknown reason. She is so sure that she will not like what she can grow to love. Sexual bonding is the most wonderful pleasure in the world..

Today I learned something about my husband. We had not had sex for 4 or 5 days and I was hot. He offered me a finger F. I won't tell you what I said to him about his thought but just think???? Yep, you got it....I was annoyed. No, I was PO. He quickly got my drift. I knew that he was a sexual stud but all work and no play makes John a very dull boy......Well John can get dull but Jane is not going to... so we agreed it was time to go to bed. His excuse he had chased me all our life and been turned down and so it was my time to chase him......About the lamest and dumbest excuse of all time but I accepted it and assured him I would chase him down at least twice a week to plan on it for the rest of his life.......After today and what I did to him and he to me, I do not expect any arguments..........

If one sexual partner has to be the aggressor, so be it. Don't let the other one die out. My husband would have come after me very soon when his brain cells woke up, but I was not going to wait. Today I showed him why I was not going to wait and wore the poor man out......But like all sexual partners, he loved it.

I tease my husband. I flirt with my husband. I talk dirty and drive him wild. I think so many of these things are the reason that we are who we are. I look at him as my lover of years ago. We know not age but I wonder where do couples lose this. This thing that I have remembered others have forgotten and it frustrates me so much.

I did not want to babble here but wanted all to know that you must work all your life in a marriage to get where we are. It does not come overnight. The first sign of one of you losing interest in sex, help the other one out. But you must do this is a sexually smart way and not throw it in their face. I love nothing more than the challenge of getting in bed with a soft man and watching his face as I suck and lick him hard. I loved it a few months ago when he told me I could suck a statue alive.....I will agree...I could....But all women can, not just me...... I love to lick him and drive him crazy as I finger him and tell him how big he is. Build up the confidence of years gone by and maybe some of us women need this from our men too.

I wish there was a quick fix but it is a lifetime fix that must be started and never let go. Stay lovers all your life.....I never want to sound like a big mouth know it all here and I do hope they have a blog soon so I don't do this again......Please forgive as I just try and help....

[baseball guy]

Rcoreyus,

Try the fish oil diet. I think it will help your wife and make you both happy.

[commonsense]

UL,

I hear you loud and clear. I think a lot of women and some men to have close to no libido at all. My wife bless her soul has rarely ever wanted sex in her whole life (She's 35). We had a fight about it one night last fall and she told me alot that I didn't know. I ran across another board with a group of women taking fish oil with great sucess. During a second fight about sex, I mentioned the fish oil diet. I sold it hard also mentioning the multitude of health benefits of fish oil. She agreed and the rest is history. We were in Vegas this week with 2 other couples, she starting taking the fish oil and vitiamin after diner and my SIL asked what she was taking. She told them the whole story beaming eye to eye, quote " I used to do it for him, now I do it for both of us" "The O is stronger and longer"

IThis diet has helped my wife at least one coworker and one friend of mine. I will be glad to answer any questions you have. This has made me a very happy guy.

Regards!

I heard about this. Haven't tried it yet though. Heard it's the DHA levels from the fish oil that does this. Naturally increases the testosterone levels.

[baseball guy]

It worth a try

The Orgasmic Diet Book says you need a base of EPA fatty acids for the DHA to do its work. I know it has helped my wife with more than just libido. I can tell she enjoys sex so much more know. Also her skin is much softer and smoother. The tough part of the program is caffiene intake for my wife.

BBG

[sweet30s]

I think all marriages fall in a ¨sexual slump¨my advise as a woman, sometimes we women need a shake. What I mean by this is that you need to tell her if she doesn´t agree to therapy it is a temporary separation. Many people say sex is not the only thing but I beg to difer, sex is the only thing sacred, intimate, in a relationship. I believe your wife might be going through something, either mentally health wise. My husband could not get an erection for about 6 months, we finally went and told a DR, ran tests and turned out his testosterom was very low. Now we have hit a slump again, this one has lasted 1 year, he is depressed. So now he is seeking therapy, why? because I gave him an ultimatum!! But it sounds like all else is going for your marriage, so try not to cheat. Believe me I have it on my mind more than once but is the risk worth loosing a lifetime of memories? of a future? of making the children suffer? of begining the painful process of who gets what? no its not. So hang in there, seek help medically, she might be suffering of some hormonal stage or a underlying depression.
The true secret to a succesful marriage is surviving all the rollercoaster rides it takes ou on!! Good luck, I empathize with you.