[sawshark]

Hello.

I am a guy and i love my girlfriend a lot. She satisfies me a lot and i want to satisfy her a lot too, everything i do i cant make her ejaculate. We try stuff out and i have licked her at the spot she likes while fingering and also having sex. We are open about our relationship and talk about everything. Its both our first relationship so we figure things out and learn as we go but i need real advice from the source, that is why Im here.

At sex she also doesn't enjoy much because i guess i am too and as she says in general. Her vagina is really sensitive all the time and Im telling her to just do it herself and she enjoys even if it hurts at beginning cause im too big, but after she go faster while i dont move so i wont hurt hur, it still hurts her and after it hurts her like 4 times she stops being wet and it just hurts all the time after so we stop. At licking she also enjoys but as she says in both its like the pleasure doesn't escalate but stays the same. She likes pleasuring me a lot but i don't just want that i want to return it because i love her and make her feel the same way. She masturbates alone after because thats the only way she can ejaculate.

I would appreciate any help on this topic. I know a lot about women but not when a girl is that sensitive and we can barely have sex.

Thank you for reading!

[raindancer]

If she can get an orgasm on her own, but you can't give her one, my guess is that whatever you're doing, you aren't doing it in a way that is really good for her. You have the best of intentions, but perhaps, not a technique to match. But that, with your love and good will, you can acquire, no worries.

For instance, you say you lick her where she likes it. But it isn't just about geography and finding the right spot. There is the pressure you apply with your tongue, the moisture you apply, the direction of the movement of your tongue, the speed of your movements, suction/non suction and at what intensity, changes in rhythm, or not, etc. Same with fingering.

Same with intercourse. It isn't just a matter of the size of your penis and going slowly, or fast. It is how moist she is, the direction of the movement, the mind factor (is she relaxed enough), the hitting, or not, of cervix... and so many things, I'd be writing another gigantic post of mine if I'd go into details.

And, of great, huge importance: the atmosphere. The way you make her feel when you're having sex.

When I have a new man to play with, I take it to explore his body to find the right spots, the way he likes to be touched. It takes a lot of time, even with my age and experience. I'll experiment with all parameters again and again... and again, for good measure. But while doing so, I don't let any anxiety transpire. I'm not anxious. I'm having pleasure in exploration. I'm not putting him under pressure to perform, nor orgasm. Atmosphere is very important in sex.

Now, about ejaculation, what exactly are you talking about? An orgasm? Squirting?

Remember: atmosphere is very important. No anxiety. One can't relax if one's lover is anxious.

Good luck.

[Lexhill]

I don't know what you mean about ejaculate for your wife. If you mean a sudden flow of some kinda juices. Don't stress it, care about the sensation instead. If things are not wet enough for things to feel good there are a lot of different lubes that can be used both edible and non edible. the edible good when you want to have oral stimulation as well.

Other then that I would maybe try to be very gentle when having sex. slow motions and careful and playful actions. I know that have worked well for me in pretty much every sexual relationship. This will let her sensitive vagina relax and savor the pleasure instead of feeling violated. But after my experience very few girls like it hard, rough or straight inn and out at once. They usually need more foreplay to be lubricated and ready for pleasure, while men need a erection and a little lube/spit/body fluids and we are good for whatever. And from my experience the quick, rough or hard handling is more a psychological turn on then pleasure. while the slow easy going is much more pleasurable.

Try to use time in each face a time everything from the cuddling,kissing to some oral action, then when things are really wet some slow and careful intercourse. Maybe it will help. Best of luck to you two.

[sawshark]

We do everything normally and every time we have sex she dripping. But then it hurts her because im thick and stretch the opening and the pleasure just leaves and becomes dry. If we use lube on the lips will it stop hurting? What else can we do so she can be in less pain while having sex?

[sawshark]

But how the pleasure is going to escalate if we just do it slowly? We also tried that and we kept having sex slowly for 1:30 hour and it was nice and i kept meditating to last, but after like an hour for her it became boring and she says in general she doesn't feel much pleasure anyway with sex.

[Lexhill]

I don't know sounds like you need a women's perspective on this. I never heard about anyone being to thick before. I would use the lube on your equipment and not on her lips. This will make things glide a lot easier, and maybe make it better.

[sawshark]

Well Im not THAT thick but still it hurts her.