[newmommmybella]

My bf and I are both 21, both with high sex drives but lately our sex has declined. He is in the military so we don't get many chances to have sex, especially since we have a 6 month old daighter. When he is home, we usually have sex as often as possible, I thought it was great for the both of us. Turns out it is not! He said he rather sleep..and almost every time I tried to initiate it he had some excuse.

I have only had one partner beside him and it was usually just quick straight to the point, and that was my bf of about 5 years ago. He on the other hand was 19 dating a very experienced 25 year old. And has had 3 partners altogether. I told him I was willing to learn if he was willing to work with me. He said of course he would.

Im sincerely hurt, I feel like hes been lying this whole time about enjoying sex. I feel embarrassed as well and honestly dont feel like even having sex with him. He leaves back to base in 2 days so im really trying to look past this for now but I am just so embarrassed about it all.

I guess I just need some tips on how to let this go for now and some tips on how to be great in bed. He says great at oral, he always wannts me to but now im questioning that too. I even tried watching adult films to get some pointers but that stuff just isnt for me. It was uncomfortable to watch.

Please help ladies, I feel like this has put a strain in our relationship. It is a long distance relationship, we have a young child and we dont have many chances to have sex. I think sex is very important in our relationship however I dont think either of us can enjoy it after that conversation. He never said I was bad in bed but I explained ive only been with 1 other and thats why im inexperienced and he just said he was with that girl who was much older so he learned.. please help ladies. Any tips or tricks?

[effy2014]

Did he tell you that you were bad in bed and that is the reason her would rather sleep then have sex? Please let us know what he told you.

I have two suggestions. First, if he is the experienced one, have him teach you what he likes. Porn is not real life. They are scripted movies. He should be able to show you what he wants and desires. I just can't believe that inexperience is the real reason he wants sleep.

Second, there are lots of books out there to read. Tickle His Pickle by Sadie Allison is one book that may give you some good information. You may also like 126 Sex Positions by de Viaje.

[kira]

Sex problems are usually relationship problems and relationship problems are usually communication problems. You can't get better watching porn. First it's completely fake and majority of it doesn't work in real life and second each person is unique. You need to find out from him what he likes and he needs to find out from you what you like. That means talking about it.

[jilljames8184]

The military can drain a person, both physically and emotionally. Try letting him sleep to clear his head and rest physically; then treat him in the morning to a "wake up" oral session. If it is just physical and/or mental stress, he will be rested and really like what you are doing for him. If he doesn't respond favorable then there are some other issues you two will need to work out.