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    Hello friends , i have married since last year and everything going fine between us, but many times my husband ask me for anal sex...as i always feel doubt full about this...so pls friends tell me is this really hygenic..??? and if yes than i heard its lot of painful..please who ever have such experience please feel free to share....i want to know about this stuff..i used to get addicted of sex and day by day my husband wish makes me feel bad...i tried once but i feel lot of pain and we stopped.. Please give me ur valuable replies regarding this ..so that i make myself comfortable. i saw porn movies with my husband and i m much open minded
    thanks

  • If you've tried it and didn't like it, then just don't do it. However, if you still want to try this, do a search on this forum. There have been many discussions that you can read up on and then if you have additional questions you could ask.
    That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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    • thanks claret for the valuable suggestion.. i want to say as my husband likes too much and during last 2-3 months avoiding him for this i feel he is loosing interest and day by day i got addiction of sex...when i see ****** ********ING in porn it will excite me and i want to try...may be i feel reluctant just because of pain at all...

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      • Anal sex is perfectly hygienic if you follow simple rules. First, feces are not stored in the rectum or anal canal. Just make sure that you are clean (a simple wipe is fine). Showering before hand is also a plus.

        Second, once he enters your anus, he cannot then enter your vagina. The bacteria in your anus is incompatible and you could get an infection. He will need to clean up before he does.

        Third, use the right lubrication. There are lubes specifically for anal sex (Pjur makes one called Backdoor). He should put lube in your anus and have lube on his penis. The anus does not self lubricate as a vagina will during sex. If you need more, make sure he knows.

        Fourth, being relaxed is also critical. If you tense up down there, it will hurt as he enters you. The entire anal play needs to be loving and the two of you need to communicate.

        Fifth, porn is not reality. Though anal sex can be very enjoyable, thinking that it will be as depicted in a move is just wrong. These are paid actors and the scenes are highly edited.

        Sixth, start slow. When he is giving you oral sex, have him lube and stick a finger in there. See if it is pleasurable. There are also anal beads that you can use while the two of you are having intercourse that will give you the same kind of feeling. I also suggest analingus. A great preparation for anal intercourse is to feel his tongue around and in your anus. If you enjoy the feeling, proceed.

        Seventh, go slowly. Have him enter you bit by bit until you are used to him.

        There are lots of books on anal play. You should order one and read it together.
        "The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"

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        • hey effy really thanks alot dear..u realy cleared out my all doubts in one reply..its realy being very helpful for me...thanks alott...now after reading these points i realy get excited to experience again in a much better way

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          • Anal sex is wonderful and better satisfaction than vagina sex. Of course anal in a human OUTlet or waste outlet. Cleanliness is a must. My Wife and me have quite frequent anal sex, she love it and she managed to climax 90% of anal sex session. Sometime she ask for more and climax few times in one session of anal sex. Every time she climax, she make sound much louder than vagina sex's climax.

            Yes, first few time you might fail but doesn't mean that you'll fail all time. Get you partner to do it slowly with more lube. better you be the pilot rather than your partner. I believe you'll enjoy it one day.

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            • Well Sweetsalty first of all lots of lube should be needed. The best thing to do is go to adult book store and get your self anal plugs they come in different sizes. Really small to pretty good size or even anal beads as well to play with. I stress have husband go really slow with a pinky finger begin sure his nails are trim short and clean. This process will take time it doesn't happen right away if you having lots of pain stop and try again later or another day till you can do anal without any pain. But like a say anal toys always work well to get a custom to feeling something in your anus. So good luck in your adventure with your husband in this position. When you do achieve this the orgasm can be very intense for you when it happens for you.
              When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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              • Sweetsalty I agree with everything effy, WH and motorguy say.

                Sexual preferences and tastes vary so much between people so what works for one may not work for another. You've got to go with what feels good for you.

                Having said that, I just have to share than in my experience anal sex is the most intense and deeply satisfying experience I've ever had. I first tried anal at 17 (I'm 30 now) and I can't imagine sex without it. Don't get me wrong, I love vaginal too, but anal is so much more intense for me. I love the feeling of being penetrated and stretched, and that feeling is so much more intense with anal. Anal feels like I'm being penetrated to my deepest and most vulnerable core. I love to play with my clitoris while receiving anal. That always results in the deepest, most intense orgasms for me, I usually orgasm and squirt multiple times when I do that.

                I like to give myself an enema before anal sex so I know I'll be clean; I've never had a problem with that. Like everybody says, use lots of lube and go slow. I guess it's from my experience but I find my anus accepts penetration pretty easily now. It helps me to push down like I'm trying to poop when the penis first penetrates me. That seems to open the sphincter muscles up and makes the initial penetration easier. I find that my anus and rectum relax pretty quickly after that and there's no pain or discomfort then. If fact, I love to get pounded really deep and hard after that until I have an unbelievable orgasm.

                Just sharing my experience. It may not work for you but it's worth a try in my experience.

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                • Hi to all! I had that anal sex you know and now I face a problem.
                  I live in a small city in Ukraine not so far from Kiev where we know each other very well and we never discuss such things!
                  I'm being just in panic! My friend Boris who's two weeks back from Africa where he worked on some oil depoisit had some symptoms such as stomach pain, high fever and ache in his muscles and we first thought that was sort of flu. But then he started vomiting blood. We called the emergency and they took him into hospital on suspicion of some malfunction in his stomach....
                  Now I'm having endless hiccups, terrible headache and diarrhea... well and sore throat too! I suspect this is sort of some virus and maybe I got it.... well when we were in one bed.... when you know...... I had that anal sex for the first time..... May it be some infection passed in sex or what? I'm so scary and so nervous about it. Does anyone here have you any clue to it? I just hate it to go to the doctor and tell him these things you know.....

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                  • If your intimating that your friend brought back e-bola then you MUST contact the state run health care authorities immediately. If you EVEN think it, you must call them NOW.
                    That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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                    • Relax and slowly. You have to use a lot of lube though. Some guys suggest cooking oil but I've never tried it. Anyway, I'm happy with my "traditional" sex

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                      • In my country hardly can buy sex toys and is to use or sell prohibited. Anal sex is also prohibited in my country but I believes many practices secretly and enjoy secretly. Only small numbers of wives reported to police and landed their husband to lock-up and jail.

                        I really admired those countries allowed and free to practise what they want, like and comfortable with.

                        My country maybe due to diet we eat (Hot & Spicy), sex libido is quite high and sometime wife cannot accept her partner demands and some landed to police because of sex abuse.

                        I did practise secretly and we really enjoy. My partner knows what to prepare, do before and after anal sex. Of course Lube is very import and always has a tube beside bed drawer for easy access.

                        Anal Sex can be very painful (Sharp Pain) but worth to try and enjoy in a life time. Just like Thailand, Pataya T-Shirt printed" Before Die MUST Go To Pataya" I believe you know what is mean.
                        Regardless how pain the first or second time, make yourself think positive and will enjoy after the second time. Do not think Negative. Think positive means, forget about pain you suffered before and how to overcome the pain in future. I believe many of our forum friends had advised, the technique, method, how, where, position and so on.

                        Make yourself comfortable with, go along with your partner, give signal and pilot your partner, you take the control. I believe some male partners are too aggressive and caused major damage to anal sex session. He might be new as you. have a small chat when time is right and work together. Chat not necessary on the bed or during bed time. It can be anywhere (a bit privacy place when time and place is right). The best is next morning after having a fantastic sex session night before.

                        Uncircumcised and circumcised penis might have some affect when start to enter the heaven hole. Some men has long fore skin etc. do some home work to find the best way. happy trying.

                        Hi friend, I might change my USER name.

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                        • I have never done anal ever in my whole married life with my husband. He never had the inclination to ask me, or me to ask him. All through my life I had never thought about such practices but I have read all about anal on this thread and on similar ones on this site and I agree that many are engaging doing this.
                          At one time I would have thought the practice revolting but now have a clearer mind about it and should imagine it could be fun.
                          I am, as, thuoc-giam-can; says ‘I'm happy with my "traditional" sex’ But who am I to criticize as being a married woman aged 51 who only took a lover into her life a year ago and has done several things that I would never have done only a year ago. It has taken me over a year to perform oral sex upon my lover, a practice that I also used to think revolting, but since I have preformed, giving it, I enjoy it immensely. So I would say to sweetsaltyruch listen to all who have given you advice here and make your mind up yourself.

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                            • I've never had anal sex. My g/f has...a lot. She has told me about it, undoubtedly to entice me in to having anal sex with her.

                              Her first experience with anal sex was with one of her first boyfriends. She was in love with him. The first time was painful for her. They figured out how to do anal sex. Eventually she found it to be pleasurable.

                              Before I get too far, the poster who wrote that feces is not stored in the anal canal is not entirely correct. I almost always will insert my well lubricated middle finger inside of her butt as far as I can get it while massaging the inner ridges of her vajayjay and licking her clit to explosive orgasm. More than once I've had to wash fecal matter off of my finger. In fact, at times I could feel it inside of her butt

                              I've given my g/f an enema more than once. She was on meds that caused constipation. She couldn't give herself one. She asked me. She told me that when she was in college, most of her sorority sisters did anal sex. I'm guessing that anal sex was a whole lot better than getting knocked up. One of her sorority sisters told her to do an enema if she were going to have anal sex. I believe she told me that one of her boyfriends used to give her an enema before he had anal sex with her. Apparently he was more poop paranoid than was she. To me, that would be a huge turn off. Not the enema part, the part that enemas cause.

                              If you were to listen to her, especially after she has finished a bottle of wine, you'd think you'd be talking to an anal sex expert. She has told me that she has had anal sex with about a half-dozen men, maybe a few more, most of whom lost interest in it after a few times. Lubrication is crucial. Silicon based lubrication is the best, at least according to her. She has asked me to buy a bottle and keep in handy for finger insertion.

                              She loves her butt massaged. I do it most of the time without penetration. She said anal sex begins with butt massage. Then one well lubricated finger is very slowly inserted. When she's relaxed, another well lubricated finger is inserted. Apparently this is important: you apply lubrication to his member. I was told that you can't use too much.

                              She said that her first few attempts went wrong for many reasons, one of which was that he tried to shove his member inside of her butt. She learned to take control. She initiated insertion and controlled how deeply he inserted his member until she was completely relaxed. Apparently, after that it's like vaginal sex.

                              She's told me many, many times that men love anal sex. I know that she's told me that in order to entice me to try it with her. I think she wants to take away my anal sex virginity. But here's reality: at my age, I'm good for one. A couple hours later, I'm usually good for another shot. I know that after she cums many times, she wants vaginal penetration. If I were to have anal sex with her, it'd be a long wait until I was ready to bang her brains out. The other way would be to bang her brains out then a couple hours later do anal. But when she's had many orgasms and has had rough penetration (she loves rough sex) she's usually done for the evening. So I'd doubt that I could get her in the mood for anal sex

                              Fecal matter is beyond extremely dangerous. In fact, it can kill. Septicemia is deadly. When patients suffer ruptured colons, they're rushed into surgery while pumped with strongest antibiotics. Feces in a vagina can cause a very severe infection. She told me that after anal sex, she insisted that men shower. She showered with them. She scrubbed them clean. She never trusted them to properly clean themselves. Only after she was certain that their members were clean would she allow them to have vaginal sex with her.

                              From what my g/f has told me, men love anal sex, so it comes as no surprise that your husband wants to try it. I've recently read an article that was based upon research. It indicated that many more women are in to anal sex that was expected. The thesis was that women are more likely to admit to anal sex than pervious generations, that the percentages have remained close to constant, that women are more open about their sexuality.

                              I asked my g/f why men and she love anal sex. She guessed that anal sex is tighter than vaginal sex. That could be; however, vaginas are very strong muscles. She has a very tight vajayjay. My guess in that her butt couldn't be tighter. She enjoys the feeling of sensual pressure caused by a man penetrating her anal orifice, and she especially enjoys the naughty aspect of it. She has told me that she's had explosive orgasms while a dude's member was deep inside of her butt and either he or she massaged her clit to orgasm.

                              Since she as all but begged me to bang her butt, if circumstances were right, she might steal my anal virginity. I am curious because she has told me that men love anal sex. Another thing she's told me is that most of her middle-aged friends have anal sex with their husbands or boyfriends. She's told me that it's not taboo.

                              Hence, my advice is if you're good with it and are knowledgeable of how to proceed, give it a try. I'm sure that it'd make your husband love and cherish you even more. Next time you're shopping in a Target or Walmart, venture down the feminine products aisle. Indirectly steer your husband to sexual lubricants. Look for silicon lubricants. Then look him in his eyes and tell him that you want him to bang your butt. I'd bet he'd immediately sport a huge woody.

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